Exactly - I think someone did it to get a rise out of people, and it looks like it worked.

I assume Disappointed Mom lives in the South and unless you do you will never understand how she feels. The social pressure down there for your daughter to join a top chapter is huge and the total bummer for her to join a low tier chapter let alone God forbid be a GDI. When I was in HS one of my friends older sister had a rush disaster and everyone treated it like it was the end of the world. Like I said, if you are not from the South you will never understand.

I think that's going a bit too far. Every part of the country has some setting where social pressure is intense. Even if it's not in the Greek Life context, people in other parts of the country could at least equate that situation to something particular to their region.

Ok, I'll bite, although I have my doubts that this is real.
OP, you wanted to hear from other moms, well here goes...
As a mom I think it is my job to raise happy, secure, self-confident individuals. It seems that you did your job. Now it is time to back off. Your daughter sounds like she is happy, she is secure where she is and she had the self-confidence to continue through rush when you had no confidence in her. It seems that you did your job well. As for the rest of your post, shut up and let her be her!!

Ditto. If she was real, she would be back here defending herself.

I feel the same way. Seems more trollish than real to me.

I doubt anyone who could recognized everything mentioned by that post would ever post it. It's too transparently all about the mom.

Maybe. But you wouldn't post it here and admit it.

Your Greek letters down here are like the difference in driving a Mercedes or a old rusted out jalopy. For 99% of the posters on this thread they may as well be in Happy Rainbow Pony Land if they think it's not like this. Yes, unfortuately a stigma is placed on the "Mom" who, Bless her heart, couldn't even see to it that her D got into the right group. Women have stopped attending Junior League and charity functions after an unsuccessful rush for their daughters. I've only been here 2 years but I've overhead enough at social functions to realize there is Greek and there is "Southern Greeks".

But you all know there are mom's exactly like this here, even if this is a sockpuppet post.

Sort of what I was thinking.

"Right" group?

"Unsuccessful" rush?

It sounds like her daughter is happy and has the potential to thrive in her new sisterhood. That seems right and successful.

While this one woman may be a troll, unfortunately I have personally known women for whom these thoughts and feelings are true. I grew up in Texas and now live in SEC country and trust me, there are plenty of women who are like this. So the OP may be real, she may not be. But sadly she is representative of a segment of the population throughout the South.

I am *not* defending her/them at all... their whole attitude makes me want to puke. But- they are definitely out there.

While I don't exactly agree with the original poster's sentiments, I understand why she is upset. It is a shitty situation for the mother I suppose, but if her daughter is happy then so be it. I suppose the original poster needs to weigh whether she she would rather her daughter be GDI or be part of a bottom tier group with reputation such as it is.

It's like giving birth to a future serial killer...

mom, your daughter made a decision that suited her and i believe you said that she is happy. i hope that you will be happy with her. send her a box of her sorority goodies and become an active supporter of your daughter and her chapter. maybe she will be the turning point for her chapter making a come back.

when i was an undergrad at florida state, an absolutely stunning girl came thru recruitment. she had it all-looks, personality, grades, activities and was so sweet-every chapter wanted her on their bid list. she had recs. to all the chapters and we all did our best to convince her that our chapter was the one she should join.

every round, she had more invitations than she could accept. she was definately in the drivers seat.

she was a double legacy to a chapter that was struggling. for pref. she attended parties at the two most competitive chapters on campus and at her legacy chapter. she chose to list her legacy chapter first. everyone on campus was stunned! it is my belief that this began her chapters long road back to an admirable place on campus. it took a while, but nowadays this chapter pledges quota and is above campus total. it has been a long time since her chapter has been the butt of cruel jokes.

this young woman served her chapter in many leadership positions, got involved on campus(before that, few members joined any other orgs.)& won recognition for her academics.she set the example for her sisters and they followed suit. to my knowledge, she never regretted her decision. to those of us on the outside, she always appeared happy and proud of her chapter. maybe your daughter will do the same for her chapter.