Ouch!

To be fair, I've met a lot of women from all kinds of schools who went to grad or undergrad for their MRS, as well as men for the equivalent.

I meet a lot of women who already are an Mrs. and are 18-22. That blows my mind as being married in college is a completely foreign idea to me, as foreign as dropping out and changing schools over Greek membership or lack thereof.

Here I definitely think it is related to certain religious faiths, specifically LDS and super conservative Christians. Even the less devout people I know get married in a year or so of graduation, and I still think that is crazy because I believe in graduate school. Not just being married but having multiple kids while in school, whether you're the mother or father just seems like an added stress (and kill joy) for college life at 18-25.

But I know we both haven't won at life yet, though having letters after our name and a job, as well as the ability to do whatever the hell we want without checking the schedules of a spouse or kids is our norm.

never in a million years would i transfer schools because i had a bad recruitment. my parents would kill me. sadly i know plenty of girls who make sorority life the center of their college experience instead of education. so sad..

I disagree 100% with your defense. There is no defense.

ETA: Moreover, Greekdom does not need men and women who are so mentally and emotionally fragile that they would transfer because of an unsuccessful rush.

^^^ What she said. I rushed and didn't get into a fraternity. I didn't let that chase me away from NJIT. I just took it as a chance to get more active on campus. That ended up with me getting a bid, but even if it hadn't, I met some of my best friends doing it.

Until you go home and encounter the very same girls who are all from your hometown and in your social circle. And they all know you were ridiculous enough to put membership in the right sorority ahead of your education. Everyone will know why you took that long walk of shame to the other state school.

If someone feels the need to change their whole life and transfer schools because they didn't get a bid they need to pledge the on campus counseling center, for real real, not for play play. Holy self esteem and confidence issues Batman. With your reasoning anyone with a failed relationship should transfer as well so they don't have to see their former partner in class, the dorm, on campus, at football games, or in the school newspaper, especially with their new honey. I'd be a hell of a lot more supportive of someone who had been in a very unhealthy relationship transferring than someone who didn't get a bid.

You're really only giving yourself the finger here, and I'm pretty sure the women who didn't choose a girl for membership weren't doing it with fingering in mind. Sometimes people have an unsuccessful rush and there's no fingering involved.

I can see in some circles that not getting in to the sorority, or any sorority is less shameful than transferring to try and get in to a different chapter of the sorority. Add in transferring back and not being accepted to affiliate and oh wow, exponential social pariah.

Of course in my circle joining a sorority period was kind of out there behavior, and some people would have been happy if I transferred home after having an unsuccessful rush and been all sorority hateful in their freaky supportive way. Applying and attending an SEC school would have been grounds for a mental health evaluation, as would attending most schools. There were schools we attended, and I definitely have gone a far different path by choosing a small state school where we cloned three mules and produced Sarah Palin & Deep Throat.

You're killing me tonight.

Will you please stop reminding people about Palin?!? Please??

You honestly think that people can't separate themselves from Greek life at large universities? If you're on a campus of 20/30/40,000 people and you continually run into "the people that rejected you," then you're probably trying to run into them.