Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna (Post 2291533)

Sorry, but........FOFLMAO!

Originally Posted by MU2Driver (Post 2291538)

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Originally Posted by Giddy
Ole Miss...happens to be the most civil vis-a-vis other SEC recruitments.



I'm curious. What do you find uncivil about Ole Miss's Recruitment? I can see it being described as highly competitive and highly stressful, with a small but persistent subgroup crossing some lines, but uncivil?

Originally Posted by ElvisLover (Post 2291536)

if you must answer an alum who's pestering you for details, just say that you're having a great rush and will tell them all about it when it's over.

Originally Posted by ElvisLover (Post 2291548)

The uncivil part of it comes into play probably because OM has the reputation as all things lovely and proper, while, in reality, their recruitment is "nice-to-your-face and then cut you before you're out the door." Whereas, at other schools across the country, recruitment might be conducted in a less phony manner. A lot of Southern women have enmity just below the surface, but are adept at cloaking it in graciousness.

Originally Posted by FSUZeta (Post 2291563)

Those of us from the south know the nuances, so the "civility" doesn't fool us often. It's like the difference between the two most popular uses of "Bless her heart", which can be used to show sympathy or to show no mercy.

Originally Posted by Hearttoheart (Post 2291232)

Last year when my daughter went through recruitment at Ole Miss, she had three alumnae from three different chapters calling her daily to see where she stood. These same ladies were also calling me each day "checking in". All three of these ladies were very involved with their local chapters. (two of them were in town advising in their sororities' house) Both my daughter and I were very afraid that she would get cut from chapters if she didn't tell these ladies that their chapter was her "favorite chapter". On one hand it was reassuring for us to know she was still in the running, but on the other hand, she was very scared of saying the wrong thing and hurting feelings! After skit, she finally broke down and told one of the ladies that another sorority was her favorite. We will never know for sure if she was cut from that chapter that night because of what she reveled to that Alum, or if the actives just didn't have her high enough on their list.

Personally, they added so much extra pressure! This year, it will be good for the alumnae to be held to silent standards as well! The actives all followed the rules, it was the Alumnae who stepped out of bounds. (at least in my opinion)

All you moms out there, be very careful what you say to chapter alumnae if they try contacting you. If you say the wrong thing, it could hurt your daughters recruitment!

Originally Posted by ElvisLover (Post 2291536)

Here's some unsolicited advice to all the moms who have daughters going through at OM, as well as to the PNMs: if you must answer an alum who's pestering you for details, just say that you're having a great rush and will tell them all about it when it's over. Actives have been known to play dirty as well by texting the PMN, asking which house she preffed 1st on her list. I know I'm opening a can of worms here, but it does happen. I would advise every PNM to put a lock on their phone where their roommate can't see any information texted to moms, etc. I told my daughter to tell her roommate and anyone else who asked that she couldn't remember which one she put first. It worked. Less is best. Word gets around campus way faster now due to texting.

Originally Posted by FSUZeta (Post 2291563)

Those of us from the south know the nuances, so the "civility" doesn't fool us often. It's like the difference between the two most popular uses of "Bless her heart", which can be used to show sympathy or to show no mercy.

Originally Posted by als463 (Post 2291575)

It's so funny you use this example as I have been discussing this with my southern friends. I told them I'll be super offended if they use that statement with me. Thanks to GC, I know better. ;)

Originally Posted by Giddy (Post 2292018)

This site is hilarious. You'd rather have someone tell a PNM to go fuk themselves because that's "genuine" versus someone who makes pleasant/polite conversation to PNMs they don't intend to offer a bid? Wow. Ever peruse Greek Rank at University of Michigan? Now there's a Greek recruitment without even a fig-leaf of civility. Don't know about you ladies-- but I'll take fake Ole Miss civility over blatant rejection and coarse/boorish behavior (and that's just the sorority comments mind you) any day. BTW -- Alabama's thread on Greek Rank during rush was almost as cringe-worthy as Michigan.