Irish, I was not criticizing you. :). I was just opining on this trend where girls assume they are entitled to a rec because they signed up with the local AP group.

I think your feelings and reactions regarding this pnm are dead on.

Well, my soft side took over and I decided to give the PNM a chance to explain herself so I sent her an email expressing confusion that she only listed 6 sororities when there are more than that at her school. Do you already have recs for the other groups? Her response: "No I don't have recs for the other groups, and I would love to get any recs I can, but having gone through recruitment before, and being a sophomore, I just listed the ones that I really want to make sure I have a rec for. Thank you so much for any help you can give me!!"

Oh mylanta.

I am writing two recs for girls going to Alabama this fall. One of them has a pretty light resume but lots of contacts and is a legacy to a chapter there. The other girl has a really strong resume from a very small high school but is a first generation college student and knows very few people at Bama. They are both very outgoing girls and look quite similar to each other so it will be interesting to see how recruitment goes for both of them.

I have a question about the picture page one of the girls has given me. The page is a bit more stylized than usual and of the four pictures on the page, two of them will not help her cause (prom pic and just a really cheesy one.) The other two are nice but if I cut out the other two pics I will have to cut out one of the others, as well. Should I leave the page as is or just include one close up picture?

Leave the pic page as it is. Chances are that other rec writers will have the same one so it will end up in the chapter's hands anyway.

Irish- I laughed/groaned out loud at you're conversation with the pnm! I hope you will keep us posted on her recruitment results!

Aaaaannd I just got a request and her picture must be from a debutante ball or something. Lovely and tiny girl, dress the size of a big fluffy Mac truck, her sitting on the ground is said dress with the fluff surrounding/swallowing her up. It looks like a tiny tick's head with an engorged body. Why??

Def no rec, if possible at this point. Her stupidity has trumped her GPA. For all you know, she's been sleeping with the president's ex.


I have a smallish posse, four so far, but that's big for someone north of the Mason-Dixon Line.

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[QUOTE=gee_ess;2155512]Leave the pic page as it is. Chances are that other rec writers will have the same one so it will end up in the chapter's hands anyway.

Thanks!

I just got another packet from a lovely young lady going to Alabama. So far no Auburn recs and I usually have far more of them than Bama.

Oh dear, from now on she will be remembered in rec sessions as " marshmallow girl!"

^^^ This!

I find myself in something close to this situation kind of frequently. What I try to do is ask myself if the chapter would be helped by her membership rather than what her cluelessness actually deserves. So if clueless wonder gets cut by her super desirable chapters early in the process and realizes that she now kind of likes my group, does she have the kind of traits in general, despite her pre-recruitment silliness, that make her worth recommending? If so, then I recommend her as well as I would have has she not been so ignorant. Because I think often that's what it really is. They just don't know any better. They should, but they don't. And some can be educated.

Biologically they are women, neurologically they are still growing. I too prefer to give them the benefit of the doubt whenever I can do so without cringing.

My crew has expanded some more. I've now added an Auburn girl and one going to Oklahoma State. :)

Thanks again to all you gals who have joined my FB group and volunteered to do recs! Tremendous help, ladies, and I can't say it enough.

As for PNM/rec stories, I and some other sorority alums were once kind of told by a PNM's mother that our services wouldn't be needed. We were at a mutual friend's party and the mom was talking about daughter's acceptance to one of the most competitive SEC schools. Several of us offered to do recs, but mom just smiled sweetly and gave us that "oh, thanks but no thanks" expression. She said daughter already knew which sorority she wanted and was "pretty much guaranteed a bid" because she had friends in it and that "they just love her."

Well, they didn't love her past the first party that was followed by heavy cuts. The girl was dropped from recruitment, sadly, but she went into a big SEC recruitment with no recs and that's what happens. I know another girl who did the same thing last year. She not only went into an SEC recruitment with no recs, but she also went in as a junior. I don't have to tell you what kind of week she had. Again, she thought friends would seal the deal for her.

Yes, but it's one of those things where inviting Rude Rita means that the chapter doesn't invite Sweet Sally. It's a little harder to give someone the benefit of the doubt if it is at someone else's expense. I agree; these are still children in a lot of ways, but I think you could make a case for a no-rec just as much as a case for sitting her down and educating her.

:maniacal laugh: I have finished that pile of recs on the table!:D

Next week the girls are coming home to do the Grand Rec-Writing Party so I can chase their kids while they buckle down to their piles!

As of now I have Mizzou (2), Auburn, Florida, South Carolina, Arkansas, Alabama, Georgia (3) and Ole Miss recs....this is the most I have ever written!