Good luck! Today, all my sorority friends came in to class and looked like the walking dead. Must have been tiring.

Don't pay attention to the "reputation". I have met girls from both ends of the "reputation spectrum" and all of them were very nice.

we aren't close enough that i'll hear about everything (at least not until bid day)-- but hopefully hoosiergirl will keep everyone updated with some good stories!! :)

seriously, how much dirty rushing goes on? we walked into a room at a certain house and a girl was getting "hot boxed" the girl giving me the tour i think was pretty nervous i would say something, but im not going to, i was just wondering...b/c i have a friend who said a girl at a different house dirty rushed her and said they were going to be bestfriends when she joined. she reported it to our rho gamma, even tho she said she loved the house so idk why she would, but she did. haha anyways...how much goes on intentionally?? b/c i did get the "ill see you in two months" a couple of times but i think thats just out of anticipation

and yes. this is TORTURE! i hateee waiting, but i guess it gives me time to really think about/see who was being fake or not. I wish we did not have to rank our top 12 right at the 2nd night of rush being over. It ended at 6, and my rankings were in by 730. Now, I had time to think, and it seemed as if some answers were practiced. The "what made this chapter stand out for you?" question was always answered with "the girls were all genuine and real when i talked to them." Which kind of makes me feel like they knew what was coming, and how to respond. before rush, i was told that recruitment is a "shady process" by a nice girl in one of the chapters i went to dinner at. At first, i didn't think it would be, but the more i have found out, the more I understand. I still love rush 100%, I just hope I find the right chapter. :] thanks for all the support girls, it was so draining, but probably the most fun daytime activity(haha) i have done here yet.

In Kappa Delta Chi recruitment is different than it is from traditional sororities, we invite anyone who's interested to informationals and hold a rush period. If KDChi is a sisterhood you'd like to be involved in and you meet the academic, community service, events coordinating and fundraising requirements (which are challenging enough to weed out the dedicated leaders from the rest of the pack) then you continue on through the process to become a sister. In our sisterhood there is no checking on parents background, financial standing etc. Our sisterhood is about who you are, what you bring to the table and how you stand out on campus so that you can add to a group of other ladies who want to inspire you to be better.

We also don't feel "rushed" during our process because it gives you plenty of time to get to know the sisters on campus, the organizations founding and values so that you can decide for yourself in a realistic setting if this sorority is for you. It's a pretty huge decision to make if in fact you are going to be a part of it for life.

Gina
kappadeltachi.com

Prior to joining my sorority, they never checked on my parents' background or financial standing. Whether or not I was able to afford my dues was of concern to them and not anything else. Who my parents are and how much they make was not a determining factor in my invitation to membership.

I understand that you're trying to spread the word about your organization, but please refrain from posting assumptions like the ones above. :rolleyes:

Thanks.

And please refrain from derailing threads so you can recruit for your org. I know little to nothing about your organization, but spreading the good word all over message boards isn't the way to promote an organization...

checking of parental background and financial standing is all a myth.

ahh ok!!! so please keep posting!!! i'm what happened

HoosierGirl, are you still around?:D:D

:)

I am so sorry - am I correct in remembering that a new sorority is colonizing soon? That would be a great opportunity!

You're probably thinking of another Big 10 school with a gazillion chapters and gorgeous chapter mansions---Illinois is adding Alpha Xi Delta.

Yep, I confused the two "I"s. Sorry.

are any chapters doing COB

:)

i too am sorry that things didn't work in your favor this recruitment. one thing to consider for next year, is that you have one recruitment under your belt, so you will know what to expect, should you decide to participate next year.

no matter what, keep your grades up and find an organization/club or two that really interests you and join in. you may meet some sorority members in class or in a club and they may remember you come recruitment next year.

Also contact Panhellenic (http://mypage.iu.edu/~lbristow/)to see who may be doing open recruitment. AGD's website seemed to indicate they were but the links are now inactive so it may be from last year. Your observations are correct but learn from the experience and give it a go next year if COB doesn't work out. Good Luck!

Reality in my case. One chapter called my parents to confirm some of the information that I had provided on my panhellenic registration form, as well as get more info about my family and what my parents did for a living. How do I know this? My dad told me--he had no idea what was going on since he knew nothing about Greek life. Then, in a late round, the sisters who were assigned to me that night "casually" mentioned things like, "Sooooooo, your dad's in the medical field??????"

