UW mom, yes flowers are a great idea. First check and see what her sorority's official flower is and send her something with those in it.

My house was the red carnation, which we were never too excited about, so my mom sent me flowers with red carnations and then assorted purple and gold flowers.

I'm not too sure about a good flower source. Ballard Blossom is near by, i hear they have some nice things.

Blasphemy!!!:eek:

I send flowers to my daughter for every special occasion and she loves receiving them and loves her sisters seeing that she receives them.

Congrats to your daughter.

When I pledged Delta Gamma, my Mom sent me cream colored roses (and had the florist put bronze, pink, and blue ribbons on the vase!) and did the same for my Kappa Kappa Gamma roommate. We both thought it was awesome (and a lot of girls on our freshman floor from various chapters were jealous!) and it's a great way to show your daughter that you're proud of her.

I think it touched me a lot also because I did not join the chapter I was a legacy at and it showed me how happy my Mom was for me anyway.

Can I ask a new question of you experienced moms? My daughter went through recruitment last year and didn't get invited back to her 2 top choices. She wasn't sure if she wanted to join a sorority at all, so dropped out after 2nd parties. She then went through COB at the sorority she was a legacy at. For various reasons, she decided not to accept their bid or join any sorority at the time. Now she is rushing again this year and still likes this house the best. She was invited back to 2nd parties there today, but finds out tomorrow if she is invited to the 3rd (there are 4 parties total). Do you think her decision to decline their COB bid last year will affect her chances to get a bid this year?

I think it'll depend on the reason she gave (if any) and any relationships she has maintained with the girls over the year.

Please ignore my user name--it started out as a joke, and now it's just..well, lame.

Anyway, I'm so sorry that I didn't see this thread yesterday.

Re: Flowers

When my daughter rushed, I called around to various gift/flower shops in Tuscaloosa. They were armed & ready, knew exactly what to do. It was a relief to let someone 'in the know' handle it. I am a klutz about this sort of thing, and I didn't want to embarrass my daughter or overstep my bounds...

May be too late for this advice, but perhaps that's something you could do.

Re: BeeBadger's question:

Hope it works out for your daughter. I know it can be agonizing when you're on the sidelines. My daughter's roommate dropped out of rush beginning of frosh year, and didn't try again. She has since expressed some regret that she didn't, but still has maintained friendship with many of the girls that she met during rush.

Anyway-- good luck to your daughter!

Helicopter1,
I sent you a PM.

Today is Bid Night for my daughter (unless she hears from her Rho Gamma before then! Yikes). I thought the flower idea sounded great. Is there a difference between Bid Night and Pledge Night? Do they still do a special pledging ceremony or is that up to the school/chapter?

Hi, beebadger,

Maybe send some either way?

Also, I checked with the local florists first, so as not to embarrass my kid...

The locals usually have the 411 on what's considered appropriate--in my experience, that is.

I sent flowers to my daughter when she received her bid. I think that the ceremonies are private, but I guess it depends on the organization.

I know one thing for sure: there is a ton of collective knowledge and experience on this site. Use the search function, and read some of previous threads--you might get more specific answers. Sorry if I'm being too vague!

It depends on the school. Some schools have their pledging ceremonies immediately following bid day, and others wait a few days. It also varies by chapters ON that campus. Campuses like the SEC seem to tend to have the pledging ceremonies on Bid Day, because they don't do a lot of COBs...whoever shows up on Bid Day is their pledge class. Campuses that have a lot of next day/week COBing going on will sometimes wait until they COB up to total/quota to do their pledging ceremony so they don't have to repeat it multiple times.

Thanks for the info. Ok. I know I'm going to sound really stupid, but I can't figure out how to access past posts for a topic. Someone wrote that you can find info on practically anything, but I don't know how. I tried "search" and FAQ and neither give me anything. Where ARE these old topics listed??

Whoa whoa whoa, but first, did your daughter get her bid??????

Oops --sorry. Yes, she's s new Gamma Phi! Her cell phone died so she was worried about going to Bid Night and finding out that they HAD called. But she did get her first choice and is very excited. Thanks for all the advice.

Oh, and it was the same sorority that she was offered a COB bid from last year, which she declined. I guess they didn't hold it against her. Whew.

hooray for your daughter!! do send flowers if you can-it really impresses everyone!;)

Congratulations to her and her new chapter and to you too! Your daughter is now also your sister! :)

Oh, yay!! I just got back on from yesterday...

Congratulations to your daughter and Gamma Phi...Yipppeeeee!!!!!!!

Congratulations to the newest Gammie!

Wow, congratulations! I sent flowers to my daughter and I didn't even have to find out what the official flower was. The local florist had done this so many times that they already knew what to do! Also, one of the active sorority members told me not to buy her any sorority merchandise right away because with bid day gifts, buddy gifts, and big sister gifts she would already be getting plenty of sorority merchandise. I must say, she was right!