GreekChat.com Forums

GreekChat.com Forums (https://greekchat.com/gcforums/index.php)
-   Greek Life (https://greekchat.com/gcforums/forumdisplay.php?f=24)
-   -   Regrets (https://greekchat.com/gcforums/showthread.php?t=99134)

Kansas City 09-04-2008 01:44 PM

confused girl - I think that your situation and the OPs situation are totally different. Your situation seems to involve your personal interactions with the members of a chapter while the OPs situation seems to be the chapter’s refusal to be governed by HQ. I'm sorry that you did not have a good experience but you must learn to live with the decisions that you make weather they be to join a group or to sever ties with same group.

33girl 09-04-2008 02:15 PM

I'm sorry if you thought I was being harsh, however, it happens all the time on this site that a poster posts something, doesn't like the answer he/she receives, and then goes on to post it elsewhere. It's incredibly frustrating to the people who gave the advice the first time around and to everyone else.

Also, it is considered bad form to "hijack" another person's thread with a totally different situation.

I'm sorry you had mental issues but blaming the sorority for their re-occurrence is unfair. A sorority is not a therapy group. If you have issues you need to get professional help.

KSUViolet06 09-04-2008 02:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by confused_girl (Post 1711856)
I did not just join Sorority A so that I could wear letters. I stuck with sorority A for over a year, attempting to help change things, and hoping things would get better, but you know what? All that happened was that my depression returned, and i took up my self injury again. Now i figure you're going to call me clinically insane or something, and continue to insult me, and go ahead. You dont know me, and you dont know what I went through. I didnt run the first time something went wrong, and it was a terribly difficult decision for me to leave, but at the point where being with them was driving me to harm myself? enough was enough.

Thank you for your response, no matter how rude it was. I can assure you though, that I wouldn't want to join your group after how you treated me.

Have a wonderful day.


You cannot blame a sorority for your self-injury issues. Sorority members are not licensed clinicians and aren't really skilled in dealing with deppression issues. If you were self-injuring, you needed to seek professional felp.

1914blue1920 09-04-2008 02:33 PM

Constitution should be followed, period. Do you all have a nationals or someone to report your chapter to? If they dont want to change the wrong , its not fair to you all that want to follow the rules and stuff. Can you vote to get a new advisor?

33girl 09-04-2008 03:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 1914blue1920 (Post 1711927)
Constitution should be followed, period. Do you all have a nationals or someone to report your chapter to? If they dont want to change the wrong , its not fair to you all that want to follow the rules and stuff. Can you vote to get a new advisor?

The problem is that the OP is apparently the only one who wants things to change - including the advisor.

tornup 09-04-2008 04:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 1711965)
The problem is that the OP is apparently the only one who wants things to change - including the advisor.

DING DING DING - WE HAVE A WINNER!!!!

However I feel like that impression of me being the only one wanting change makes it seem like the changes i want are just a personal opinion of mine on how things should be run, but there not. Its that I want to follow the constitution because my org has been around for a very long time and i genuinly trust that things they prohibit in the constitution are prohibited for a reason. And also its more that im the only one willing to be vocal about changing, instead of sitting by and letting the few girls who kind of "rule" my sorority take over and run it into the ground.

Basically what i want to say to them is your in a national org it has national rules and a national governing body that we have to follow and abide by. You knew this joining, and if you dont wish to follow nationals rules then a national org is NOT the place for you. Go start a local club where you can run it however you want.

P.S. To address confused girl you are not alone with your mental health issues however blaming other people for them be it your sorority parents professor spouse or friends does NOTHING to help your situation. Yes maybe the soroity contributed to your stress or unhappiness but you had the problem before the sorority and if you dont deal with the true root of the problems you will have them again after the sorority.

A very wise mentor of mine always used to tell me "Wherever you go, There you are" and it took me a very long time to fully understand and accept how true that statement

confused_girl 09-04-2008 04:23 PM

Apparently I'm not wording things properly. 33girl and KSUViolet06, I was not under the impression that a sorority was a mental health facility, or that they were licenced to operate as such. Nor was I blaming them as in "they're the reason I did this!" I understood that I had the problem beforehand, and I was as recovered as was possible. I am not saying that they made me do that, or that any one person handed me an object and forced me to do anything. I am saying that things were going very wrong, and i wasnt being treated properly, and yes, my reaction due to previous things I've been through, was to turn back to that. I was not blaming my sorority, I was simply saying that if I was turing back to that, there was something very wrong with where I was at, and I had to leave.

However, someone will probably still find something in that to use against me and say that i'm blaming greeks for my "mental health issues." Thank you all for making me feel like an insane person. I know you don't know me, so you probably are really trying to sincerely suggest that I seek out some type of help, and if you are sincere, then thank you. However, it came off as "quit blaming the greeks and get some help you freak."

Either way, people can respond how they want, because i can tell i'm not wanted here. I was not attempting to hijack the OPs thread, and I am sorry to have come off that way. I'm out. I'm not coming back, you guys can get together and celebrate that. Just keep in mind that you shouldnt go off on someone simply because they left a sorority, you dont know what they went through, or what the extenuating circumstances were. Please respect the people who come here after I leave, you never know who you'll be talking to.

To the OP, I sincerely wish you the best of luck in your circumstances, and hope that things will eventually work out for you for the best.

AKA_Monet 09-04-2008 04:53 PM

Wow... Just wow... On a message board for GLO's nonetheless... I hope no one on here will run for office very soon...


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 06:02 AM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.11
Copyright ©2000 - 2025, vBulletin Solutions Inc.