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Originally Posted by humblerumble (Post 1808163)

However, at the rate things are going with this org...they may not be around much longer, and I may be granted the option of going elsewhere, or I may not.

I seriously doubt that. I'm lane-swerving here, but with what I can see, I highly, highly doubt this statement. Sure, your particular chapter may not be around, but the organization will still exist. And I'm pretty sure a chapter losing it's charter doesn't grant you the opportunity to join another NPHC sorority.

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Originally Posted by MexicanMami0286 (Post 1808100)

Perhaps, you should consider joining another chapter. If you're in a metro area, you may have several to choose from or you could consider simply participating as a member-at-large and continue the work of your organization that way (or continue participating in the service you've been doing with other organizations).

Once again, not in the NPHC, so I'm not sure: but if things are unbearable for you locally, can't you do this?

Geez, you sleep in and you miss all the fun around here, lol.

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Originally Posted by AOEforme (Post 1808174)

Once again, not in the NPHC, so I'm not sure: but if things are unbearable for you locally, can't you do this?

Oh yeah! It's definitely an option. There's nothing wrong with joining another chapter (of the same organization, of course) - if one is available (and if you are a resident of that area). In my area, there are about four chapters that I could join, or I could choose to be a member-at-large.

Every chapter has a different dynamic...I think that's something important to keep in mind. There are always good and bad things in any organization and in any chapter, but there are things one can do to improve certain things, ignore certain things, or disband themselves from certain things.

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06 (Post 1808177)

Geez, you sleep in and you miss all the fun around here, lol.

Awww! Dang! :p

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Originally Posted by humblerumble (Post 1808163)

I appreciate your response. To answer your questions, I know my Constitution and Bylaws front to back. I know my history front to back, I know my past and current officers front to back. This is part of the reason why I AM so down. Because I've given so much to this org, and I feel like it's just not for me.

As far as what's being done publicly, I've not named my org, anyone's names, etc., as my intention is not to be inflammatory and rude. It was to come here and vent HONESTLY about what I feel.

That's all. I'm not here to debate whether or not I have the RIGHT to these feelings, or the right to voice them, because I do. I'm not here to debate 4years of membership vs 10. There are some people that do more work in 2 years than someone who's been around for 40! It's not about any of that. It's not about putting my expectations on others. I feel as a member of an org, I am a representative of the whole, and vice versa. I'm not happy with the reflection, that's all. And I'm not making excuses, I'm being honest. I've never blamed this choice on anyone. It was my fault for not educating myself, and I admit that.

I can turn in my letters, I can formally ask to resign, and be granted that request, but I can't then go to another org because the rules don't allow it. However, at the rate things are going with this org...they may not be around much longer, and I may be granted the option of going elsewhere, or I may not. Who knows...I'm just down in the dumps about this...that's all.

It's about the bottom line...that I came here merely to vent, and I thank you all for your responses.

Venting does not work. It fails to lead to resolution of issues. Days, months, years from now, you will still be ruminating about how "A" member treated you...

See, here's the thing, if you were denied membership, you'd be writing angry letters to the International office as to why you were blackballed!

So sad. Really, because it says something about how you view sisterhood in your Sorority through the lenses of your current chapter. What did you expect people would say here? You thought you had GC friends? You thought you could share this with random people where you could not feel you could share to your sorority sisters or to their faces? WTH? You don't trust your own sorority to do right by you?

That's really lame...

Please, turn in your letters... Save your Sorority the grief...

Thank you for your OPINION AKA Monet.
You may now refrain from talking to me.

Oh wait...you don't HAVE to refrain from anything.
Because much like it's my right to vent, in this forum if I choose, it's your right to respond. I don't think I have "GC" friends. Nor was I seeking agreement, hand holding or head patting. I merley came to vent.
You came to read and respond.

Now that we are clear...you can move on :)

And no one can GUESS what org I am referring too. It must have flown over my head that only NPHC orgs say "Soror". That's news to me. If anyone is GUESSING or ASSUMING what org I am referring to, that very well may prove why these issues are of concern to me. The very fact that people I've never met, on an online forum MAY be able to ASSUME which org I am referring to, is pitiful. It means the rep of the org is obvious, and that's a shame.

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Originally Posted by humblerumble (Post 1808217)

Wow, I must have struck a nerve... It must not be just my opinion solely for you to speak so harshly.

Ask yourself why you have a heightened response, then ask yourself why you cannot answer my questions?

You wanted honest feedback and understanding didn't you? Otherwise, you would have put a huge comment in bold letters not asking anyone to respond in kind.

Doubt anyone would have ignored your posts, though.

The other issue is that everyone knows what happens in chapter meetings, stays in chapter meeting. That is a part of sisterliness, privacy and confidentiality. You made some effort to commit to your demoted sorority. That is what I take issue with.

Why an invitation was extended to you to join, one will NEVER know. Unfortunately, you are somebody's sorority sister, which makes you look more pathetic...

You are out of the pecking order here... Keep responding to my posts, the more I have to dissect your misdirected comments...

Welp, out of respect, of your foot and mouth disorder, I will stop responding to you. When you need help, you know where you can find it. A request for your IP address can be made, but no one cares enough to know your dysfunction.

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Originally Posted by humblerumble (Post 1808217)

Thank you for your OPINION AKA Monet.
You may now refrain from talking to me.

Flounce!

But really humblerumble, if you really cared about the values and mission of your sorority you would have taken the initiative to do something about these perceived problems (instead of complaining) and shown some compassion to your sisters (instead of disdain). Just my opinion...

That's really not a flounce....the person she was talking to has said the EXACT same thing to other posters on this board.

Hmm perhaps I could have used a better word choice. In any case, my opinion on the OP's commitment to her sorority remains the same

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06 (Post 1808177)

Geez, you sleep in and you miss all the fun around here, lol.

That is why I QFP'd! You and my sister OTW have done it for me so many times I thought I'd return the favor :D

Oh, I think the fun is really just getting started . . .

Yay, another trainwreck! Wow, so glad I have a free night for once. Bring on the dramz, GC, I've been missin' it!

I should be grading Hamlet tests . . .

And here I was lamenting lack of good sickbed reading...