Pretty close to mine. Although, at my age, throw in that grown kids are ok too.
Also, they are open-minded, athletic and are not a penny-pincher

This should offend your sensibilities because you're allergic to idiots. :) Idiots should be avoided at all costs, REGARDLESS of anything else.

So it's good that you never told him you liked him because it's not a good idea to have idiot friends, in the first place, let alone try to date or marry one. However, you should've told him that he's an idiot and that you're considering no longer acknowledging his existence.

What I said about the stilettos was that I don't find them attractive. You're right, it's wrong to judge anyone with the way he/she may dress, and when I 1st signed on to greekchat that was my thinking, but after chatting some of the members, I've come to realize that it's dead wrong to prejudge anyone based on their attire. Now, with that said, no I don't prejudge based on attire, but stilettos along with anklets, weaves, fake nails, fake contacts (hazel color, brown, blue, green, or whatever color it doesn't make me a difference one way or the other), fake eyelashes or anything else that's fake is a turn off to me. Fashionable or not. Does it make the woman a bad person? No it doesn't. It simply means I find it unattractive. We all have a preference with who or what we're attracted to, that just happens to be mine.

About the joker who said he wouldn't marry a black woman is shallow and ignorant. To me, a woman is a woman, I don't care about the race. As long as I'm physically attracted to her, and she respects herself and me.

DSTChaos- well, I can assure you that in my case, it has NOT happened again. Everyone else since then has been good or at least decent. None of them may have been the one for me, but I cannot think of any of them that had anything horrendously and pathologically wrong with them.

Most unrealistically high standard- some of the stuff I have read on magazines that have made people lose interest. Such as "he wore white socks with black pants and black loafers". Or "he has to make a six figure income".

Regarding my standards:

- respectful and kind (ie- NOT being abusive)
- faithful (ie- NOT being adulterous)
- financially responsible
- intelligent and ambitious (and has at least some sort of post-secondary education)
- has interests in common with me, as well as some individual ones
- shares my moral and spiritual values
- healthy and has good hygiene and dresses well
- belongs to an ethnic group that I feel comfortable with and attracted to (PLEASE do not flame me for this one)
- is creative and imaginative

It's good that you learned from your experience(s).

See...exactly...the kids (as I have gotten older) iI kind of bend to because most women my age range have grown kids but 20 years ago it was a deal breaker.

As a woman, I don't even like fake stuff. I don't like fake nails, colored contacts (on men or women), weaves, fake eyelashes, (what I consider to be) excessive makeup, or fake body parts.

So I can understand why a man would find those things unattractive and would not want to date a woman with that stuff. I think people who need to doctor themselves up like that are fake on the outside and sometimes on the inside, too.

I don't wear anklets and don't see women wearing them often.

However, when I wear stilettos, I wear certain types of stilettos with certain types of outfits and to certain types of events. I think that PB just hasn't seen stylishly sophisticated women who don't confuse stilettos with hooker gear. :D Product of his environment? Perhaps.

I forgot to mention tatoos and body piercings. Ears only. Anywhere else is a deal breaker.

LOL. I would have to agree with you on this one.:p

I just really prefer the conservative librarian look.

PB...it doesn't matter...your standards will change and you don't have any say so over the kids until she says you do.


I tell you what....a bad sign for me is if she introduces or lets me be aroun dher children very early on.

If our first date involves me being with her and her child....it's kind of a turn off for many reasons.

My mom didnt do that with me.

I find it funnny that I have naturally shoulder length hair and that some of the women that I have met had to go out and buy it......LOL

As it was said, women got fake hair fake eyes fake breasts but screaming that thye want a real man....

heh.

I try to avoid the kids if I can, which is the reason why I frequently rob the cradle. I look way younger than my real age, so I use it to my advantage.;) Kids are definitely not a deal breaker though.

Question. Why is it a turn off if she introduces you to her Bay Bay's kids:D early on?

Posts like this make you seem boring as hell. LOL.

I love to wear flats but flats don't go with every outfit and with every event. ;) Plus, the flyest librarians wear stilettos with pencil skirts.

who?

