I was posting about the OP. Sorry for the confusion and sorry I cannot type tonight. Apologies guys. It's PNM duhhh. wow anywho. These are two different stories with two totally different scenarios. The op and yours uk2011. Bottom line and this should be the basis of it all. We cannot tell you what went wrong. We were not sitting in the room, conducting recruitment with the people you rushed. Sorry, there's the truth, black and white. If you don't like it, don't go into rush thinking you'll end up in house, you'll be very disappointed. I cannot say it enough and i feel like it's been said more times than i can count. Go into rush with an open mind, give everyone a chance... blah blah. I thought it would be more common sense, but apparently that's far from the truth.
You win some, you lose some. IT'S LIFE!

Oh, I realize that. And let me repeat that I am not trying to disagree with you. This was my experience. Did any of you have a perfect Recruitment experience when you went through?

Seriously?

I'm not trying to say what it's like from the other side. Not at all. I'm still not even sure what you took such offense to.

Yes! I did actually. I loved everything about it. I feel sorry for the people who didn't get their top choice. But I suicided. I didn't really care what people thought about my letters. I was proud to wear them from day one and still am.

Seriously? Yes. Seriously.

I wasn't offended. (It takes a lot more to offend me...) I was trying to get you to see that the girls probably meant what they said. I think ALL of us have meant that and lost one of our "Rush crushes". I hope they didn't think me fake because they were not voted through.

You're one of the few I've ever talked to that didn't get cut from even one sorority they liked throughout the week. I got my top choice on bid day, but we've established that I had a couple of disappointments during the week. Did you go to a big or small school? (I promise, I don't mean that in a mean way, or snarky, or whatever the word is!)

I know, I wasn't arguing with you. I was trying to explain in the nicest way possible, because I knew your experience is only from the PNM side.

Nope, mine wasn't perfect. Read my retro thread.

Lol, after dealing with all of this, I'm not sure I want to even go through with a sorority, if this is what it's like! Thank you for actually taking the time to explain your point in a nice way. :)

smaller, yes, not petite. Just to personal for minute and tell you why I suicided. I lost my birthmom at the tender age of 5. Then my stepmom 2 days before recruitment found out she had breast cancer. Let's just say that's all i needed to hear on philanthropy night. I wanted to join a sorority b/c my birthmom did it and my dad wanted me to, but also b/c i wanted to use my heart and the things that are really close to me to reach out to others. I found home right away. Really though, I was blessed, and truly feel like I had an angel looking out for me :)

Ok. People on here have been pretty nice about this. But, if this would keep you from joining a sorority, maybe greek life isn't for you. You will have disagreements with your sisters, you won't like all of them, you may strongly detest some of them, you will probably cuss them, and they will at some point probably cuss you.

But, this is life. If that's too much for you, wait until you start your career! Work life gets even better! Sorority life is the easy part.

Please tell me you're kidding. Sarcasm doesn't really work well on GC.

When you get a big group of girls together, THERE WILL BE DRAMA.

Your mission, if you choose to accept it, is to look past the drama and enjoy the things sisterhood has to offer.

Don't go through. You can still come out to the fraternity parties and ho around there. You don't need to be in a sorority to do that!

That's really cool. :) So your sorority definitely has an even more special meaning for you than most! I mean, not to take away from other people's experience. It's just that you sort of have an even more significant experience. Gosh, I can't find what I'm trying to say, and I definitely am trying to be careful! But that is a neat story for sure. Sorry, I didn't mean to pry, I was just curious to hear why your rush went so well! :)

Hmm. Must have missed that "niceness" between the "melodramatic bitch," the "bottom tier sorority," and the "ho-ing around frat parties." My bad.

I give up. Hope you got your entertainment for the night.

...I'm just saying.....
 

um, WOW. Some folks may need to double up on the scotch (or prozac) tonight. uk2011, congratulations, and don't let some of these folks scare you off. Usually it's just the helicopter moms who can get this place stirred up into a feeding frenzy, but there's been a shortage of hovering parents lately, and they must be hungry.

BTW, it seems a bit hypocritical for a PNM to be held to the "keep an open mind, there's no such thing as a bad sorority" standard when 'we', the initiated ones, can say or think things like "have fun in your bottom tier sorority."

Okay new Kappa Delta, this might be a good time to bow out of this discussion.

Stick around GC a little bit longer and you'll realize that THIS IS really being nice.

Invite to HPRL in 5...4...3...2...

Come on, there's nothing bad about ho-ing around fraternity parties. It's better to have the real thing opposed to some battery operated "boyfriend".

1. not the same user who posted these comments 2. funny thing about the helicopter moms. Nah not really the case; Helicopter moms deserve it. CUT THE UMBILICAL CORD. ha

No, thanks, I've had more than enough GC for this lifetime. You all have fun here, but I'd really rather talk to people who don't consider name-calling "nice."

Thank you!! I'm definitely wishing I had never found this place, but it's sort of like watching a train wreck: you just can't take your eyes off of it. I almost feel bad for them that they get so much enjoyment nitpicking and attacking over nothing. But I know that it doesn't matter what I say, they're still going to be like that!

Thanks again for sticking up for me...no one else will! :)

Get over yourself. Melodramatic bitch fits pretty well. Not my best work, but seems to be accurate.

I never said I was nice. I said people had been pretty nice about the whole thing so far. (As in overall niceness nonspecific to any post.) You are the one who keeps posting and making such a fuss...

It's time to put on your big girl pants and "woman-up."

Funny! I'm menopausal and way more worried about hot flashes than condoms!

LOL LOL LOL

Man, I step away for a couple hours and this thread blew up! I hate when I miss all the fun!

But I really just stopped in to say Tippie, I noticed your location a while ago and have meant to say something about it because it's genius, and I will happily take John Cusack off your hands kthxbye.

He's yours!

uk2011
 

I am just saying this not to call you names or be rude, but I'm confused. You can say I'm a big mean ol' biatch, and frankly, I don't care.

You just joined Kappa Delta as a new member, today or yesterday. You claim it is your top choice, you're happy there, you love the girls, heck you can even share it with your relatives because they are members. You got what you wanted in the end, so why are you on GC talking about being released and perceived fakeness instead of spending time with your new sisters? To be blunt if I found out a new sister from my chapter was hung up and focused on the groups who didn't want her, when we extended her a bid and welcomed her into our sisterhood in the past 24 hours, I'd definitely have a look like :confused: on my face and be thinking WTF?

It is Friday night, you just joined a sorority, why are you on GC posting about the other sororities and not spending time with your new sisters?

AAAAMEN!!!

uk2011, time to start your own thread if you have a beef. This thread is about someone else and you don't need to be hijacking it with whatever your beef is- since quite frankly I don't get it.

it's fine. i don't mind, people ask and I tell them why I chose Zeta. I tell them the story and how ZTA really chose me. I wouldn't say it's more special. It was VERY special though. My big sister whom has now left :mad: also had her step mom contract breast cancer. It's just a neat story and the reason I told it was to show how things that happen are meant to be. If it doesn't happen, it wasn't meant to happen. So, don't force things.

The thing is, she got a bid to Kappa Delta.

Talk about biting the hand that feeds you.