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Is there any reason why you didn't begin pursuing NPHC in the spring of 2004? I AM SO EXCITED YOU'RE BACK! :D :D |
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As for not pursuing NPHC in Spr 04 - it was just how things panned out. more detail to follow when i get back from lunch. |
Wow, this was a great read! tld221 you are a very good writer..keep it comming..you've helped my afternoon go by faster!!
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I just found this thread, but I'm with the people: Keep it coming! And make it snappy. ;)
Great writing, Soror. |
Fall 04
Summer has come and gone. I'm a junior, i come back to school as an RA and i'm a mentor at a middle school. I work at another middle school as a tutor... i just come back from a summer of interning at an investment bank - life is great! I can tell this is going to be a great year. Sophomore year finished up for me quite depressing. I hadn't told many people about the not getting a bid a 2nd time (only my mom and Chris, at that point (and still) ex-BF but still great friends, seriously!) and it was eating at me the rest of the year. My mom was supportive and always said it was meant to be, that i would just have to play my cards right and be patient. Chris would hear none of it - he'd never been in support of greek life, and more especially because i hadn't been pursuing Black greek life... Until now. Spring 2004 and all of the summer left me lots of time to do my research. As many of you GCers know from the nature of NPHC posters, becoming a member is pretty different. I know, quite an understatement. Someone asked why didn't i just join in Spring 2004. Well, a few reasons: 1. I was still "young." (that's personal i guess) 2. I didn't know much about greek life, and no one i knew was NPHC (but this would change) 3. Even if i did know which org i wanted, I live in NYC - not exactly Greek Country. Pursuing a chapter, much less events and members, proved to be very similar to landing a job... or finding a boyfriend! LOL definintely a needle in the haystack. 4. Community service - clearly a big component of NPHC life, i hadn't done much of it. Not that i would do more or less of it in light of wanting to be greek, but i hadn't done anything "formal" or continuous - a project here and there. In other words, i needed to get on my grind if i wanted to be a member of greek life before i graduated (this is my thinking then). So you know I eventually become a Sigma Gamma Rho, but I'm going to code the other three orgs just because. And all things awesomeness comes in 3's :) I name the orgs the following: Morning Afternoon Night So the essential question is:: What kind of person am I - an early bird, a high tea-loving lady or a night owl? In real life, I'm totally a nite owl. Let's talk about Night first. When I was gathering all i wanted/needed to know about NPHC life, I said, "Oh man, i'm totally a Night person!" and coincidentially all these connections popped up. My aunt (unbeknowst to me) and 2 of my favorite teachers from HS are all Night owls. One of Night's colors isone of my favorite colors. My mentor's best friend is a Night owl. The thing about nighttime is that it's dark... while i seemingly had these connections with various night members, you can't really see in the dark. And since i don't have X-ray vision :cool: well, i wasn't getting anywhere with Night. The local chapter was at a school kinda far and their events were sparse and not well advertised. For the most part I made it my business to make an appearance at their events and get to know their members, I kept stubbing my toe on the nightstand. Well one wil only stand for injuring themselves for so long right? I knew i had to get out of harm's way, but something kept pulling me back to them. I enjoy the Afternoon too - lunchtime, gossip, that whole hour to yourself! I didn't know any Afternoon ladies (well, I discovered that my old gym teacher was an Afternoon - proud of it too, as her daughter was one at Howard and always wore an Afternoon-lettered sweatshirt or cap) but I wanted to! Their website was nice and the most direct i felt in getting what i needed to know. Mind you, at this point everything i know about NPHC is on the internet - websites, message boards (i had just joined GC, and lurked on some other boards), hell I was an avid ATSB reader and even though NOW i can laugh at it, in 2004-2005, ATSB was the TRUTH!). The Afternoon ladies had a decent reputation but it wasn't one i wanted to be known as. At one event I met an afternoon lady and well, she was less than cordial. Impecciably dressed, but utterly unprepared for the event and left out of frustration. I, along with many interested members were so confused - what went wrong?! I think that year one girl my year had crossed in the Afternoon but I was so scared to even ask her about being an Afternoon! There was a chapter at Columbia, but i was too chicken to go there if they had any events going on. I absolutely dread the morning - please don't bother me before 11am! the only thing i enjoy about the morning is breakfast food, and i'll eat that anytime! In checking out the Morning, I wasn't all that impressed with them - something about the colors rubbed me the wrong way (i know - shallow right!). I didn't know anyone, currently or in my past who was a Morning person, but I did meet one in a Duane Reade near campus. It was so awkward, i remember cause i tried to strike up conversation with her. it was an early Sunday morning, i had run out for some stuff and apparently she had a day of studying ahead of her - she had a bulging backpack AND books in her hand. She mustve smelled the interest on me but she did hook me up with information to an event that was coming up... and she said, "Oh i'm sure all of Pan-hell will be there, so you should check it out!" The event was in a couple of weeks and you know I was hype! NICE! Someone was willing to hook me up! Maybe I could grow to enjoy the AM hours? I didn't know much about the morning - I tended to sleep through it if i could get away with it. I used to joke to my residents that my office hours were from 12-6am - that's how much of a night person I am. If i'm sleeping before midnight, i either have somewhere to be the next day (ie. an interview) or i'm sick. Similarily, despite all my setbacks, I wasn't trying to miss out on a chance to stay up late with Night. Ok it's time to go to home, but set your alarms GCers - the next post i'll give you the scoop on how that event went! |
This is soooo creative! And you know I'm trying to read between the lines because I had a friend who was also at NYU (before you got there) and also pursued an NPHC sorority, but was not successful.
