You don't know her situation. What if her husband works nights? People schedules don't always coincide, but that doesn't mean their marriage is anything to look your nose down at. As to being gone for a weekend a few times a semester, any solid marriage takes into consideration that it is comprised of two individuals who sometimes need a break from each other anyway--so that shouldn't be anything to worry over.

Also keep in mind that just because an organization is open to accepting married members does not mean that you will get a bid.


If you are basically looking for girlfriends and more of a social life, you really should look into another group, either on or off campus...like Junior League which is geared more toward married women. Just joining a sorority does not give you automatic friends. You still have to have things in common with the girls, and things to bond over in order to make a friendship. Just joining a sorority does not guarantee you'll have friends. Like someone above stated, I'm not sure that I would have been so accepting of a 25 year old married friend when I was 18 and just starting college - there just aren't that many common interests.

Alright, that's enough. This isn't the forum for discussing someone's marriage. The question has been answered to the best of our ability when we don't know the OP and don't know her campus.

Thank you to everyone. You have all given me a great deal to think about and I'm sure I will make a decision that is best.

What do you guys think of a girl who is 19 and married rushing??

A married 19 year old sophomore who is planning to transfer sounds like just the thing every chapter needs. :rolleyes:

Thanks so much for your input, it's really helpful to hear other people's opinions. It is a more traditional Greek school, but in general students there are fairly accepting. I feel like I still have a lot in common with girls my age except for the interest in finding a boyfriend (which I'm more than happy to be rid of!). That's not to say that I look down on girls as immature if they're not married or engaged. I really hope that I can show people I do want to be treated just like any PNM... I don't think I would have the attitude where I would think an activity was stupid or irrelevant just because I'm married, that's just not my personality at all.

Are houses with live-in policies 100% strict about it? I know at the school I currently am at (as opposed to the one I'm hopefully transferring to) there are exceptions for girls like me.

As for my husband, he is definitely supportive of me joining greek life. As for socials, ect. he would be fine with me going, because he trusts me. If it was possible to bring him as a date to a social that would be great, but if not he would be fine with it. We're both comfortable with sometimes having time apart and attending social events alone if the occasion calls for it. I'm grateful for your concern though :]

Oh okay, thanks for clarifying. You're so helpful! :)

woo awesome! thanks, i'm still working out how to use search so you are extremely helpful yet again!