This happens a lot with a family member. It's so awkward and awful. You just want to go hide.

Yes you do. My husband and I have actually been known to cut social outings short because of that because we dont do that to each other and dont like listening to it.

LOL this reminds me of a similar awkward situation. When you're leaving work and making general small talk with a co-worker, but somehow one of you gets into a story but then you arrive at the exit and you two are going opposite directions so the person telling the story has to wrap it up super fast and then it doesn't make sense and it's really pointless and awkward. This has happened to me (both being the story teller and story listener) a few times, haha

Y'all polite folks... lol I think the harshest thing I've ever said about my spouse in front of anyone else, including family, was something to the effect of "Grr...he's driving me crazy." I don't air grievances about my spouse to anyone but my spouse.

I can't stand when other people do that around me. I always try to redirect and, if it has gone too far, I'll intentionally offend the person. For instance, I'll say something like, "maybe it was your fault." People really just want someone to side with them and, when you don't, they usually move on.

You should. :) I will never understand people who come into a venue with a band, pay a cover and then proceed to chatter on like they're in their living room. Especially at this one very intimate place (yinzers - Club Cafe) I have turned around and told people to be quiet. It's REALLY stupid in this particular case, as there are about 50 ookabillion other bars within literally a step or two where no one is going to care if you talk over the jukebox. The only instance I can think of when conversation is acceptable is a cover band/party band at a huge bar and everyone's dancing.

In the words of one of my favorite facebook groups, "Shut the f^&% up, the band is playing."

-ex-band girlfriend/live music lover

33 girl, I have to chuckle. I never pay a cover to go to a bar where there is a band playing, unless it's a band that I want to see and I'm specifically there for them. If I go to Bar A, and there's a cover for a band, we go someplace else. There has been many a time when we go to a bar, sit down with our drinks, and then see a band setting up later, and I feel like it's time to go. It's a very rare occasion that we get out of the house to go enjoy adult conversation for a while. I don't intend to sit there and listen to a band (unless that was the goal for the night), we want to talk, so we'll usually leave. I just feel so weird sitting there listening and staring at a band that I dont want to listen to (esp if they're horrible!)

Like I said, the fact that you do feel awkward shows that you have a brain in your head. :) I know sometimes if you're in a small town though, your pickings for nightlife might be sort of slim.

I only feel awkward about certain situations up until I have to deal with it. If there is a rule in place then I don't feel so awkward about it anymore. I put on my big girl face and deal with it.

For instance the other day a classmate and I needed a study room and there was only one girl in the study room. The rule is one person cannot occupy a study room if there is a group who needs it. I put on my big girl face and asked if she had anyone else coming. I checked back an hour later and realized she lied about it so me being the person I am got a student worker to handle the situation.

As far as not remembering names. I boldly apologize to the person and ask their name again. And that is ONLY if they decide to talk to me. If someone is just waving then I'll usually wave back and make haste while trying like hell to remember.

What I do feel awkward about are drunk people. I experienced my first drunk person a couple of months ago. She was really upset and kept dialing a guy she liked. I felt really awkward about it at first but then I became pissed at her behavior and that's when I got ethnic :o with her.

Ummmm...... what @ the bolded?

1. Listening to people argue with my co-worker. She works right next to me and deals with people in high-stress situations literally all day. She is the event scheduler for our building and people are constantly miffed because the space they want isn't available, or they got accidentally double-booked, or they want amenities the building doesn't have. It's so painfully awkward to listen to and sometimes I have to go take a walk around the office if someone is being really nasty. I could never do her job, but she loves it and is really good at dealing with difficult people.

2. When someone posts something awkward or offensive on your wall on facebook. The other day a guy I haven't seen since high school made a weird, racist comment on my wall. He was trying to be funny but it was totally inappropriate and it wasn't anything I wanted associated with me. I deleted it and I was praying he wouldn't post something else about the deletion. My Mom, who wouldn't post anything offensive but frequently posts embarrassing TMI-type stuff, will get annoyed if I delete anything she writes and will invariably comment on its absence.

Call 'em out on it! I have a range of FB friends and it's pretty common for someone to say something offensive/insensitive. I try to use these opportunities to open dialogue. You might be surprised at how confronting these situations on FB can make you more bold in confronting similar situations in public.

Like.

This.

I've been dealing with a lot of this lately because I've gone on a few interviews and people ask about them but then seem sad. I try not to bring it up with my student teaching buddies but if they ask...

Maybe I used the wrong terminology. I'm meaning to say that I "went off on her" cursing and all...

I knew what you meant.

kik :p