When I was lavaliered, my Sinfonian boyfriend just went to the University Book Store and bought a lavaliere of his letters. (Guys' frats were all national, so they could do that, while we local sorors had to place special orders every spring after getting our pledges.) There's probably a) stuff at your union bookstore; b) a local jeweler who makes them; and/or c) a fraternity-run store that has all of your letters, decals, official shirts, etc. that should carry fraternity jewelry in a range of Karats and colors. We also had a local shop that made Valpo shirts, block letter shirts, and carried some stuff for paddles and keychains and the like; they may have had lavalieres too.

It was always private stuff for us, and I don't think his brothers did anything except provide moral support (some) before he bought the thing. They'd abolished the practice of driving to the Dunes and tossing the guy into the lake, so he just had to pony up enough money to the social chair to buy them a ton of beer or something. :rolleyes: He doesn't remember much else.

Anyway, he wrapped it up in pink sheep ribbon left over from my halloween costume, and snuck it into my coat. We were in a school bus riding back from a "run for the border" date party when I felt something in my coat pocket, unwrapped it, quietly bugged out, rewrapped it, and put it back in my pocket.

The next night we had a rose pass (pretty much like a candlelight) where I announced that I'd been lavaliered. The social chairs of Sinfonia and DXE got together to plan a lavaliering party (and the PMA guys came to serenade me outside the sorority dorm the following Thursday), and my husband and I each picked out a set of letters for a new PMA letter sweatshirt. When we had the party, I wore my new letters, we partied, and then about an hour into the party the guys sang to me again.

I *think* we had a pinning party, following the same order of events except with no new sets of letters (-grin-). I actually pinned him before he pinned me, and at that point I gave him an athletic-style sweatshirt with our letters and sorority name on it (which he did wear).

Oh, and if you're both greek, engaged, and have good singers in your fraternity, have the guys serenade you at your wedding reception. It makes all of the other relatives swoon, too.

*Bump*

My mom told me she knew I was getting engaged when I told her my fiance lavaliered me. (She really didn't get it even after I told her, so she Googled it.) She said after reading the Wikipedia entry, she knew.

So I decided to check out what Wikipedia had to say. This thread is apparently the source for that Wikipedia entry. LOL. I dunno, I thought it was funny, and thus had to share. :)

So my boyfriend of 2 years wants to lavalier me. The problem is he lavaliered a different girl 3 years ago (obviously it didn't work out). I don't even know if this is allowed or not? Can you lavalier two different girls while you are in college? Anyone have any idea? He is a Sigma Chi.

Thanks!

If he really wants to lavalier you, I would think this would be an issue for HIM to figure out.

Tell him to ask his brothers.

Also, boo to "discussing" being lavaliered. I thought lavaliering was supposed to be a surprise?

That's what I thought too. As if lavaliering another girl didn't take some of the magic out of it, knowing before hand sure did!!

My boyfriend's in Triangle and we are very serious, but I don't know if Triangle lavaliers since they don't have greek letters. He gave me his "letters" to wear a month or so ago, and all my sisters keep asking me if I'm lavaliered, but I don't even know if I can be! Does anyone know? Thanks :)

Here is an idea, what about asking him?

My husband is not in a social fraternity. He "lavaliered" me by giving me a little heart-shaped pendant. My chapter celebrated it like any other lavaliering.

I don't see why your lavaliering should be treated any differently just because your boyfriend is in a fraternity that doesn't use Greek letters. Run it by your boyfriend to make sure he agrees that giving you his letters is his fraternity's equivalent to lavaliering. If so, talk to your chapter's ritualist about a candle lighting.