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tld221 03-24-2008 01:29 AM

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Originally Posted by LatinaAlumna (Post 1622698)
NON PAN-HELLENIC COUNCILS?

Oh my gosh! Couldn't you even GOOGLE to get the right answer for that, ...?

there's not enough information out here. Didnt she tell you she exhausted all her resources?

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:29 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622696)
And I am so happy to see how all of these sororities treat people I have not acted as if I no everything I tell you what I have been told and informed. I tell you what they tell me during informationals and what I find on the internet and all you do is criticize not one respose has been about my question

Honey, we have see it all... So what... You so ready to get beat down, I know a great sorority for you at the State!!! You get a line jacket, too with numbers on the front and back, sometimes!!! :)

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622697)
First off I did not say I have enough information. I only mentioned sororities that I had NO information about. I have more information and have had more communication with both of those sororities. I don't know enough about ANY sorority, or I would not be here as I have stated many times! Read my first post, there is no hostility, but when people call me ignorant and make rude comments, yes, I become defensive.

Good about your defensiveness, take action!!! Get you chit in order!!! When you step up to any of us, then you step correct. At all times. If you don't want to do that, then you do not need to be a part of us. We don't want you and your kind in our organizations. We are well enough alone...

tld221 03-24-2008 01:30 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622707)
exactally... you are a MEMBER and are continuing to learn.... I am not given the same information because I am not a MEMBER

RIGHT so refrain from using "soror." thanks!

Velocity_14 03-24-2008 01:31 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622703)
well then I guess I dont know shit then. I go off of what I have been told from informationals.... sorry for being a real person that trusts answers I receive from bros and sorors

We. Are. NOT. Your. Sorors.

You. Do. NOT. Have. Any. Sorors.

icelandelf 03-24-2008 01:32 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622697)
First off I did not say I have enough information. I only mentioned sororities that I had NO information about. I have more information and have had more communication with both of those sororities. I don't know enough about ANY sorority, or I would not be here as I have stated many times! Read my first post, there is no hostility, but when people call me ignorant and make rude comments, yes, I become defensive.

I've had about enough. I'm officially going to help you out here--

NPHC=National Pan-Hellenic Council.

Next, YOU ARE IGNORANT. No one called you out before, although you wrongly accused us of doing so. I'm doing it now.

Finally, this is me being effing hostile. You need to go away. Srsly.

LatinaAlumna 03-24-2008 01:33 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622711)
THAT WAS NOT MY QUESION!

Did you, or did you not, ASK TO KNOW HOW PEOPLE CHOSE TO PURSUE THEIR ORGANIZATIONS?

I told you how I chose mine, twice now.

:rolleyes:

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:35 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622703)
well then I guess I dont know shit then. I go off of what I have been told from informationals.... sorry for being a real person that trusts answers I receive from bros and sorors

And do you ask as many bullisht questions as you have done here? You really think there is anonminity here? Okey. Whatever. Good Luck With That!!!

And I am NOT your soror!!!

ladygreek 03-24-2008 01:36 AM

wow, how did I miss this?

To ....:
I am being serious when I say if the NPHC sororities on your campus have not grabbed your heart, then they are not for you. As for the other two, since they are not on your campus you would have to wait until they return, or consider intaking through an alumnae chapter.

You need to realize that joining a NPHC (National Pan-Hellenic Council--the difference in the names is that we hyphenate Pan-Hellenic instead of making it one word) means a LIFETIME commitment. You will be expected to join an alumnae chapter and continue your service and sisterhood through that NPHC org.

I agree that websites do not give you a feel for the full nature of an org, which is why you need to talk to RL NPHC members.

*Why am I being so nice this weekend? :confused: :eek: *

Velocity_14 03-24-2008 01:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Velocity_14 (Post 1622713)
We. Are. NOT. Your. Sorors.

You. Do. NOT. Have. Any. Sorors.

^^^Again I say.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:37 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622714)
WOW MY KIND? you know nothing about me the only thing you know is that I have been misinformed about greek life.

Sweetheart, I already have seen enough that you could never be in any of my chapter meetings as obstinent as you are... You'd start crying the minute they say welcome...

tld221 03-24-2008 01:38 AM

::: hoping some of sistergreek ladygreek's niceness rubs off on me before daybreak :::

LatinaAlumna 03-24-2008 01:39 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622722)
I asked about your journey... did you chose to research sororities not offered on your campus? Did you talk to people from other chapters of the sorority that you were looking into? everyone does the basics that wants to be in a sorority. I wanted to know the things that people did above and beyond the basics.

My journey = my personal business.

I gave you the basic areas that I explored prior to making my decision to pursue membership.

