Look, for a lot of women, this is their first big rejection. It's okay for them to feel lots of things, many terrible. It's okay for them to say things, to their rho chis or their moms, or even their close friends. I'm not going to fault any of that.

The thing is, after the feelings, after the venting, THEN, it's time to put on your big girl pants and give the other chapters a shot.

I'm ok with a little bit of feeling bad, but, you are right, you got to grab those big girls pants and get to moving :cool:

The thing is, you have to look at the bigger picture and do some math.

If you meet 10 girls from a chapter of 50 and don't get along with any of them, does it mean that is not the chapter for you? Probably. That's 20% of the membership you are not digging.

If you meet 10 girls from a chapter of 160 and don't get along with them, does it mean that is not the chapter for you? Probably not. That is a much smaller percentage - 6%. A lot of times the girls on here who say they didn't "feel it" are talking about even fewer numbers of sisters they met and even larger chapters. That's like saying all the clothes at the mall are ugly after walking into one tiny boutique and not liking it.

I mean, I would completely understand if someone at my alma mater (very small system) would say "I met this sorority and they are not right for me." But I just can't envision walking into a chapter of 300 people and saying that NONE of them will be someone you could call a sister. The law of averages doesn't support it.

But the law of averages is logical and PNMs are not dealing with logic-they are dealing with emotions.

I know....that's why you have to try and be logical before rush starts and you're thrust into emotion-land. It also doesn't help when you don't have anyone else around other than people who are going through rush either as PNMs or sisters, but that is another thread. :)