Ninjapoodle,

I will, I really will check my messages!

Serioussigma22:)

Dear Sisterfriends,

You ladies probably know this, but someone out there might not. At one point I certainly didn't: don't ever get so desperate that you end up accepting whatever comes along. And when he does, check his azz out thoroughly!

This morning, with no intention whatsoever, I went to my state's corrections department page. I had no idea that they kept a database of every offender either imprisoned now or paroled.

Anyway, since any member of the public can access this page, I typed in the last name of my ex, chose the year of birth that I knew, race, hair color. Nothing. Oh, well. Then, thinking a little harder, I changed the hair color from black to brown. I got a hit.

Looking at the profile, I knew it was him, even without a photo. Although the crime for which he was incarcerated had nothing to do with me, the information on the page uncovered two more lies he told me -- I finally know his REAL name and his REAL date of birth (right day, right year, wrong month), stuff no decent man would lie about!

Yes, ladies, I'm learning basic information 10 years after the fact. Ten years after a lot of depression, anger, and withdrawal.

In short, have fun, but do the homework!

reel 'em in, soror!
 

how soRHOr ninjapoodle got her groove back...
my advice is always the same-- be your BLU-tiful self, head held high, radiating all the qualities you hope to attract-- and all the best the dating game has to offer will come to you...
AND if a fine young strong gentlemen approaches you, you may want to give a brother a chance, even if he is 10 years younger--once again, let's refer to the title of our story: "how soRHOr ninjapoodle got her groove back"!

Re: reel 'em in, soror!
 

http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/lach.gif

LOL!!! Soror, all I can say is Thank you!(actually it's a six year difference but who's counting? :D)

NP.

Check it! ;)

Re: Approaching someone
 

You answered your own question!;) Girl, ask that guy out. The worst that could happen is he would say no. If you don't ask you will never know. After you talk to him about your car, you could slip in the fact that you're hungry and ask if he has had any thing to eat. if he says he has, offer to go out to lunch on another day unless his girlfriend or boyfriend (hey, you never know these days) would object. If he has not had any thing to grub on that day, offer to go to a casual resturant and see if he is game. :cool:

Good luck, Be yourself and Have fun!

Great advice! Ninjapoodle!

1browngirl - just be yourself, have fun, and enjoy the date!

Serioussigma22:cool:

P.S. Welcome to greekchat and our message board!:)

"Good luck, Be yourself and Have fun!"


I forgot to add, be confidant!

BTW, how did it go???

My advice is........
 

Whenever you go out on a date with a new guy or visit him/have him to visit you.....make sure that you give at least two of your friends or family members:

1) his full name
2) a physical description
3) his address (at least the side of town that he lives on)
4) his place of employment
5) the make/model of his vehicle (it wouldn't hurt to tell his license plate number either, but that's only if you are able to get it without having to ask him for it ;) )

Also..... when the date is over, call a friend or loved one to let them know that you made it home safely or whatever.

I know that I may sound paranoid but, with the increase in date rape, kidnapping and even MURDER :eek: , you MUST let someone know where you are going and who you are going with.

Excellent Advice...
 

Re: My advice is........
 

In all my giddiness, I forget important things like this. Thanks for the reminder. BabyBlue91 has an excellent point also.

I thought this was worth bringing back up because there's some good advice here.

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