Every person's journey is different. I can tell you this, though: You're not doing it right.

Velocity_14 03-24-2008 01:40 AM

This may be an appropriate time to give "....." the cure.....

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:40 AM

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Originally Posted by ladygreek (Post 1622723)
wow, how did I miss this?

To ....:
I am being serious when I say if the NPHC sororities on your campus have not grabbed your heart, then they are not for you. As for the other two, since they are not on your campus you would have to wait until they return, or consider intaking through an alumnae chapter.

You need to realize that joining a NPHC (National Pan-Hellenic Council--the difference in the names is that we hyphenate Pan-Hellenic instead of making it one word) means a LIFETIME commitment. You will be expected to join an alumnae chapter and continue your service and sisterhood through that NPHC org.

I agree that websites do not give you a feel for the full nature of an org, which is why you need to talk to RL NPHC members.

*Why am I being so nice this weekend? :confused: :eek: *

S/he doesn't think s/he has enough information about your sorority... ;)

icelandelf 03-24-2008 01:42 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622722)
I asked about your journey... did you chose to research sororities not offered on your campus? Did you talk to people from other chapters of the sorority that you were looking into? everyone does the basics that wants to be in a sorority. I wanted to know the things that people did above and beyond the basics.

and you figure if you keep asking, over and over and over and over and over and over and over, you'll essentially wear everyone down with your good naturedness and sweet curiosity, and we'll all just tell you. I think I got it now. :rolleyes:

Velocity_14 03-24-2008 01:43 AM

http://www.smilieshq.com/smilies/fighting0049.gif

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:43 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622729)
Actually yes I do ask as many questions in person as I do and no question is a "bullshit" question in my opinion. Just because you already know the information does not mean that you should look down on me.

Quote feature is your friend!!!

Then ASK them!!! We are looking down at you because you think you have anonminity here... Good luck thinking that way!!!

Come here with appropriate questions, and we will give you appropriate answers until we tell you to SEARCH!!! When we say it, it is not because we like saying it. It is because it has been asked before and you can read, learn and come to your own conclusions...

But real time, face to face is what gives you the full flavor of these organizations.

nittanyalum 03-24-2008 01:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Velocity_14 (Post 1622737)

LOL.

Best. smiley. ever.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:45 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622733)
I already knew if I wanted to undergo MIP for the others I would have to go elsewhere

Wow :eek: !!

Velocity_14 03-24-2008 01:46 AM

^^^we have to treat b*tchazzness on site....lol.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Velocity_14 (Post 1622742)
^^^we have to treat b*tchazzness on site....lol.

I was going to say not to skate over to mine because s/he wasn't selected for the other two on his/her campus...

Please let it be an HBCU! Please! http://www.pledgepark.com/images/smilies/google.gif

ladygreek 03-24-2008 01:57 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622733)
Well thank you for your honest opinion. I already knew if I wanted to undergo MIP for the others I would have to go elsewhere

I think you need to honestly ask yourself why do you want to join a sorority? If it is because of the "collegiate" experience you have seen--stepping, strolling, parties, etc. that is not a good reason considering that should be only three-four years at the most.

If you are really looking for a lifetime sisterhood than you have plenty of time to research, get to know members, participate in activities, etc. We aren't going anywhere, so you can wait and pursue alumnae after you have found what is in your heart.

And to answer you original question, the most influential people in my life happened to have been Deltas, including my mother. And although when I first went to college I was also impressed with another group, I just knew in my heart that Delta was for me.

Are you a first generation college attendee?

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 02:16 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622751)
yes I am.
before coming to college I DID NOT want to be in a sorority because of movies like stomp the yard and because of all the stereotypes and bad things I heard. Since being here, I have decided that I want to be in a sorority because they are exactly the opposite (at least at my campus) of most of the stereotypes.
I was only looking for answers as you stated. You thought you were interested in another org., but you found something better for you in the one you chose.

1) Entertainment avenues NEVER provide accurate information. They never can and never will. These organizations are like learn as you go. Like on the job training.

2) Then you get to college and you magically discover that they are opposite to what you thought. That hurts.

3) Then IMO, you are missing Ladygreek's point for choosing her sorority--she chose it because it was in her heart. That is the keyword here. She may have glanced at others for a split second, infinitesimal moment. But thrashing about to say, "Is XYZ sorority really for me"--what more do we need to sell you on with our merits?

Honey, it is either there or its not... Either you feel something or you don't...

Most of us all agree on that...