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I won't say much about this one.
I don't know about this one. Gone forever, begging posts, way over the top and overly dramatic and wanting lots and lots of attention. Seems concoted and trying to outdo everyone else. But I will wait and see. Something is not right with this one, have no idea but reads like she wants attention and playing both sides against them middle. You never know. Good luck with whatever you do. Interesting read even if it is not real, but I am just back from my JYA and still wired and not chill at all and have been up for two nights straight reading all of these, so I am not getting everything. What ever, way too weird for me but good luck! LOL
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I haven't adjusted to being back yet.
I am TIRED and WIRED. Like I have said that I just got back from my JYA (Junior Year Abroad) and I cannot sleep, my body is STILL on europe time. I am nervous about being gone for a whole year and haven't really talked to anyone. Can't sleep so I have been up all night for several nights and am way too wired. I need to crash big time! I don't live anywhere near where I go to school so I am going back to all of these girls I have no idea who they are and that kinda freaks me. But this one is just odd especially these the so different systems. But I know NOTHING about NPHC, chalk it up to that. Just seems like she was begging for attention and doesn't post in like forever, but I am wired and really tired. I like these as it is getting me ready for the other side of recruitment. Give me a break, I have read these things all night long and several nights and these are soooo different. I was clueless any of this was going on and really do not know who she is. LOL
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TLD221 your PM BOX is FULL :p Empty it. (Or else)
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Welcome to GreekChat, the fraternity and sorority greek chat network. I see you are having difficulty believing what i write and generally think i'm begging for attention. Hmm, let me try to put this is perspective so your stay here at GC is as comfortable as possible. tld221, the frequent SGRho GC poster since late 2003, post count: 1,767 key*key, the random sleep-deprived poster who seems to be drawing her own share of unnecessary attention since...umm... yesterday?: 18 you're almost a senior so surely you understand statistics right? The above information indicates that your paltry 1.01868% of my posts doesn't really hold much weight here. and if teh intarwebz reflects anything about who you are in real life, well then i will have my friend ShamikaT say a prayer for you. I hope you enjoy your stay here, and while you visit my thread, please be sure to play in traffic. The heavier, the better. Love ya! -tld221 |
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who cares!!! No one asked you for all this explanation!!! Keep it moving..*sheesh* <<<<annoyed |
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( ::thinks abuot creating a new GC handle to post insane BS so people can reply "TITY?" :: ) |
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Hey, I am sorry!
Geez. I have been gone a whole year and everything was so different. You have said you had to get you head together after just going to St. Thomas for a week, I have been gone a whole year. I said in one of these that I am not new. With school and all I don't have alot of time for GC. But my computer crashed and I cannot remember my old password or any of the hints. I am soooo tired. This whole gc thing is throwing me, this format is so different than when I left. When did it get so different? This isn't anything like I remember. I couldn't remember my password or hints, so I had to start all over again. And, what's the deal with all of the signature stuff? I am like clueless about what has gone on cause I've been gone a whole year. And I am really kinda freaked out about going back to a whole house of girls I do not know and have no clue who they are, that is going to be so weird. I can't sleep. I have not gotten back into American time yet, by body clock is like totally wierded out. And I have been up for nights just reading these things to help me get back into the whole sorority deal and it is helping. You cried out because no one was reading you thread and said that is why you weren't posting. They jump all over anybody else who says that but not you so that was really weird to me and then you didn't post in so long and then all of a sudden, WHOA! I guess since I don't have any idea who you are or anything about it, this was just to odd. But I know NOTHING at all about NHPC.
