I fell so bad
 

for women at times. If its not one thing its another for women. Now you have to wonder if the gay you date is gay, bi or on the DL.

I think a soul mate is one that you can share everything - all your hurts, secrets, dreams, aspirations, short comings, hate, love and sorrow. A soul mate is one that balances you and makes you feel there is nothing that you can't share with this person.

I don't think you find your soul mate by searching but he or she comes to you because God already has it in the plan. Ladies, wait on the Lord and he will direct your path.

Re: I fell so bad
 

^5 Professor! Thanks! :D ;)

Soul Mates . . . Do they exist?
 

I firmly believe in soul mates, and let me tell you why. My mom met my father when she was just 12 years old (he was 13)and she knew then that he was her soul mate and they didn't even speak. Now if you are like me you would initially think she was a stalker, but she just knew and 42 years later (married happily for 34 of them) they are just as much in love then as they are now. I grew up thinking that that is how love goes and sadly I have had my heart broken searching for that one soul mate, a love that hits you upside your head so strong that you wake up happily married for ten years with 3.5 kids. To say the least I have grown out of my idealisc fantasy about love. I am not bitter and yes my soul mate and I found eachother. I still believe in love and I now know three things about soul mates:

1. everyone gets two great loves of their life, 1 that you let go of and one that let's go of you.
2. soul mates move in and out of your life, you have to be open to the possibility of having such a connection with someone that it scares you (everyone has a little stalker in them).
3. if everyone waits until they find their soul mate to get married one of two things could happen, either the divorce rate would be significantly lower of the number of unmarried women would be astromnomical.

Great Topic!

Re: Soul Mates . . . Do they exist?
 

Soror, I think that there is no such thing as a single person who is one's soul mate. I think that there are "soul types" for lack of a better term. This means, I think that there are types of men that any woman could happily spend the rest of her life with. I think that it's really a matter of just meeting your "type" and there are more than one man who fit any given type so no I don't believe in a single solitary person who will be a "soul mate."

Don't be bitter. I understand what you are going through and have felt the same way. At this point, I just don't care anymore. I found that I was spending so much of time focusing on what I don't have that life was passing me by. I know that it's hard and there is not enough hobbies in the world to take the place of a man and a good relationship but just try to focus on the positives in life.

SC

Can your relationship with your "soul mate" strictly remain on the platonic level? Or does your "soul mate" have to be your "man/woman"?

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sure - look at us - you've yet to give me any :D :p

I think it can be a platonic thing. I have a friend that I am confident was my soulmate. I always prefaced by saying he will be my soulmate husband or soulmate friend. We are just destined to be a part of one another's life. We just click.

LMAO @ Professor! :D

He He Hell! :D

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I guess so, huh?!?!?

No. People can develop feelings for people that are no good for them, never mind someone who could change their life in magical ways. If I felt intrinsically connected to someone on all the requisite levels (which, I would think would define a soulmate), and had an idea that they felt something similar toward me, it wouldn't be possible for me not to go for it.

...if I thought the person didn't feel the same way, I could maintain a platonic friendship, but it probably have to be at a distance for my peace of mind.

I know it's hard, I did the long distance thing with my boyfriend all of last year. I hated it- by the end of the year i was loosing weight without dieting or exercising. It just was not cool. But I still think it was worth it, because when we finally did get together it was always beautiful and still is. I'm currently contemplating altering my plans so I can stay with him- I dont know yet... now that we've spent 4 months together and seeing him everyday I can't even think about living without him again. I know it'a my life and I know I would survive but I dont know. I would really love to see you give it a chance... if you truly dont see yourself putting in the time then dont something better will come up. If it doesn't in two years gets the running straight back to Mr. Man if he's your soulmate he'll be waiting...with flowers the ring and the works. :D

nothing's wrong with romantic dreams

nachural

Can your relationship with your "soul mate" strictly remain on the platonic level?
 

Yes! So life tells me. My soul mate and I are not together for reasons I won't disclose, and it is just a platonic relationship now. Long story short we missed the boat and now we are just dealing with the fact that even though we see deep into eachother's soul, we can't be together. Whoa-as-me!

I guess soulmates can remain platonic.

I personally wake up to my soulmate every morning. But there is a male friend of mine who has told me that I am his soulmate. Now, I am just feeling this guy as a friend, but he is just certain that we belong in each other's lives, etc. How can that be?

Also, one of my good female friends says all the time that we are soulmates too. Now we do seem like sisters, like we've known each other forever, but does that mean we're sister-friend-soulmates? Help me out...

I have a friend JUST LIKE THAT! I do think he may be my soulmate. But I feel somewhat that I'm more ready than he is. I fear that, there may come a time when I have to walk away from him. He realizes that we have something so special that it is beyond words. Yet, if he does not catch this flame while it still flickers, it may just fade away. (sorry, I'm an English major.)

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