|
Quote:
|
haha never said it was a bad rule and once again never said I would actually do it. I just want more information on Greek life, the rules, and process, since clearly I did not understand to begin with. Thanks for you kind feed back Knight Shadow.
|
Quote:
I do remember being a new member very well because it was all very exciting. I remember being told and knowing that were I to be initiated, that was it. I chose to do that and have never considered breaking that promise. As you have said you have family members that are greek, and have been initiated, you really should know this. A college freshman shouldn't be expected to know everything that a graduate does, but it's time to get some gumption and learn the rules for yourself. That's a member's responsibility. If I go 70 in a 35 and tell the police officer I didn't know the speed limit was 35, he's still going to give me a ticket, because ignorance of the law doesn't give me the right to break it. I have many friends who are also sorority sisters that I value very much, but I have just as many if not more that are not. You can develop close bonds with or without the sorority, and since your choices now are to be dishonest or develop close friendships outside of your sorority, I would personally suggest that second option. I really do think you can meet new friends and make great memories even without your chapter being on campus. It really sucks that you don't get to be an active for four years, but sometimes we get thrown into situations like that. |
Quote:
|
I want to take part in all these admiral things. :D
honeyD, obviously I was never a NM in your chapter but in mine it was very clearly and explicitly stated (from day 1) that, upon initiation, a woman may not join any other NPC or NPHC organization. If you feel you didn't know that, you should talk to your sisters at your former campus and make sure that they emphasize that in the future. |
Quote:
As for the rest of your post - No, I didn't "just want to pledge and get it over with." I enjoyed every minute of my pledge time. If you didn't, maybe you should have quit before you were initiated and you wouldn't be in this predicament. Financial aid terms are also "hard to understand." But I guarantee you that if you default on your student loan "not understanding" isn't going to get you any sympathy. I don't think it's just that this (i.e. you cannot join another NPC once you initiate into one) isn't being taught to the pledges...I think it's a generational loss of the overall concept of loyalty. |
Quote:
We had a girl already this summer sign up for recruitment at the school I advise. She was a transfer student from another school in the state and was greek there. She signed up for recruitment at the school I advise, I caught that, let the greek advisor at my school know (who was also an alum from the transfer school), she contacted the greek advisor at that school, found out she wasnt a member of a group on my campus trying to affiliate, and she has since been booted from recruitment. If you do this and you are found out, you will lose membership in BOTH organizations. NPC/NPHC groups dont look kindly on "sorority perps!" |
Quote:
In addition, I would think all groups have their national constitution & bylaws online somewhere for all initiated members to have access to. I would also think that all new members once initiated would get a hard copy of their org's national constitution & bylaws, plus a copy of the chapter's bylaws as well. |
Quote:
Since the OP said that many family members are Greek and would therefore know the ins and outs of Greek life, I think it's likely that this rule was probably not actually news...just a major inconvenience. To the OP, another solution to your problem would be to get involved with local young alums of your sorority in your area. I know of women that transferred from my alma mater and did this so that they could still enjoy the organization, even though we were not present on their new campus. There are plenty of ways to experience your organization other than as an active collegian. You could also see if there is a group on your new campus for other displaced Greeks, or ask the Greek Advisor on campus if it would be possible to start one. That way fraternity and sorority members in the same position could have a way to bond and friends to hang out with and sympathize. And every now and then when you have time and gas money you could meet up with your pledge sisters. It might be fun, if it's possible, to pick a town in between the two schools and hang out together on a Saturday. (That was another solution of sorority sisters of mine that transferred.) |
Quote:
|
Thankyou for the spelling tips.
I am glad you enjoyed every minute of your pledge time. I did as well but it was all a blur. It was scary and exciting but hard to keep all the facts and papers and everything you were told and given all in order, when in the end all you wanted to do was hurry up and become apart of it! I am not looking for any sympathy. True lack of loyalty could be a problem but when something happens in a persons life and they have to transfer and they need a way to make the best of their situation how bad is it to put your loyality to a different sorority? You will always keep a place for the sorority you were in but your new college does not have your old sorority..........and trying to become buds with a bunch of older women in your alumni group or whatever does not sound like that were you want to put your time and effort into. Lets say you were in a sorority you loved at your college and everything was great!!! but your mom suddenly out of no where coming home from dropping your younger brother off at a bday party on a tuesday night dies by a drunk driver..... and you have to transfer to a huge new college closer to home and because of money issues. And the only way you feel any better about going to a new college and having to start over is if you were to join the sorority your mom was in and be able to meet a group of girls right away and feel apart of something again...............what would you do??wouldent trying to join another sorority possibly cross your mind, especially if you could get deactivated from your previous sorority and your name off the books? |
Quote:
|
Quote:
It doesn't matter what I would do because I know that I was told as a new member what there are no exceptions to the rule. There are NO exceptions. None. No there are no loopholes. No there are no higher-ups for you to complain to and try to get a different answer. The answer is no. My goodness. I honestly do not know what you are looking for us to tell you. |
Quote:
I truly believe that is not the only thing that will make you happy. If you do choose to attempt to join a different sorority, you don't need validation from an internet forum. You decide if it's worth the risk. It is against the rules, period. There is no other answer. |
I'm sure that there are people who could join 2 groups because of extenuating circumstances and do it respectfully. However, they've been far outweighed by the people who DON'T do it respectfully.
I haven't seen anything in any of your posts where you say that you would discuss this with your sisters from your first college, or that they feel bad that you are in the situation you're in, or that you would like to keep them as friends even if there was a way you could terminate your membership in the sorority. You just keep yammering on about "a sorority is the best way to meet girls your age." You just want to kick the women who offered you sisterhood and friendship to the curb because it's inconvenient for you. Sorry, but even if you could do this, from what you've written, I don't think you'd deserve that chance. p.s. It's not guaranteed that you would get a bid to your mother's sorority, or ANY sorority, at your new school. |
| All times are GMT -4. The time now is 05:53 PM. |
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.11
Copyright ©2000 - 2025, vBulletin Solutions Inc.