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Hi! I've never posted on here but I've been reading for a while.
I went through Rush last year (Fall 01) and one of the girls on my floor was cut after the first round. The Rho Chi's knocked on her door in the morning. She knew when they knocked that either she or her roomate had been cut. She opened the door and they were like "We need to talk to you" So she went with them and they told her that she was cut and that they were so sorry.

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Welcome to the boards PiPhi Julie! :D

I know when a girl on my floor was cross cut her Rho Chi called her and told her that she had been cross-cut and then they apologized and directed her to the counseling center. They also told her they would turn her name in for COB. She was really upset and I know it had to hurt during bid day because we lived in the dorm right across the street from where all the sororities are! Cutiepatootie, don't worry about not recieving a bid! Just be yourself during rush and it will work out the way it's supposed to.

Jess

what does cross-cut mean? I have never heard that!

Almost everyone on my hall recieved bids, some did not take them bc it wasn't the house they wanted, but I can only think of three girls out of about 40 on my hall that were totally eliminated during rush.

the way it was explained to me was she put XYZ first and ABC second on her pref card. ABC had her pretty high up on their bid list and XYZ had her pretty far down on their bid list. Both of the chapters hit quota before her name came up. It's pretty rare when it happens and someone who didn't go to my school told me it shouldn't happen, but it does.

If anyone else can explain it better please go ahead and post! :)

Jess

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After they told her she was cut that was about it. My dorm was across from some of the sorority houses also. I know it was hard for her because her roomate and most of her friends joined sororities. We rarely have COB at my school. She didn't return for the second semester. I felt so bad for her. She coped pretty well. She went with her friends on Bid Day when they received their bids and she was happy for them when they got their first choices but when I went back that night to get something she was in the hall crying on the phone. I wish good people didn't get cut. :(

PiPhi Julie, where do you go to school? It sounds like something that happened at my school....

I go to Ole Miss.

I had gotten cross cut and while it was upsetting I immediately found a new home with AXO-it all turned out well and I was very very very happy :) :)

I kinda like how we do it at Clarion. We have pref on Saturday morning, and all afternoon we do bid matching. For 15 minutes that afternoon/evening, the pnm's are told to stay by their phones, they will be called if they didn't match...if they didn't receive a phone call, the go to the student union at like 7 pm. Then we have all the girls wait in one room and the sororities wait in another room. One by one, we call all the girls into a thrid room, and we say, "XYZ has invited you to join their sorority...." They then sign their bid and are taken into the room with all the sororities and are presented: "This is jess_pom, the newest sister of Phi Sigma Sigma..." and everyone claps and your sorority cheers and hugs you and stuff.

After all the pnm's get their bids, the RC's are revealed. And then everyone goes back to their house and heads out for the night... I had a lot of fun on my bid day, and I thought it was really special. It's not as devastating, I guess, as being that person who got a bid from a sorority they didn't really want. You don't have to be presented, I don't think.

As for the question about pnm's not getting bids and being told that, I'm worried about that, too. I'm a RC for the fall, and I don't really know what I would say, plus I would feel sooo bad about it...:(

I kind of like the way we do it at my school, because it gives girls time to calm down a little bit after recieving bid cards. We hold rush in the student union, because we don't have houses. All the sororities are in their rooms, and the rho chi groups are in their own rooms. The rho chis go into the hallway and call girls out one at a time. Then they give them envelopes with their bid cards in them. Then they either come running back in to tell everyone, or they can go to the bathroom if they're upset. But eventually everyone meets back in the room, and the rho chis will take all the new members of one sorority and run them through the building to the sororities room. It was a lot of fun, especially since I was so excited to get my KD bid card!

For our bid distribution, everyone in our rush group signed up for a time to go meet up with our rho chi (sorry, sorry, recruitment counselor :p ) the day after prefs. The rho chi would call you by 10AM that morning if you had not received a bid. If you got no call, you were supposed to go at your scheduled time (but I got to go a bit early because it didn't take that long.) I met up with the rho chi one on one in a room, and she handed me an envelope with my bid card in it. The next day, my big sis dropped off a little gift and a note for me at my dorm, and she called me to tell me what time she would pick me up that night and what to wear for the whole bid night thing. That night, I got to meet all of my wonderful new sisters :).

I was one of those girls who got cut, for the most part during rush in college. (For an idea of what rush was like at the time - 1987 - the thread is "How is rush supposed to run?")

I must have been a real fish out of water. The chapters I *thought* I was getting along really well with didn't extend a bid. I received a (reluctant, I found out later) bid from the one chapter I knew I didn't get along with. It wasn't a knee-jerk reaction, I put as much thought into this as I could given the circumstances.

To receive bids, we were told to go to the Student Activities Office on a certain day and time. No PX or anything, just pick the group you wanted that picked you, or not. When I saw that one disappointing card, I had to suck it up. I'm not good at fighting back tears but I think I held some dignity together, even though it was clear I was upset. It was a tough choice for a sophomore alone on a humongous campus: join a chapter you didn't feel you could bond with, or go GDI. I went GDI.
The second "sucking it up" was back in the dorm. The other girls I had rushed with all got their bids. I'll not elaborate on that part.

I've done a lot of things in life, but this is one episode I've wished many times I could do over. Even though I have no clue what I could/would/should do differently, if anything. Sometimes life works out for a reason--it took a *lot* of years before I could say that with some conviction. <g>
Today, I'm ready to try again, this time as an alumna. If I do get initiated and work with a chapter, I hope the hard experiences I had can be put to use to help other girls who also have to make those tough choices, or who had them made for them.

Hugs,
Adrienne
:)

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Don't know how they do things at my school now as I pledged eons ago. At that time, we all gathered in an auditorium and received our bids (don't recall if girls with no bids were called ahead of time or not). We would open our bids and sign our pledge card if we planned to accept our bid, then the rush counselors (not called Rho Chi's in those days) revealed their affiliations. We then met up with the counselors from our house and headed over to the house. Now, I don't know how the other houses did things, but we did the same thing the entire time I was active. The sisters were all lined up inside the front door and up the front stairs. The rush counselors let the house know that they arrived. Then one new pledge at a time would come in the house. The girls in the house had no idea how many were outside. Following pref, we would assign a sister for each girl on our pref list. If your girl came through the door, you would greet her, and start to get her acclimated to the house. After all the girls were announced we would then have lunch at the house.



DaffyKD

I have seen many of you ask what do you say to someone who didn't get a bid. I was a Rho Chi this Fall. One of the women in my Rho Chi group did not get a bid. When I called her to tell her, she was okay. She told me before I could even finish that she knew that was probably going to happen.:eek: (She has Single Intentional Preferenced) When I had offered her a snap bid, she turned me down. I really didn't need to comfort her. She was picked up by the sorority that night during COB. (LONG STORY. :mad: )

As for how we handled giving out the bids...The PNMS arrived at University Center at 5 PM. We recited the Panhellenic Creed, since they were joining the Panhellenic Community first. There were some speeches. Then the Rho Chis handed out the envelopes to their women in their groups. If anyone was upset with their choices, they could talk with their Rho Chis. When the PNMs filled out their cards, they signed it then saying they would accept whatever sorority was listed on the card in the envelope. When we were sure that everyone was okay with their bids, we headed to the front of the University Center.

The five sororities were outside making as much noise as they could. After a very short countdown by the Rho Chis, the new members ran to their new sororities who had t-shirts and gifts for them. Then the Rho Chis had a short skit to reveal themselves. After which we joined our sisters again. Then everyone went off to celebrate with the new members at our Bid Day parties. :D