We will all agree that being part of organization takes lots of work, patience and management, but we had it in our very hearts to pursue our respective sororities.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 02:58 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622757)
I never said it was your issue. I asked for your story and you FINALLY gave it. I never asked anyone to care about me, my situation, or my journey. My question? How did YOU choose? That was my ownly question from the start and everything else that was said by everyone else was away from what I was asking. Thank you for you responses though, even though it always seems like you have to end with some form of hostility, a put down, or venturing to look down on me.

You need to phrase your question differently because the pronoun "you" capitalized is being interpreted differently from your implied intent.

And we also said your question that you are seeking has been said before, ad nauseum, and we are tired of it.

Your feelings are hurt because we know you have failed to do your research and are obsequious when we say to search again.

Others can view that I did not have a choice... But, everyone has a choice in these matters. I chose to be with my family and heritage.

And well, you choose how to want to respond and how to feel. And if you feel demeaned, because there are directed questions toward you, I can tell you not to pursue a doctorate in any field, because you will be made to feel a lot worse...

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 03:07 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622759)
You seem to be such a negative person. I haven't heard one positive statement from you since the first post. You are set in your beliefs and will not take time to see anyone else's point of view. I give up.

Well honey, you seem such a lazy person that has caused the cynic in me to give up on the future of our youth, since you started this dumbassed thread. You seem so set in your mantra and you are unwilling to hear the truth of the matter. And if you ever are extended an invitation to any NPHC sorority, I hope you do not join, because you would be late to the first initial meeting.

Now, how does that help you get off your duff and do what you need to do?

Is this how you pursue a career?

ETA: is this how you you show humility? You want what we've got! How humble is that?

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 03:33 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622761)
Anyway,

Like I said, I FELT differently about the situation.
YOU in no way have an affect over me
I will find the sorority that fits me and after speaking with you, I do not plan on having a bias against AKA because of how YOU feel about me.
And believe me HONEY I will make it a lot farther, have more dedication, and plan to do a lot more for the sorority I CHOSE to join then you could ever imagine. YOU know nothing about me and therefore do not have an opinion about me that actually matters. As I stated before, I do have more to learn. I admit that. YOU can't admit that you are stubborn and closed-minded to the point that you do not even acknowledge the thoughts or opinios of others. It also seems that you look down on me, but I am to the point that I don't care how you think about me because as it stands right now, you will never matter in my life.

To me, your opinions about MY letters I have worn for over 18 years means very little to me. You want what I have had for a long time--membership into a sorority.

You still have to pass the paper screen. And you are either approved or not. Try to ensure that for yourself. Everyone's process varies.

Now, we can request for your IP address, then add 2 + 2 together to find where you are. Then our networks of chapter communication is satellite linked.

But, hey, I don't have to worry about you. Your arrogance will cause you to stumble. The audacity for you project your hurt and anger onto me to the point you feel inadequate and insecure. That is unfortunate for you. And I am not stating merely my opinions about membership... I am stating facts--especially those that relate to Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.

And really, you should want to know more about me and what I do beyond the letters that I wear. The magnitude of all GCers in the NPHC is amazing. We are more than our pre-emptive plans we have thought before gaining entrance in the most transformative event in our lives.

But, you will be lucky if I decided to say anything remarkable to you anymore with a nasty attitude you are displaying now... :rolleyes:

ETA: I am rarely wrong. And if I find that I am, I will apologize. But usually, because I am alot older than you, and it has something to do with joining my Sorority, I am rarely wrong. And it is not my opinion. It is a fact.

Bluetiful 03-24-2008 03:35 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622757)
Thank you for you responses though, even though it always seems like you have to end with some form of hostility, a put down, or venturing to look down on me.

A simple "thank you AKA Monet" would have been more than enough! She REALLY has extended herself for you in this thread and yet you're accusing her in the same sentence you're thanking her!? :confused:

I wish you would stop posting. I feel embarrased for you. You don't LISTEN or in this case, you don't READ. You have an answer for everything and I don't mean that in a good way. If you are always this way, my guess is that no NPHC org will ever invite you to join. My advice to you: Save any bit of dignity you may have left (and pray to God that noone has figured out who you are yet) and simply step away from the keyboard. Just don't post anymore. Don't reply. Just don't. No matter what. Don't do it. Start fresh. Leave this in your past. LEARN FROM THIS EXPERIENCE and don't make the same mistake twice! If you don't know what "mistake" I'm referring to, then you haven't learned what you need to learn from this experience! Go back and read this thread from the beginning. Allow it to teach you. LatinaAlumna's posts did indeed answer your question early on. Regardless of what organization you are trying to learn about, her answers/posts can be applied to any organization. You're not seeing it, but it's all there in her posts.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 03:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Bluetiful (Post 1622764)
A simple "thank you AKA Monet" would have been more than enough! She REALLY has extended herself for you in this thread and yet you're accusing her in the same sentence you're thanking her!? :confused:

