I sense that you are very young.

bakd, you really need to step away from the keyboard.

I sense that you are out of touch, but alas, that hasn't stopped you today!

I need the like button for this one.

I was lucky as a legacy that my mom's group was not on my campus so I never had to deal with that pressure. I can't imagine what it would have been like if I hadn't liked them (especially if she had such strong feelings about us being sisters) or if they didn't like me.

You can harass me all you want - I know that I represent many, many Greek women. You just don't like it.

Don't shoot the messenger, and all of that...

Goodnight.

ORLY.

Flounce (accompanied by door slam and pearls popping)

I think I said this somewhere upthread -- my mother is a former national officer of Kappa Alpha Theta. My grandmother and great-grandmother were also members, and my great-grandmother was a founding member at the chapter where I went through recruitment.

The Theta chapter at my campus released me. Why? I have no idea -- I had a strong recruitment otherwise and ended up in the chapter of my choice -- but I know they are a very highly desired chapter and usually have more legacies rushing than quota. My mom was upset, but she also understood that it was the active members' prerogative to do so.

I'm an international officer in my own organization now, and despite my background, I feel strongly that chapters should be able to make their own membership selection decisions within the legacy policy of the international organization. I don't want to be a part of an organization where every pledge class is made up entirely of legacies. I don't want to exclude possible members who are first generation college students; who are from a less wealthy background; who don't have the privilege of knowing the right people.

ROFLMAO

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Hat tip to Honeychile for the gif!

I realize bakd has gone . . . flouncing and all . . . but let me point out:

WE DO NOT AND CANNOT KNOW IF BEING A LEGACY IMPACTED YOUR DAUGHTER'S RECRUITMENT.

I am a legacy who was cut by one of her legacy sororities. It never occurred to my legacy member to hyperbolically predict the end of the sorority system.

I have been involved in alumnae panhellenics long enough to know that MANY very active alumnae have daughters who are not in their mothers' sororities. They, however, are more concerned about their daughters' happiness then in some perceived "payoff" they are owed.

Obviously, I am the poster child for multi-generational sorority membership, and I love having my mother and my daughter as sisters. HOWEVER, I would be thrilled if my daughter were a member of any of the other 25 NPC members, and would still have that special NPC bond with her.

Help me understand this. Did you just equate a young woman not getting to join her mother's sorority to the loss of benefits that were actually IN A CONTRACT for our men and women in uniform? When I joined my sorority, I always thought it would be great to have my (future) daughter join but, I never thought, "Wow, if Phi Mu doesn't give my daughter a bid, I'm done!" That's a bid selfish to me.

Yes, she did. I also agree with the rest of your statement. As I said earlier, she needs to check her perceptions.

I find it funny that she said "to say that a sorority woman shouldn't complain because it is unseemly just smacks of control." You know what smacks of control? The fact that the daughter is happy with where she is, that she knows membership selection is private, that she passive aggressively has told her organization, and that she has ignored responses from both older and younger members (including legacies) on this thread who said she was being ridiculous. That sounds a bit helicopter ish and honestly a little sad that she feels so betrayed/upset over this.

Oh, pleeze don't pull the military card on me...

That was just the best analogy that I could think of off-hand.

I had 6 uncles that served in WWII, 2 in Korea, 1 cousin in Vietnam, and 2 in Desert Storm.

My step-father-in-law was career military.

Congress can and does change benefits and the military is justifiably upset:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/busine...fd2_story.html

I said that the other understanding was like a INFORMAL contract.

That was a really bad analogy then. Also, just because you have people in your family who served doesn't mean you are all-knowing about military affairs. I realize that there have been cuts to military benefits, seeing as how both my husband and I are Iraq war veterans so, you don't need to post stories. WCSweet is 100% on point with what she said. I couldn't have said it better. Also, please don't pull that, "Well my brother, sister, mother, father, neighbor, milkman, gynecologist, etc. served in the military therefore I know" stuff. It will get you a look like this :rolleyes: from anyone who ever served.

You are Bat Shit Crazy!!! I'm from that exact time frame and not once have I or my sisters ever referred to "saving" the Greek system. Get off your soap box.

So here you are, reviving a thread from many moons ago, arguing with a plethora of well versed women in the Greek Community and can't figure out which battle to fight. Madame, you are out of touch with reality.