I wouldn't put that on eHarmony, plenty of people go cuckoo for cocoa puffs, even when you've known them for awhile before you got romantically involved. I think in general people need to be safe with personal information, even if you don't meet them on the internet.

I agree. Stories like that have been going on for decades, since long before dating sites existed. My mom had a stalker in that late 50's after she told him she didn't want to date anymore. She had to get a restraining order, even then. Sadly, there is no way to screen out crazy until you know someone, and possibly even until you dump someone.

I have a friend who was set up with a co-worker's cousin. It turned out said cousin had never gotten divorced or even physically separated even though he had told his WHOLE FAMILY that he had. Freaky.

I met my boyfriend on Plentyoffish. We've been together since summer of 2008. :D

I met the man I'm with on PoF. But he's starting to get on my last nerves.

I know I told this story in the D & R thread, but I got rejected from eHarmony. I think it was because of two things: 1) I wasn't ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY SUPER DEFINITE on the kid issue 2) I said looks were very important. Of course, often my "OMG he's gorgeous" is 95% of the population's "what the hell are you thinking?", but there's no way to get that across on eHarmony.

As for PoF, one of my friends met her latest boyfriend on there. He is now her EX boyfriend and she had to change her phone number because of him.

I find that so odd that they would reject you because of that. :rolleyes: Stupid eharmony. I would say 75-80% of the guys I'm matched with on eharmony state "maybe" as wanting children or not. For me, I want kids. I may sound selfish, but I'm not getting any younger and quite honestly I don't want to waste my time with a guy he "maybe" wants children.

I'm also a wee bit older than you are. :)

I just can't do the whole online dating thing in any way shape or form. There's no romance or mystery in it and I've realized how much I need those things. YMMV.

Agreed 100 percent.

And my man is about to become my ex too, if he doesn't get his lazy ass together. Sounds like PoF should be called PoD for "Plenty of Dogs".

Oooh, Lol now that's bad.

Just wanted to put in my two cents:

I met my fiance on eHarmony. I had heard good things about the website (though I find it sad that they give same-sex couples such a hard time), I have a relative who met her husband on eHarmony, and a few friends who had some success on the site. I'm in a major metropolitan area, so it was relatively easy to get matches in mileage guidelines, but even then, I met my man within a couple of weeks of being on the site. My relative and another friend who met her long-term bf had similar results.

What was appealing to me about the process was that they try to match you on personality. It seemed to make more sense than the randomness of meeting people in bars or the workplace, and I was too busy with my job to be doing a lot of bar-crawling anyway. Another factor is that the service delivers you a handful of matches every morning. It's kind of a time-saver (although communicating with those matches does take a chunk of your time).

My general gist is this:
If you are actively looking for love, then why not give it a shot? At least you don't have to read through hundreds of profiles trying to pick out the good from the bad from the just-looking-for-action, and you wind up knowing a little about these people before you meet them in person.

There will be horror stories with EVERY kind of dating experience, just by nature of how messy dating is. That's just how it is.

Last thing: eHarmony is kind of pricey. If you are looking to try it out, Google for some coupon codes, you can usually get some good deals. I got a 3 month for the price of 1 month deal.