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aephi alum 09-21-2013 12:12 AM
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Originally Posted by southernau (Post 2241400)
When did these shorter "pledge-ships" begin? I only became aware of it when my daughter pledged a few years ago. Her GLO still has a semester pledge-ship, which she was thankful for, but the majority on her campus did not.
As others have said, it depends on the GLO. At my school, in 1993, one out of four NPC sororities had a full semester pledge period, and if you didn't make grades, you didn't get initiated. By 1994 they'd gone to the "just a few weeks" pledge period. When my local became part of AEPhi in 1995, we were one of the first new member groups to follow the newly-introduced 6-8 week NM program.

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Originally Posted by Just interested (Post 2241431)
Like someone on gc said once in another thread and it is the best analogy I have ever heard. Are you "in it for the wedding or the marriage" Please give it some time.
Very well put!

cinder1965 09-21-2013 07:54 AM
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Originally Posted by Just interested (Post 2241431)
A piece of advice from a very old alumna. As someone said up thread, it takes working together for common goals that bonds are formed. I think even though I made friends among the new members, it wasn't until "rush" the following year and the excitement of Spirit Week and the teamwork it required to pull it all off that I finally "got it" and now almost 50 years later those bonds are stronger than ever. Why, because I stayed involved and continued to work for common goals as an alumna.

Like someone on gc said once in another thread and it is the best analogy I have ever heard. Are you "in it for the wedding or the marriage" Please give it some time.

Absolutely THIS....in 50 years of wisdom you learn a few things. :-)

UnsurePledge 10-14-2013 10:23 AM
Hey everyone! Thank you all so much for the wonderful advice presented in this thread. After a lot of thought, I decided to be initiated with my pledge class. The night of my initiation, I felt so much love for my sorority and the women in it. During the ceremony, I absolutely knew I had made the right choice.

I think one of my problems was I fell in with the "wrong" group of friends. I made a huge effort to be more involved in my sorority by joining committees, eating meals at the house more often, and volunteering for a philanthropy event. I met lots of other girls who I clicked with better. As for the religion aspect- that will never really go away, but I'm learning to handle it better. I've always been a little different from the majority of my peers, but the best part of being different is that my friends and I can learn from each other!

To anyone that may be reading this thread that is considering dropping: please, PLEASE give it some time and effort. Work really hard to be involved. The women in that sorority extended you a bid, so at least respect them enough to give it an honest effort. I truly believe that every kind of woman can find her place in a sorority.

*winter* 10-14-2013 10:33 AM
That's really awesome!!! Congrats on finding your home and making it work :)

rockwallgreek 10-14-2013 10:45 AM
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Originally Posted by Just interested (Post 2241431)
A piece of advice from a very old alumna. As someone said up thread, it takes working together for common goals that bonds are formed. I think even though I made friends among the new members, it wasn't until "rush" the following year and the excitement of Spirit Week and the teamwork it required to pull it all off that I finally "got it" and now almost 50 years later those bonds are stronger than ever. Why, because I stayed involved and continued to work for common goals as an alumna.

Like someone on gc said once in another thread and it is the best analogy I have ever heard. Are you "in it for the wedding or the marriage" Please give it some time.
Some of the best advice I have ever heard!

thetalady 10-14-2013 12:18 PM
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Originally Posted by UnsurePledge (Post 2245763)
Hey everyone! Thank you all so much for the wonderful advice presented in this thread. After a lot of thought, I decided to be initiated with my pledge class. The night of my initiation, I felt so much love for my sorority and the women in it. During the ceremony, I absolutely knew I had made the right choice.

I think one of my problems was I fell in with the "wrong" group of friends. I made a huge effort to be more involved in my sorority by joining committees, eating meals at the house more often, and volunteering for a philanthropy event. I met lots of other girls who I clicked with better. As for the religion aspect- that will never really go away, but I'm learning to handle it better. I've always been a little different from the majority of my peers, but the best part of being different is that my friends and I can learn from each other!

To anyone that may be reading this thread that is considering dropping: please, PLEASE give it some time and effort. Work really hard to be involved. The women in that sorority extended you a bid, so at least respect them enough to give it an honest effort. I truly believe that every kind of woman can find her place in a sorority.
What a wonderful outcome & mature attitude! I am really happy for you and your sisters!

Delta Love 10-14-2013 01:16 PM
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Originally Posted by UnsurePledge (Post 2245763)
Hey everyone! Thank you all so much for the wonderful advice presented in this thread. After a lot of thought, I decided to be initiated with my pledge class. The night of my initiation, I felt so much love for my sorority and the women in it. During the ceremony, I absolutely knew I had made the right choice.

I think one of my problems was I fell in with the "wrong" group of friends. I made a huge effort to be more involved in my sorority by joining committees, eating meals at the house more often, and volunteering for a philanthropy event. I met lots of other girls who I clicked with better. As for the religion aspect- that will never really go away, but I'm learning to handle it better. I've always been a little different from the majority of my peers, but the best part of being different is that my friends and I can learn from each other!

To anyone that may be reading this thread that is considering dropping: please, PLEASE give it some time and effort. Work really hard to be involved. The women in that sorority extended you a bid, so at least respect them enough to give it an honest effort. I truly believe that every kind of woman can find her place in a sorority.
Congratulations! I was also unsure about sorority life when I was pledging and decided to throw myself into it 100% before deciding to quit. I also fell in love with my chapter when I did. It's a great feeling :)

MTSUGURL 10-14-2013 01:52 PM
I'm so glad that this has worked out for you! Congratulations and I hope you love it more every day.

azureblue 10-14-2013 02:39 PM
Good for you! You are going to be such an asset to your chapter. I am so glad that you hung in there...you won't regret it!

Just interested 10-14-2013 07:32 PM
I am absolutely thrilled for you. I know you have many happy years of membership in store.

ADPi95 10-14-2013 07:56 PM
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Originally Posted by UnsurePledge (Post 2245763)
Hey everyone! Thank you all so much for the wonderful advice presented in this thread. After a lot of thought, I decided to be initiated with my pledge class. The night of my initiation, I felt so much love for my sorority and the women in it. During the ceremony, I absolutely knew I had made the right choice.

I think one of my problems was I fell in with the "wrong" group of friends. I made a huge effort to be more involved in my sorority by joining committees, eating meals at the house more often, and volunteering for a philanthropy event. I met lots of other girls who I clicked with better. As for the religion aspect- that will never really go away, but I'm learning to handle it better. I've always been a little different from the majority of my peers, but the best part of being different is that my friends and I can learn from each other!

To anyone that may be reading this thread that is considering dropping: please, PLEASE give it some time and effort. Work really hard to be involved. The women in that sorority extended you a bid, so at least respect them enough to give it an honest effort. I truly believe that every kind of woman can find her place in a sorority.
I wouldn't be surprised if you end up being one of the most involved members, both as a collegiate and later on as an alum. The time you took to reflect on this decision shows how serious you are in your commitment to sisterhood and I have no doubt you will make the experience worthwhile. Congrats!

AOII Angel 10-14-2013 07:57 PM
Congratulations! You just proved what I ALWAYS say...you get out of it what you put into it!

etadrisophila 10-15-2013 08:19 AM
Congratulations! Thanks for coming back to share your story! Now... Time to change your GC name and continue to share your wisdom!


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