Thanks for the wishes, I am so tired I will probably get hit by a car and it IS FRIDAY the THRITEENTH! Geez. Give a tired girl a break! You have even said this is a really different kinda thread and it is. Geez. |
STOP POSTING IF YOU'RE SO "TIRED AND WIRED"
Your posts read like you're one of the Chipmunks. Seriously. Maybe wait until you've regained conciousness after the post travel crash. You really shouldn't post when you're mentally incapaciated in any way if you don't want people to comment on it. It's like Drunk Posting. Just say no. (And if you say yes, you will get mocked for it) |
So, if you're an old poster, what was your old name?
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For a moment I was wondering if perhaps she was posting in the wrong thread, then I remembered that other thread was locked so she really did mean to post here. If she thinks this is "over the top..." :p Tld, this story is great, keep it coming! |
I'm glad you started telling your story again.
I'm still kind of mad at the group who rushed you hard twice and then didn't give you a bid. (What kind of group does that? It's just not right, especially if it's not a formal rush with quota and stuff.) It all worked out well, so I guess it's kind of good it worked out that way. But groups shouldn't treat people that way. Lame. |
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As for this thread- I think it's great. I never really understood NPHC intake until GC. Please, continue... |
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That's what the "Highest Post Count" Thread is for.:p |
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Yeah tld221 needs to get moving on the posting :D |
OK my bad! i'm on it!
Fall 2004 (Continued) So this event I go to - clearly I'm looking forward to it. I get there kind of late (RA duties and class... can't skip those) but the event is in full effect. Crazy, but ALL D9 was there, even if it was just one member. Each organization had a table set up, like a science fair. All sorts of paraphernalia, cool stuff, sign-up sheets and information on display, and an added bonus - each organization had a sign of which chapter they were and what area or school(s) they covered. GREAT! A member from each organization goes to the podium to talk a little about their GLO - who they are, what they do, etc. I can imagine about 90% of the people in attendance were interested members, as they appeared to be on their "best behavior," many dressed either as if they were going to an interview or a formal dinner. I was business casual in a white sweater, brown pants, and boots. nice, as it was late fall. People are taking notes like it was a lecture - weird but whatever floats your boat. The event was right before the 2004 elections and the theme was on voter registration, so there was voter registration going on, and various members were talking about how their organization contributes to voting registration and their involvement in politics overall. Many of the organizations said the same things over and over and honestly i was kind of bored. Later in the evening, refreshments are served, and i go to grab a drink. Problem: there are a vast array of plastic cups in different colors, all coinciding with the organization colors. So me being Ms. Paranoia, takes about 10 minutes - no joke - deciding what cup to take. I'm SURE it wasnt that big a deal, but hey, i don't know the "rules" so i have to choose carefully. I decide on a white cup - that's neutral right? The only drinks they have are red punch and Coke. hmm. i go for the Coke, which i don't particularly care for and make my way around to mingle. It's kind of cold in the venue, so i put my jacket on... which are the colors of Morning. Now i know that this will cause some sort of drama, but dammit im cold! Anyway, I make my way around to each table - introduce myself, smile, all that jazz. I get a tap on my shoulder - some guy i don't know introduces himself - he's a member of... i dunno, i'll call his org Late Morning. So we're talking and he says "So who's your favorite organization so far?" Umm... am i supposed to answer this? "Well, i'm just here to meet people." Safe right? Late Morning guy says, "Oh come on you can tell me, i'm a guy, i have no business in sorority matters. Who do you like here?" As gullible as a fish, i take the bait - "I really think Night is cool. One of the girls goes to my school i think." This piques Late Morning's interest. He says, "Have you checked their table out?" Me: "Nah, maybe later." LM: "Come on, i'm cool with some of them, i'll come over with you." Me: :confused::mad: I know this can't be good. I am dragged over to Night's table and forcefully introduced. One of the girls IS from my school, and baerly says hello. I get one half-hearted hello and that's about it. So LM guy and I are just standing there in awkward silence and he says, "Well, aren't you gonna talk to them, this is your chance!" Loud enough for everyone to hear. Great. THEN he says, "Ok you're a little shy, i get it. Hold on." He says, "Hey ladies, i was just thinking about how nice tld221's jacket is... oh, north face, nice!" ALL of the Night ladies look at me, and then him, and one of them says, "yeah, she looks good in those colors." and then they go back to their conversation. Hmm ok. can i get a :o in [size=7]? One of LM's