Well, we now know a pretty decent case where this happened. Melinda Warren's story (the great Harry Potter one) where her friend Parvati had a bid to Slytherin and had to later turn it down, and Melinda went bidless. Now, Melinda was dropped from the system before pref, so it's a little different. However, all Melinda had before that was Slytherin, so she could have (in theory) had that bid that Parvati had taken

Neither am I. It says what to do with ANY woman who fails to attend events on ANY day. Again I say, if they are making any woman who fails to accept an invitation leave recruitment, they should be reported.

Granted, it causes problems so they make the PNMs think they have to attend them all or they will get, at the least, ostracized. And they should. We all know that the ones you love on Day 1 are not necessarily those you love on Day 3. But reality and perception are two different things.

Perhaps PNMs are strongly encouraged to attend all parties because you don't want to blow your QA eligibility early on in the game by ditching a party. You might be in a situation where you do like all three chapters and rank them all, but you can't be a QA if you ditched a round 2 party.

The thing is, the way the system works is some people put in a bid on some of the houses in the neighborhood, and so the sellers take them off the market because they are likely to be sold soon. Then, there are less houses on the market for sale, but the potential new homeowner still wants to 'live in that neighborhood' so she has to visit the houses that didn't overwhelm her with joy at first, because she still wants to live there. Note, she does not have to live in that neighborhood, and can go elsewhere at any time. But if she wants to buy a house in that community, she will follow their rules. It is to make sure all the houses get sold, in effect, and that more people can become homeowners.

Obviously this is not a perfect analogy, but you get the idea. It's to maximize placement. Often young women will think that they are above a certain chapter and because recruitment is such a stressful and first impressions based time that PNMs often make snap decisions not knowing all the facts. The reason RFM works the way it does it to give that young woman a little more time (and a little more information) on which to base that decision, because for whatever reason that PNM may have not wowed the sorority that she had originally favored. There can be mistakes made on both sides (bad first impressions, etc), but mostly, the system works. And now more women are getting placed in homes, so overall it seems to be working the way it was intended to, even if it isn't perfect.

I thought with RFM, if you made it to pref, you weren't taking anyone's spot - that there were spots for all

There are...it's just an excuse to keep from admiting the truth...

Talking invites here, not bids/MRAA etc.

From the Green book: (Page 83, 15th addition)
Doesn't seem to be any reason to report anyone. Where are you getting that?

My $0.02...

At my school, if you skip a party, you are released from recruitment.

I understand that it doesn't seem like mutual selection if a PNM can't cut, but the chances of her being happy if she gives her lower ranked groups another shot with an open mind are significant, I think.

I think if she is going to for sure decline the bid, she should suicide, because it is taking a spot from another girl.

Nobody has brought up the other side of the equation, though.

Under RFM, chapters are also STRONGLY ENCOURAGED to issue the number of invites allowed them under RFM. If chapters under-invite, I believe the GL office is supposed to notify the national organization.

Now, I don't think chapters are required to have a bid list of a certain length, but in the early stages, chapters may be taking a second look at PNM's who didn't excite them at first if their dream girls don't choose to return.

There are "spots" i.e. bids, for all girls who go to pref... but those spots may or may not be with the chapters that they want to join or will accept a bid from.

It says may. It doesn't say that you will be released from recruitment nor that it is required that you be released. Again, if they are doing that, the AA should know about it. What's wrong with doing that?

Why would you report something which isn't against the rules?

The reason to require pnms to attend all parties is to do all you can to enable them to make an informed decision. Chapters cannot cut pnms without meeting them at first round parties - they need to make an informed decision. Same with the pnms - and we all know of pnms who changed their minds about a chapter over the course of recruitment.

I give..whatever...let them just release whomever they want for whatever reason they want. No need to question anything.

It's perfectly 'legal' to release them. This isn't a "no need to question anything" situation. The process is overseen throughout. Because it says "may" it means that a campus "may" enact those rules. A later section of the green book provides sample rules for recruitment including:
For Chapters
For PNMs
Although this doesn't list the consequences, the previous bit did. I'm confused why you're assuming it's wrong and should be reported just in case, when it's really not uncommon on campuses in general AFAIK, and is permitted- although not necessarily required - by the manual.

I was going to bring it up. As much as it may suck for the PNM to have to attend a party that she doesn't like, it sucks a HELL of a lot more for the sorority to be buffaloed into asking back women whose presence at a party could turn off the PNMs they DO want. Especially when the Rho Chis (and people on here) keep saying things like "look around at the other rushees! Those will be your pledge sisters!" I'm glad no one ever said that to me or I might have made really horrendous decisions.