An alleged reply from the individual who threw the "Wizard" out.

This is a really good example as to why guest lists are a good idea. Because they had an open party and no guest list, this organization is now facing some pretty serious allegations regarding a now admitted "drunk asshole" picking some kid to toss out of a party. And naturally, there are two sets of facts, both from people who would clearly have strong motivation to lie.

Another lesson here is crisis communication. This chapter obviously doesn't have or know their crisis communication plan. In a case like this, the chapter president, or maybe even the chapter's legal counsel needs to be the sole point of contact for the media. The member in question definitely doesn't need to be posting his recollection of the events in the comments section of the newspaper's website. Mr. Smith and Sigma Nu are now married to the admission that Smith was a "drunk asshole" who was looking to pick someone different looking out of the crowd and toss him out just for the hell of it.

I doubt anyone is getting sued or going to jail, but Smith's brothers probably aren't going to be very happy with them since they're probably going to have to spend several hours in some sort of ridiculous diversity workshop to pay for their brother's drunken assholery which took probably all of 30 seconds to complete.

The chapter did have security at the party. That's a nice letter that Smith wrote.

There are some things about the tone of his article. I did chuckle at "I'm a nice guy" as though that prevents being a homophobe. Also, saying things because you're angry and/or drunk doesn't make someone not a potential homophobe.

I'm also amused by the "drunk frat guy with too much testosterone." Oh how heteromasculinity amuses me.

He shouldn't have written the letter. As Kevin said, dealing with the media is better left to someone other than the person involved, and probably to an actual adult. There's even more "he said/he said" now, and as Kevin pointed out, both parties have a motivation to lie/embellish/omit.

Were there some homophobic slurs used? I believe it. Was it as dramatic as Wizard-kid described? I doubt it. I'm glad that Smith did acknowledge the stupidity of the incident, but he loses points for IMO leaving a few details out. Which is why it shouldn't be him addressing the media.

That's exactly what this is. He said/he said. We, who were not there, have no way of knowing the truth of what happened. This whole thing could have been blown out of proportion.
Gay kid gets thrown out of a party he wasn't invited to? Great way to get attention is to say it was because he was gay.
Fraternity boy actually does make gay-hate remarks? Cover it up by lying.

We have no way of knowing what actually happened. Either story could be plausible.

My thought is, if you don't want someone in your party, don't let them in the door in the first place.

Coming from a media background, I think it was very bad form, bordering unethical, to publish his name without knowing the other side of the story. There were no charges filed, no police called and no arrests made.

The name of the accuser should have been published. If you're not going to pursue criminal charges, it's not fair to hide behind a veil of anonymity and hurl accusations out.

Like I've said before, both parties are in the wrong, the fraternity alum more so for turning the altercation physical. But from the information that has been revealed, it seems like it was just a case of drunk kids being drunk.

These aren't actual adults? The '10 alum in question is probably 21 or older.

In reading the article, it looks like there's a consensus about the assault and slurs that were used. The disagreement is over why it happened and whether it was somewhat justified.

I chuckled at the fact that his name is Adam Smith.

Guest lists help, but not always. If this had been a guest list party, and the wizard kid would have crashed it and they threw him out, most likely the results would have been the same. Outsiders (including the police) don't care and don't understand that guest lists are a RM precaution. They see it as another example of Greek snobbery/elitism.

That is how he is referred to in the article. If they had given his actual name, then I would have used his name. I think that by stating his sexual orientation (which is his business, btw), it just made the whole story more sensational, like others have said.

How do we know the opposite is not true too? I really doubt this young gay man just innocently walked into the party without knowing the 'vibe' of the fraternity, or the fraternity culture on that campus in general. Like I said, I don't think he is as innocent as you are trying to make him to be.

No, it does not excuse what the fraternity men did. They were wrong for escalating the incident. But, I also think given the nature of how the situation occurred, they gay guy has to shoulder some of the blame too. If not legally, then at least morally.

Innocent of what? Innocent for what?

The way I've read your posts, it seems to me as if you are trying to say this gay guy unknowingly walked in on this off campus fraternity party without knowing the hosts, the attire, who else might be there, the reason for the party.

I mean come on. Before anyone of sound mind is going to go to a party, they are going to 'check it out first' to see if it worth going.

So, I am trying to say is that he is not innocent of not knowing.

No, re-read my posts.

Okay, I'll just take your word for it.....

This is what I stated.

LOL. I don't know why "innocent" has anything to do with this topic.

What sigmadiva is contending is that he had to know what he was getting himself into because he absolutely had to know that this was a heteromasculine frat boy party where wizard hats and gay dudes would not only raise eyebrows but result in an assault and gay slurs. That's silly.

I really hope this was a theme party or Halloween party. I don't know of anyone who thinks that wizard hat = freakum dress

Yup. He went to the party. A party he did not have to go to. He went to a party hosted by people who tend to have a certain opinion about sexual orientations.

When I was an undergrad at TAMU, I did not know about every NIC/IFC fraternity, but just by being on campus and interacting with some of the members and their associates in classes and thorough different orgs and friends, I picked the 'vibe' on a few of them.

I knew the ones that I could be cool with and hang out with them, and I knew the ones who were okay, but I dare not go out to their fraternity house for a party.