:cool:

Mine too but I wasn't really shocked. As Rushees, we had to put the information on the forms. There was a 99.9% chance that the sororities were going to verify it.

I've heard of verifying grades but never parent's incomes.

Yea, dad might be a "doctor" but whose to say that although he looks like a big shot, the practice isn't about to go into bankruptcy.

That's carrying things too far.

Coming from the south, I knew enough about sororities to realize that someone might verify and collect more information.

But I agree that knowing what a parent does tells only part of the story. A chapter should not assume that a mother or father who is in a blue collar profession doesn't have a million in the bank. I think most collegians and advisers would agree that the most important thing is not whether the PARENTS have money, but whether the PNM has the financial responsibility to handle money wisely and be current on her dues. My roommate paid all of her college expenses as well as dues, and she did so by holding down a restaurant manager job while also going to school full time. And maintaining a high GPA.

Conversely, there were plenty of women in my chapter who had a lot of family money and they didn't know the first thing about fiscal responsibility.

im sorry, i forgot to post after my rounds...but i joined KD!! :)

Welcome to the sisterhood!

DaffyKD

Welcome to Kappa Delta!!! :)

Belated congratulations to you and Kappa Delta!

congrats!
 

I am so glad your story had a happy ending! All the best, and enjoy KD!:):):)

Congrats on joining the Lovely Ladies of Kappa Delta!

We have a KD on board. Congrats!

One thing I would like to add:

checking of parental background and financial standing is not a myth.

It may not be done everywhere, but it is done and it can make a difference if you are chosen to be in a certain sorority or not.

Like 99.9% of things about sorority rush, this varies from chapter to chapter and school to school. I edited your post to more accurately reflect this fact. You're welcome. :)

Congrats on KD!

[quote=33girl;1620380]Like 99.9% of things about sorority rush, this varies from chapter to chapter and school to school. I edited your post to more accurately reflect this fact. You're welcome. :)[/quote

Very sweet of you to follow behind me and clarify. (I should not have stated that so boldly)

Not rushing again...dunzo.

Good-luck! Hopefully, your first experience will have taught you a lot and you'll have a successful recruitment this time around. :)

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A few tips for you:

1.) Make sure you read other recruitment threads on this site. Learn from others' mistakes.. and from their successes.

2.) Ask in-depth questions and answer questions with well-thought out responses. For example: Don't say, "I really want to be in a sorority." Say, "I want to be a member of a life-long sisterhood that allows me to grow in positive ways." Analyze what you're saying and use some "bigger" words and full sentences.

3.) Do your research. Visit the websites of each group. You have a good amount of time before recruitment really starts. "Study" things about each chapter, and offer that information when asking questions. Instead of asking, "What do you do for your philanthropy?".. ask, "I know that your national philanthropy is the Special Olympics. Do you support that cause by volunteering at events, or by donating money.. or both? And if you do raise money, how do you go about doing that?" Be informed and interested!

4.) Don't look at being a sophomore as a negative thing. Turn it into a positive. You've already been through the process, so you can learn from it.

5.) ...But because you are a sophomore, you need to stand out. And while your past accomplishments are important, look beyond them in order to do that. Make people remember YOU. For some, I've heard that they've stood out simply because while most PNMs would wear black dresses to more formal days of recruitment, they would wear a red or orange dress. Don't be overly obvious (or weird), but do something that makes you stand apart from the group without looking desperate. A friend of a friend actually went through recruitment at a slightly larger school, and in casual conversation with a sister of one chapter, she mentioned a cute nickname she had in high school that had her name included in it. She received a bid to another sorority, but when she saw that girl that she had talked to a few weeks later, she remembered her nickname, and called her by it. Do or say something unique in order to get people to remember you.

6.) Meet and talk to some sorority women outside of recruitment if you haven't already. Get a head start!

7.) Realistically analyze YOUR past recruitment experiences. Seriously ask yourself what you may have done wrong. It could be something incredibly small, but work on getting rid of that behavior before you go back through. It's been said before on this site, and I'll say it again.. you can't go through recruitment a second time the same way you went through the first time and expect to get different results. Change what was bad, and improve what was good.

8.) Good luck!