| ErikaXO |
01-10-2002 09:06 PM |
Even if you guys were planning to get back together, when he qualified the whole reunion thing with "don't get your hopes up" he left the door open for you to hook up elsewhere. What were you supposed to do, sit around and wait while he figured out what HE wanted? Basically what he was saying to you was "I'll be back as long as something better doesn't come along." Another possibility is that he didn't want to get back with you but didn't want to hurt you, and by crying "cheat" now he can lay the responisbility for not getting back together on you, almost as if you dumped him.
If you think there is still hope and you want to work it out, sit him down and explain to him that once you are on a break, until you mutually agree that you are back together (not just thinking about getting back together) you are free to do whatever with whoever. My hubby's ex pulled this whole bit on him. They had not gotten back together but were still occasionally hanging out. She showed up at 3 am for a booty call one night just 2 or 3 weeks before he and I started dating and I guess she thought that because he had sex with her that meant something. Let me tell you, she was soooooo shocked and indignant when I came on the scene and he told her to step off because he had a girlfriend. (Mind you, the reason they had broken up was that she had been cheating on him!!!!) She acted like a total psycho and told everyone how the evil Chi O bitch had stolen her man......whatEVER!!!!!! He had no claim on you.....do NOT feel guilty.
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