Are you trying to tell us we can do better?:rolleyes:

You may be right in your own pursuits and fancy, however, since your brain is a organ and tissue, it can get sick just like any other part of your body... Some psychological professionals are trained to assist you come to an civilized conclusion satisfactory to your psyche. Moreover, a psychiatrist who is a medical doctor can prescribe medications that can heal the illness that your genetics in your brain suffers.

It is cool to "stand on your own 2 feet" and "lift yourself up by your own bootstraps". However, it is more humane to yourself as well as everyone else when we live in a civilized society when you can accept the fact that you need help...

IMHO, you should have posted in the "Dating and Relationships". Yes, I know, big whoopdee doo... But, you are saying you want to learn something from each other... Well, I am quite learned and I have several degrees. But, what I have most, is life experience from very bad storms in my life... So, I know it hurts.

How come you are so very hot and bothered by one woman?

Joe...a little advice that can help.

Women don't 'like' assholes. We like self-confidence. That's why we wind up with total pricks. Nice guys finish last because they're so concerned with how we are, are we okay, what are we feeling? Self-confidence, bro. That's what you need.

My other advice-you need atypical places to look for chicks. My advice are martial arts classes. Not because you're asian. Because they develop self-confidence, so as you're learning to be more assertive, chicks in those classes will notice that and it will come out. Take from it from an ex-martial artist. I hate saying that but it doesn't look like I'll get back to practicing anytime soon. Single guy, single girl. A martial arts class is a great way to meet people. It really is. Some of my best friends came from there. Some of my ex-boyfriends came from there!

Self-confidence my man. We don't want an asshole, we want a self-confident nice guy.

I am not homosexual and some of my best friends are guys...and they don't want to secretly "bed" me as you put it...just b/c this might be your story does not mean all guys are like that...if you are in your 30's you need to grow up and learn to deal with life....there are much worse things going on then you not having a good date

IMHO it's bullshit, yeah there are a lot of people that fit into either an A or B type personality, but i've known way more that show traits of both or have a lot of gray areas.

Well . . that might not be true lol. How would you know for sure?

If you are conventionally attractive there is probably some, potentially sublimated, sexual attraction there . . .

I was never "assigned" a number and I'm a Sigma Nu.

Hahahahhahahahahahaha:D

Hahahahahahahahaha:p

wtf? :confused:

Awww...come on ladies...why are you all giving this guy a hard time...you can see he is sensitive.,..I mean after all he drove home crying... (insert snicker here)



and...he even talked to the hoe (I mean girl) after the date despite she scored (and he didnt) on thier date.....(actualy I will give her props for that, you can't get more ballsy than having sex with a guy you met on a date that wasn't your date...while your date was nearby)

(sidebar: can I ask a question.........and you didn't kick somebody's ass beeeecauussee....?)

what more can u ask for?

in other words he is a punk arsed beeeeyyyooottch.

Wow. Stereotype much? Surely your logic skills aren't so faulty that you'd actually believe that all American wives are substandard to their Asian counterparts?

So your ONE DATE with Kelly was a bust. Can you really say you fell in love with her? That's an awfully strong feeling (love) for someone who doesn't even like women. Obviously, Kelly didn't feel the same way about you. (Or, who knows, maybe she did five years ago, but it's taken you so long to muster up the courage to ask her out that she just couldn't see it happening.)

I agree that you should seek some professional help. It sounds like you've had your heart broken (maybe several times), and you're not sure how to mend it. While I'd be willing to bet everyone here has experience with being let-down in love, you're bound to find more helpful advice from someone who has counseled others in your situation.

I bet money that it's Kelly writing these posts

I disagree. I really think Joe's writing it. In fact... this guy sounds remarkable like a guy I went to grad school with.... whose name, of course, was Joe!

Hmmm sure looks like a phone number to me.

Warning bell going off here :mad:

According to Wrecking Crew above, that isn't a Sigma Nu number.:confused:

This smacks way too loudly of the occipitofrontal thread saying we were too out there , talked about sex, being a "lush" :rolleyes: and enjoyed Nascar too much. The age mention again is curious.

I have nothing...

Not all men are misogynists. But I suspect you might be showing tendencies of one.

Yep, I think it's Sirikwan.

Yet you post that you were a former Sigma Nu, post what looks like a phone number and slam every good piece of advice you've gotten. Are you done using us yet?:confused:

Wow, for so many oppossed to the thread itself, there's no shortage of people chiming in to make fun of me. Whatever, it's all good, I'm just happy that I'm honest above all.

I don't need to post here, anymore... while there are some good posters, most are just here to pile on. Could've been a long productive conversation, because once everyone just loosens up about their own prejudices, you really learn something interesting.

And to the guy that pm'ed me, no, no numbers, thanks. I did buy a damn brick though. I hope it's preserved well.

Over and out.

Yeah, when two people both think it's Sirikwan and "Joe's" only reply is, "Over and out," well... I think we have a winner (or, in this case, two). Good sleuthing, kathykd and icelandelf!

Fine. I am calling BS on your claim to be a Sigma Nu then.

Feel free to create another account where you do not claim to be something that you're not.

I don't recall sirikwan's writing to be as intelligible as this guy's...unless he's taken grammar and punctuation lessons during the past few weeks.

Hahahahahahahahaha. OMG this is so funny.:p

(Oh geez, my sides...cough, cough :()

This is true.

Hey Joseph, here's my two cents man. I read your post earlier but I didn't have time to respond to it. Dude, why would you cry over a hoe? I understand you were upset, but you gotta let a hoe be a hoe. You should be glad you saw this, now you know she wasn't for you. When she called why did you even pick up the phone? If you have a cell phone you should have recognized who it was. I would have let the skank go to v-mail. Also, about your comment about American women making bad wives. You said you want a submissive Asian wife. Nothing wrong with that, if that's your preference, but women are going to be women no matter where they're from. As far as you talking about the hoes you run into is concerned, that's also all across the board. Hoes are everywhere dude. They're in Asia, Europe, North and South America. Hell, if there was life on Mars, it would have its share hoes too. Hoes are like Bay Bays kids, they don't die they multiply. You seem like a nice guy and I hope you find the right woman. One more last thing. Someone made a comment about nice guys finishing last. That's not true man. Stay the man you are. See, women that like @$$holes are insecure with themselves. Now think about it. Would you buy a used car with high mileage and no warranty? I'm sure you wouldn't. It's the same thing with trifling @$$ women that deal with bad boys. The bad boys put a lot of miles on these stupid women and use up the warranty too. Once the warranty is used up then they want a nice guy. Now he has to deal with all the insecurities this silly no good joker put on her, so why would you want a no good used up woman like that? I wouldn't. Well anyway, take it slow, and don't cry over a slut, it's not worth it. In fact if I were you I wouldn't give a squirt of piss for a slut. Remember what I said, ya gotta let a hoe be a hoe. Sorry for the book, stay cool man, and be yourself. Some decent woman will appreciate you.

Btw. Bad boys ARE NOT Alpha males. They're spineless no good jelly back pricks who have no clue how to respect or treat a lady, so don't let anyone tell you differently.:);)