I just want to point out that your pledge sisters just got to college and are partying. That doesn't mean they won't settle down in a month or two (when midterms hit, perhaps?).

There have been silly movie/tv fantasies about Greeks ever since the dawn of time. What there hasn't been is people wanting to quit because they weren't BFFs with their whole chapter in 2.5 seconds after they got their bid. I know I've said this before, but the whole "you don't have to EARN membership, you are already a sister" mindset I think sets PNMs up to feel this way.

Well, you DID come off badly. It looks like you are bashing a group of women who were willing to take a chance on you. You want to go through rush, again? Make an effort to change the chapter around instead of assuming you will get in somewhere else. With such a poor attitude, please do these ladies a favor and just drop.

*What's up with all these new members being so self-absorbed as if their GLOs even owe them anything? Isn't it, you get what you put in?

I think that unless you are considering transferring, it would be best to stick in out in your current house if you want to be a member of a sorority. I am sure that there are some girls in the house that party less and are more serious about school. And you never know, people do change and could become your best friends in a year or two. Hang in there, and enjoy Norman!

There are always girls in every chapter who party, girls who like to study, and girls who are in the middle. Think about what most of the girls in your chapter are studying too -- if there are a lot of science/engineering/anything else where students tend to have lower GPAs in your chapter, chances are that the chapter GPA will be lower than another chapter with girls who are studying communications or something where GPAs tend to be higher. (I'm not saying that any majors are easier or harder than others, just saying that from my experience physics majors tend to have lower GPAs than comm majors.) If your chapter GPA is something that worries you, think about what you can do to change that. Can you tutor girls in anything? Get together study groups? Rather than just being mad about it and dropping, try and change it.

Cosign. My chapter was ranked quite low in GPA last year and it wasn't because we didn't value academics.

I'll also cosign on the fact that it took me a while to get to know girls in my pledge class and become close friends with them. It's hard.

There was also a girl in one of the recent classes who always talked about getting drunk, partying, and going out, so much so that it was brought up to me as a complaint (when I was President). Her grades were exceedingly high and there were no facebook pictures of her drinking, so she hadn't violated the RMP. Still, I was curious so I texted her that Friday night to see what she was doing. She was in her dorm, studying.

She had been so concerned with appearing "cool" she constantly talked about partying, drinking, boys, and everything else so people would like her.

You may find this to be the case in your class!

Pretty sad that you expect such poor behavior from my generation. Some of us actually do have the class not to air our dirty laundry out in public.

And you know she shouldn't give up hope of being Greek because you have intimate knowledge of what's happening in the OU sororities right now?

She's not the only one.

Congratulations, but again, 18 year olds do not always make smart decisions. I expect everyone to make mistakes, but for teenagers to make more of them than adults.

I know she shouldn't give up hope of being Greek because she is currently in a sorority and can easily make the best of it instead of dropping. I vehemently disagree that she should just "quit now and give up any desire of being Greek". That's a bad attitude. She can easily learn, grow, and become an active contributing member.

Yawn.

See my other posts. I frequently point out it isn't "unicorns pissing rainbows", but there's no reason she can't turn into a contributing member. It isn't warm fuzzies at all times, but it IS supposed to have good mixed in with the bad, you know.

Either way, she's pissing rainbows about a campus and specific situation that she knows nothing about. As usual.

Un-knot your panties. I don't care what school she goes to, there's no need to de-pledge only because she doesn't connect perfectly with her pledge class. That's a waste both for her and the chapter when she can learn an important lesson...making friends takes a lot of work and potentially give a lot back to the chapter. If that's pissing rainbows, why the hell do any of us pay good money to go greek? It's supposed to be more than a social club.

And unless you know this chick, you're being a very negative nancy about "a specific situation you know nothing about".