Originally Posted by Alumiyum (Post 2010768)

There's always the option of...just not reading them.

Originally Posted by Chicago88 (Post 2010777)

This may sound silly but does posting questions about a certain university rush look bad?

Originally Posted by Chicago88 (Post 2010780)

Ok so just general questions not specifics

Originally Posted by Drolefille (Post 2010771)

No shit. You'll note I did not say "Don't do it because i don't read them."

They end up being hilarious and dramarific because PNMs are dumb, moms are helicopter parents, and no one's special snowflake is that interesting. Nor are GCers actually "helping" when they're flat out wrong about campuses they've never attended but are internet experts on exactly how dress A will look on PNM B.

And retro ones are just boring and rarely get finished. Really what's the point in a blow by blow except as mental masturbation, or a circle jerk by the other GCers - to use a metaphor.

Originally Posted by Alumiyum (Post 2010787)

The point is that not everyone shares your opinion. Nor does everyone else think having interest in the stories of others equates to a "circle jerk".

If they want to post about something they're super excited about, more power to them. If they hurt their own chances in the process, that's on them. If they take only advice from anonymous internet posters instead of also asking their recruitment counselors or Greek life office, that's on them.

Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn (Post 2010789)

Here's the thing. Some people are expecting these things to be a big public blows up on GC when they go wrong, but that isn't always the case. The stuff is happening off of GC in the real world in real time. That was definitely the case of the situation this last fall. You would never know what had happened just by reading the thread here unless someone pointed it out to you and you were also able to read between the lines. It definitely isn't my place to point it out.

If you're the PNM and behave poorly here, that's one thing. You are the ultimate master of your destiny. But it isn't fair for anyone other than the PNM to crater her recruitment here.

Originally Posted by Alumiyum (Post 2010791)

My question is: how exactly is a PNM put in a bad situation by a parent who does not post their name, identifying information, or make stupid "that house must be skanks because they dropped my baby blah blah blah" comments?

I dislike the discouraging of parents who might legitimate questions or are excited for their PNM.

Originally Posted by Drolefille (Post 2010790)

I'm well aware that you do not share my opinion.

The stories are pointless, and never in the best interest of those involved. Only sometimes can they turn out to be neutral, they never truly help, and they frequently hurt.

But you're right, some GCers would just, like, totally, die without any update from specialsnowlfake28940. So feel free to say what they do add to the forum, or how they help the writers do anything. Or why they couldn't be replaced with an intro post saying "Hey I'm a new member of XYZ, I just went through recruitment and enjoyed this, that, and the other. One of the chapters had a hilarious skit, but even so XYZ had my heart from pref night on." Done.

No, instead we can hear the deep, innermost thoughts of the PNM as she decides what shoes to wear and tries to figure out which GCer actually knows wtf they're talking about when they tell her what to wear or how gauche her favorite dress looks.

Originally Posted by Drolefille (Post 2010792)

How is a PNM helped by having a minute by minute update of her recruitment on the internet even if you think* she cannot be identified. How is the parent even helped by that? There's looking for support and then there's recruitment threads. The two have been and continue to be very different on GC.

*And that assumption has been wrong very frequently.

Originally Posted by Alumiyum (Post 2010793)

To sum up your post: in your opinion these threads are pointless. Many people feel differently. I personally don't give a damn either way, but am happy for people that are excited enough to come talk about it and dislike the vehement and cutting remarks towards people who do wish to share. Again, more power to them. If they hurt themselves, that's on them...and it's a drawback of everything from this to facebook.

No one has to hear any "innermost thoughts" if they don't want to. I think I've read 2.5 of these types of threads the entire time I've been here.



Because she is excited and wants to talk about it? Why does it have to be a therapy session? It can be nothing more than excited individuals wishing to share and finding tips/advice on the fly.

Originally Posted by Alumiyum (Post 2010787)

The point is that not everyone shares your opinion.