I wish you would stop posting. I feel embarrased for you. You don't LISTEN or in this case, you don't READ. You have an answer for everything and I don't mean that in a good way. If you are always this way, my guess is that no NPHC org will ever invite you to join. My advice to you: Save any bit of dignity you may have left (and pray to God that noone has figured out who you are yet) and simply step away from the keyboard. Just don't post anymore. Don't reply. Just don't. No matter what. Don't do it. Start fresh. Leave this in your past. LEARN FROM THIS EXPERIENCE and don't make the same mistake twice! If you don't know what "mistake" I'm referring to, then you haven't learned what you need to learn from this experience! Go back and read this thread from the beginning. Allow it to teach you. LatinaAlumna's posts did indeed answer your question early on. Regardless of what organization you are trying to learn about, her answers/posts can be applied to any organization. You're not seeing it, but it's all there in her posts.

S/he said she doesn't need to know anything more about Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc... LOL...

Bluetiful 03-24-2008 03:49 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622761)
YOU can't admit that you are stubborn and closed-minded to the point that you do not even acknowledge the thoughts or opinions of others. It also seems that you look down on me, but I am to the point that I don't care how you think about me because as it stands right now, you will never matter in my life.


Oh, and insulting a member of an organization one is craving to join, is NEVER a good thing. It's about respect and you haven't displayed one bit of it on this thread. That's only ONE of the lessons you can learn from this experience ;)

Bluetiful 03-24-2008 03:54 AM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1622765)
S/he said she doesn't need to know anything more about Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc... LOL...

She only said that because after all this she realized that Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. is the one and only sorority for her! LOL

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 03:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Bluetiful (Post 1622768)
She only said that because after all this she realized that Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. is the one and only sorority for her! LOL

Oh, we'll see him/her bandwagoning in DC in July... Sad part is s/he will probably be with the MIAKAs since s/he chooses to believe the hype...

What is unfortunate is that s/he might not have the GPA or course units to even join no NPHC organization. So why think about what s/he will do regardless of what I say when s/he cannot pass the paper screen?

Bluetiful 03-24-2008 04:06 AM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1622769)
What is unfortunate is that s/he might not have the GPA or course units to even join no NPHC organization. So why think about what s/he will do regardless of what I say when s/he cannot pass the paper screen?

You're such a negative person! Do you ever have anything positive to say? :D

ladygreek 03-24-2008 04:23 AM

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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622751)
You thought you were interested in another org., but you found something better for you in the one you chose.

You misunderstood me, or I wasn't clear. I went to college with Delta in my heart. That was tested by another org., but Delta won out BECAUSE it was truly in my heart.

That is the key to choosing an org to pursue.

ETA: I should have read ahead sistergreek Monet, you hit my point on the nail. :D

DArtist 03-24-2008 08:47 AM

With this being said, I would suggest that you stop now while the "getting is good," as my pawpaw would say.

In this realm the words that you speak, echoes volumes. These sisters have been through this for quite some time, as well as intercepting questions such as this and attempting to guide those of less comprehension to the right path.

Argue not with them, read what has been posted as well as the info that has been posted from those before you, pray on it and move on sis.

DArtist 03-24-2008 08:48 AM

This was for the young lady that started this thread with ......... What kind of name is that anyway?

OmegaPDPrez 03-24-2008 11:01 AM

why is it that everyone who felt the OP's question was answered in previous posts chose to repsond a similar answer. I understand that topics like these are unecessary, but to have a multitude of the same answer seemed a bit much. These types of posts need to be immediately closed by a mod

Senusret I 03-24-2008 11:28 AM

I don't think threads should ever be closed.

Members can police their members -- outsiders can't be policed.

OmegaPDPrez 03-24-2008 11:45 AM

the people just come back for more...
ok

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Bluetiful (Post 1622770)
You're such a negative person! Do you ever have anything positive to say? :D

I am electric! :rolleyes:

I can become protons when the pH changes.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by OmegaPDPrez (Post 1622829)
why is it that everyone who felt the OP's question was answered in previous posts chose to repsond a similar answer. I understand that topics like these are unecessary, but to have a multitude of the same answer seemed a bit much. These types of posts need to be immediately closed by a mod

S/he refused to believe what we were saying and what was said on our websites and the alleged informationals s/he attended in real life, was consistent with what we were saying on GC.

Actually, that is rather shocking to find that all the stars align like that. It means that it is the truth of the matter at hand.

S/he needs to find his/her own truth as to why s/he desires membership rather than asking us to make the decision for him/her.


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