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> DSTCHAOS






PB<<<<<<<<<<<



DST I don't think you are hoe-ish enough for him





maybe he likes them like this:



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Uh...you might not have had "naturally" shoulder length hair if you didn't have dreds. I know a lot of women who couldn't grow their hair and wore weaves and wigs UNTIL they grew dreds.

It's also funny when men don't know when women are fake from head to toe. :cool: A woman can't be shockingly beautiful when you've never seen her in her raw beauty.

whether I had it short or long...I have never liked weaves...I like women natural....

I think that the more fakeness there is, the more is trying to be compensated.

I don't know your interests and personality. But you'll find a woman who can deal with all of that, if you haven't found her already. :)

He's talking about cheerfulgreek. :)

yeah....ssuuuuuuurrrreee....why not....? too much drama?


hahahahah

And paranoia is always creative. ;)

1. Ugly
2. Fake
3. Hoochie looking

Anything else to add? LOL.

get outta my head.

I hinted at this earlier. I'm desperately seeking someone with the same level ambition. As for education, a bachelor's degree is fine. I'm three months away from getting my Master's, I usually attract those with community/career college educations (if I'm lucky). I consider my level of ambition to be average (perhaps realistic). I'm seeking a 9 to 5 job, and starting a small business on the side when I graduate. I attract those with really low ambition (doesn't mind working at a gas station forever) or those with really high ambition (wants to be come a professional athlete or musician). I don't consider my standards for education and ambition that high. What is going on?

What a funny dealbreaker!

Get out more. No, really. I can see not feeling comfortable with certain people as a group, that's pretty natural. But, it's not impossible to find someone as an individual from an different ethnic group that you feel comfortable with. Throwing out whole racial/ethnic groups really shrinks your dating pool.

Yes, that's a big turn-off for me also.

But, they are rumored to be better in bed. :p I think someone with a nipple (or whatever) piercing would do more freaky things. I might be wrong though.

Not necessarily so...just because you got extra tools to use doesn't mean that one is adept at using them ;)

Tyra had an excellent show on this that I caught on Oxygen yesterday. :) It spoke to this thread excellently.

While I despise "social experiments" done by talk shows, this one was interesting enough to spark dialogue.

This very sexy Asian man (not "starang21 sexy" but close) on the experiment panel made a point to announce that not all Asian men are nerds with small penises. The fact that he felt the NEED to announce that is crazy, but oh well. Toward the end, the panelists had to choose panelists to ask to be their fake life partners. All the women declined the Asian man's offer of life partnership because he's Asian. :(

but they are smart cumputer geeks with great martial arts skills and make lots of money by funneling it thru the Yakuza...what more could a woman ask for?

As I get older, I have been surprised at who I've become attracted to. Yes, there are men with receding hairlines that I have found very attractive in recent years. I never would've guessed that would happen! (although I did always find myself more attracted to eyes and smiles than anything else).

I also think we end up with more deal breakers over time, but they change as we learn from experience.

Perfect guy for me.. this guy that keeps showing up in my dreams. I'm waiting for the day I actually meet him in person!

But seriously. I'm getting to a point where I really like being alone. I can't imagine having to share a closet with someone else. I want to sit where I want and be in charge of the remote all the time. I don't want to work around someone else. The longer I'm single, the worse it gets.. more set in my ways. So now? I think a long term, every other weekend relationship sounds perfect. I'll see him more when the kids are grown and moved out. He can even move into the house next door to me, but please don't make me do his laundry.

:confused:

o.k. the fake PB thing is getting ridiculous now.:rolleyes: 1st of all this doesn't sound like you (the real PB)....well, it doesn't sound like something you would post. I had to double check the join date and post number, and 2nd I almost sent the wrong PB a very private PM, and 3rd I'm tired of referring to PB as being the real PB.:mad:

I'm telling John and a moderator. Sending PM now.http://www.splbassx.com/forums/style...lt/compute.gif

You said that time will show a joker so I was "poetically" warning you not to be so paranoid, based on previous experiences, that you end up creating a problem where there is none. :)