Kateee, I am just catching up and continuing to wish you well. Kevin provided a more concrete outline for the letter than I did, which should be helpful. I also recognize that you are a devoted member of your organization, which, taking the long view, is an asset and deserves mention. You may wish to cut back on non-sorority extracurriculars (other than physical activities -- exercise is good) so that, until the academics have righted themselves, your focus is not spread too thinly. Continued best wishes to you.

I'm sure that if she was taking any kind of pain meds or antihistamines for the sinus infections/tonsillitus, that almost certainly exacerbated the depression issues. Getting that under control should help a lot.

Katee, definitely get in touch with the academic counseling center at your university - showing you have a clear plan in place is a point in your favor. You have to pull yourself up by your own bootstraps, don't count on others being there to help you. Life is too uncertain for that.

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So sorry for the double post! I should clarify, we met Saturday mornings to practice before competitions but would usually compete around dinnertime, so it was an all day affair. But I had lots of time to study on the bus and the president of my sorority was the captain so she kept me on track ;) haha. Winterguard is very new to my campus, as is our marching band in general (4 year old marching band, 2 year old winterguard). There are only 2 other schools in our division as well. It would be nice to compete against more.

Sorority probation advice aside, I'm genuinely shocked that you were sick and seeing a doctor who you didn't have that doctor write a note explaining the situation to your Dean or advisor and the registrars office to appeal the grade.

I had a mental breakdown during a semester and just stopped going to class, I failed every single one. When I was healthier my psychiatrist wrote a letter and I wrote a letter explaining what had happened and my grades were switched from an F to a medical withdrawal.

I know you're still deciding what to do. Have you considered taking the fall semester off to work on yourself. Maybe get into some counseling, find some support networks, you can do volunteer work. Really just take time to be introspective and figure out who you are and what you want to do.

Kateee, I think you are wise to reevaluate your entire college career at this time. Maybe it would be best for you to take a break and resume when you are at 100%. It sounds like you are incurring a great deal of debt to pay for college, so you will need to obtain gainful employment upon graduation in order to repay that debt. With extremely low grades, the chances of getting a good job are significantly diminished. This could lead to severe financial woes that could follow you for much of your life. That could certainly exacerbate depression, as well as get you off on the wrong foot. You need to try to think ahead to what is best for you in the long run, not just the next couple of years. College should be the foundation for a better life, not the first step to financial ruin.

Maybe HQ and your chapter officers can just read this thread and you won't even have to write a letter.

Why, oh why, would you think it's a good idea to go to a Greek message board for help with this? Local, in-person support would be much more appropriate.

katee, considering your circumstances and your overall academic history (good freshman year, tough sophomore year) I am willing to bet that your chapter will work with you for a positive outcome. You're not one of the "party girls" that thinks this whole scholarship probation is a joke and really doesn't care about grades.

Initially I felt the exact same way, but she has received great advice and support in this thread. She may not have gotten the same response had she kept it local, in person.

Or she may have gotten the same response had she kept it local, in person. Maybe posting this on GC will receive a negative response from her chapter. Who knows. Good luck to the OP.

/lane swerve

True.

Her chapter is small enough that I doubt any of this is news at this point.

She is also not in an area where people are immersed in figuring out how to handle every sorority issue imaginable from dawn until dusk.