As long as you're emotionally ready for whatever happens and comfortable with your decisions (and being SAFE), whatever floats your boat = my philosophy.

You cant love unless you give it a chance. It would really depend on the two people I guess. I'd never hold it against(no commitment) a girl if we had sex on the first night. If it feels right and you both connect why fight it. :) But then I must admit you are taking a risk.

Okay, but say it with me. Its not MUCH better to be safe than sorry. Take on me. I'll be gone in a day or two.

In seventh grade(Seems like yrs ago, but it was only 7) I went to a Christian school. My teacher(Male) said we females should carry a mini Bible with us when we date- apparently he did this with his daughter who was 16. Once in the car place the Bible between the two of you bc then the guy would have to pass Peter, Paul, etc to get to you-then he isn't worth it if he trys-I can't remember his theory,but basically keep the distance.
I never did that.
I think the hardest part about sex is once you've had it you want it again and again. How I wish to be a virgin!!!!

that is so true! and not only that you want it again and again, but its just EASIER to keep on doing it after you've already done it once because you don't have the sanctity of virginity stopping you

I'm not going to agree with either side. I am sure there is a time and place for everything and what happens, happens for a reason.

I do think that prejudging any situation can be dangerous. I have never met a guy that I had that much of a connection with....but I have never met Brad Pitt, Tom Criuse...etc.

Cannot say I wouldn't until I'm married and wouldn't consider having another relationship...and for the guys, I have never met a man who didn't want to on the first date...it also depends on age. In high school couples waited years, college shorter, after college, it coudl be before dinner!

IF you have never tried it, how would you know if you missed something or not? ;)

I am not saying all girls but many girls do get emotionally attached to someone that they sleep with. To have a one-night stand with someone and then have them ignore you the next day would be absolutely heartwrenching. That is why many girls opt not to have one. I think that's what Cream meant when she said she'd rather spare herself the heartache.

That's what I meant.

its nice to see some women have heart

I know what she meant I just like to tease people ;)

Yeah, I haven't slept with anyone I haven't A) been in a relationship with, or B) known for a long time, and trusted. I can't say I'd never ever ever sleep with someone I'd just met, just because in a lot of things I hate saying "never" because you never know - but in this day and age, the fear of disease (and some you can catch even with condoms...), etc, and emotional ramifications if both parties didn't have the same expectations keeps me from doing so. But that's just me - I'm not about to judge someone else for their (consentual) sexual tendencies - like I said, as long as you're being emotionally and physically safe, whatever floats your boat.

And a big fat word to whoever said sex is addictive...never would have thought so before I started having it, but WHAM, there it is. Although there was no "sanctity" in virginity for me - I waited 'til I was emotionally ready, because I didn't want to jump into something I couldn't handle, and that was it. But I'm no more or less inclined to do it now than I was in the brief period after I felt emotionally ready but was still a virgin (aside from the fear of pain I had at that point, which yeah, OW).

Anyway, I'm rambling. Shutting up now. I'm sure there's a point in there somewhere; a gold star to whoever finds it. :p

Oh James, you're such a big tease!:D :p ;)

I dont mind it when a girl sleeps with me on the first date or even before the first date. I expect access to all three inputs on the first date.

The problem is when you find out that she has slept with every other guy on the planet on the first date.

I would never have sex with a guy on the first date, especially if I thought there was long term potential.


And, let's say I did have sex on the first date with a guy who I thought would be just a fling and he ended up asking me to marry him, I would say no.

I couldn't marry someone who would have sex with me on the first date.

I completely agree with the you have to wait to know him and love him and then have sex if it's going to be a meaninful relationship (for me).

However, three of my best girlfriends have married guys who they slept with on the first date.

So, statistically speaking, that could never happen to me sine it's already happened to so many people I know.

Honestly, I would sleep with someone if I knew of had an idea that it wouldn't go anywhere before I would sleep with someone I thought I might really like on the first date.

That sounds effed up but oh well!