I'm willing to bet it's some ridiculous hard partying. I can believe that, because it's so easy to get wrapped up in partying that first semester of college and carry it too far. There's a difference between everyone going out to a party and having a few beers and girls going out, getting trashed, and getting into ridiculous shenanigans.

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I think OP is just asking us about the situation. She didn't say she was making calls or demanding bids be revoked. Her daughter probably called upset and over-dramatized the situation. Now mom is asking, "is this typical? are there repercussions? etc"

Also, by my calendar, it is just about time for new members to leave the honeymoon period (if they pledged before school started). School is getting tougher, no one is kissing the pledges' rears telling them how great they are 24/7. For parents, this is the time that many have to become a cheerleader for their freshman. Sounds like this is what is happening with OP's daughter.

I don't think the OP went overboard - she is just venting after listening to daughter.

Just read the entire thread. My take:

1) The second post in this thread by Dr. Phil = Agree/Win/Yes etc.

2) The OP never said anything about "paying for school"; how/why does that enter into the discussion and become any sort of factor? We don't know anything about the finances, and it isn't relevant to the OP's question(s). Further, does paying for something give someone the right to control everything? Don't think so. IMO if the daughter is cutting classes and failing everything, then yank the financial backing. I was a crazy party animal (hard to believe, I know) but my GPA rocked, because my dad was footing the undergraduate bills and that was our agreement. My GPA went below a 3.5, school was over for me on his dime. POWERFUL incentive to do well.

3) Chapter Business, folks. Chapter Business. Trust the process. It works.

4) Let Go, OP, Let Go. Your daughter's experience is tuition in the School of Life.

It can happen with small pledge classes, too.

Then again, I pledged "old school" when you "rise together, you fall together" was standard.

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I really don't think you should make that statement unless you are privvy to the policies of every chapter at which the OP's daughter could possibly be a pledge.

To be fair, she did say that they CAN be depledged, not that they WILL be depledged. I think that's accurate.

And considering one university had 8 sorority new members hospitalized their first night out this year, I think it's worth taking seriously.

Mommy only knows what "DD" told her and we know daughters NEVER stretch the truth with their helis. Mommy is just pissed she has no control of the situation. Personally it sounds to me that DD is not the most popular member of the pledge class and isn't getting invited to things because she has a stick up her ass. And that has her upset.

That's a whole lot of assumption based on little information.

Likewise with me. My dad paid and couldnt have cared less otherwise. He is greek himself so he understood well about what was/wasnt his business. He never asked and I never shared.

Same here, by parents pay for my education, but they don't want to know all of the details, they just ask if the NM's are nice and if we have any nice mixers planned

Not to "take sides" here, but I do see the value in a multitude of the questions and responses here. The way that I interpreted the OP's questions were that of a mom who took a call from a frustrated child and as a parent she is simply trying to wrap her head around the workings of Greek Life. If the OP was never Greek, she would have no idea whatsoever as to how matters of discipline or unrest are settled. As the mother of eight children and 4 of which are either in college or finished with college, it was all a work in progress for me and I certainly do not have the time or the energy to be a helicopter, much less an eight passenger one. I was Greek and understand that life is not always as pretty as the fabulous portraits painted during rush. The daughter is certainly in the learning curve of sisterhood;and probably, based on the mother coming here, completely at odds or at a loss with the process. So she turned to her mom for advice and the Mom of course, not knowing how to advise daughter, came here looking for support and understanding. My four oldest are all boys, some Greek, some not, but I do have a daughter whom I am extremely close who will be rushing next year. She uses me as a sounding board and as a major part of of her support system, I would want to be educated to the general workings of a situation before giving her any feedback. Why advise on something you know nothing about? If I told her to go her president and spill her guts, it could be the wrong advice not knowing the chain of command, etc. So I think the OP was looking for general information, not trying to "fix" the problem for her child. I think it is hard for some people on the outside looking in to realize that a parent can have an extremely close relationship (especially mothers & daughters) without the mother being a helicopter. It is typical for my daughter to just send a text that says "I love you..hope you having a good day" a few times a week...my older boys...I hear from most when, 1. They need money, 2. They need life changing advice or 3. A girl has pissed them off. So I understand the why the OP came her seeking to understand the process.

I agree with EightisGreat.

As do I, she "got it"...daughter upset, mom hundreds of miles away, and no one else to talk to. I'll take my lashes for originally posting. But those of you with teens know they post their lives on facebook and other sights, so not much is confidential to them.
My Daughter was not the party girl as some of you suggest. She is being held accountable though, and not fond of getting called out over someone else's actions. I told her to consider the age of the officers, and basically they are 22 year olds running a "company" of 200+ employees (girls). Maybe their management style is not fully developed.

Evidently this post hit a nerve, and maybe it needs to be discussed, but as far as I'm concerned we can put a fork in it...it's done

I appreciate the constructive remarks, and will take the others with a grain of salt. I had no intentions of calling the house and several other scenarios mentioned. Just venting to those who have been there, done that.

Which is what mommy is doing based on the little information her daughter is giving her.