frat brothers calls him and he's like oh, i'll be right back. Of course he doesnt come back, and im standing there all alone. Now you would think, "Well, it was just one bad incident..." but no, this was one bad incidents of quite a few bad incidents with Night, including a full out argument earlier in the year with a member over a misunderstanding and being stood up by a member who agreed to meet with me for lunch. Why was i busting my hump to stay warm at Night when they were being so cold? I'm pretty defeated at this point. My undesirable Coke is flat and warm, and now im burning up in this dayum jacket and sweater. I sit down and regroup then get back in the game. I go over to Morning's table and because of lack of tables, they are sharing with Late Morning. Because i had spent so much time trying to know Night, I didn't know much else about anything else. Morning's table is sparse, and while they were nice, they seemed kind of boring to me. Ok, boring isn't really the word, but they weren't enticing you know? I wasn't excited by them at all. They also "comment" on my jacket and at this point i'm laughing it off. I check out Afternoon last. There are a LOT of Afternoon's here, and they were a little warmer than Night, but again, wasn't really excited. I was mixed as to whether i could actually see myself as an Afternoon. I couldn't imagine it at all. They had a LOT of paraphernalia in their area, including a huge framed print of their crest on the wall. Very nice. In any case, I make my way back to Night's table because i'm so determined. A different Night member is attending the table and is very curt with me in conversation - no bueno. Maybe i came off as insincere, because she would scoff at almost everything I said and would answer my questions with questions. The final straw was when one of her sorors called her over for a picture and she practically knocked me over getting over there - no excuse me, nothing. Was it intentional? I want to believe not. But then in that moment - oh man! I'm totally defeated by night's end - and that is exactly what it was - the end of Night for me. I see a guy from my school (who knew all these people from NYU were looking for NPHC like me?) and we chat for a minute. He mentions that one of his cousins is a Sigma Gamma Rho and he just wanted to be a Kappa (LOL so much for discretion - but he actually becomes my sands!). Me: Who's Sigma Gamma Rho? :me looking around: Guy: the sorority by the door. They're the blue and yellow one. They presented in the beginning. Me: Oh, i thought they were all Zeta Phi Beta too. I wasnt here earlier. Guy: Nah, they just both have blue. There's only one of them here though. You need to do your research LOL Me: Shoot i thought i did! Ok let me holla at you later. So I'm ready to leave but since theyre by the door, i figure, let me put my game face on and just say hi. The table, a little sparse, but nicely decorated nonetheless. The member - professionally dressed in a blue suit. We talk for a minute, and asks me how i liked the event. We talk some more and I tell her I missed her part of the presentation, so we talk some more and I was like "wow, she actually put a spin on the theme and made it interesting!" I felt like i got more out of that one conversation than that whole evening. We exchange information but i'm skeptical because ALL the orgs give out their information - and you end up with an outdated website, an email address that bounces back, nothing that's really helpful. She gave me her card, email address and the chapter website. I head out and as i walk to the elevator, she comes out of the restroom and says "Bye, tld221, hope to see you soon!" Wait? She remembered my name? This must mean something... I was excited to get home - i'd hit another fork in the road and i felt like i was taking the correct turn. Spring 2005 Me andIlana (the member i met last semester) have been in touch all semester. She always sends me emails just to say hi, and invites me to events. Not just greek events, but parties, poetry slams, museum openings, movies... I've seen more of this city than i have my whole life living here. We're getting along great, and i feel no pressure. I meet some other interested ladies. They go to school all over and we try to keep in touch as much as possible. The end of the school year is here and still no signs of being greek. I feel like i can taste it but then again i can't. What's going on?! I want to be an SGRho so bad and it's not happening! I meet more members as time goes on, and in particular, one member's face is AWFULLY familiar. I can't remember where, and i'm too scared to ask. Summer comes and goes, and one particular afternoon i receive a phone call... who's on the line? :shrugs shoulders: Fall 2005 I'm doing my makeup in a cab that's speeding across the Brooklyn Bridge. I'm wearing a black dress, black pumps and pearls. My hair is fresh and i feel great! I walk into a dim room of women dressed in blue suits. Finally, I'm here! I am embraced by many familar faces - and some new ones. It felt like a family reunion. The familiar face is there. I say, "I KNOW we've met before, or i've seen you somewhere..." She says, "I'm Ava - we met at a barbeque 2 years ago. You hung out with me and a couple of sorors because you looked like you were upset. I guess we made some impression huh?" I don't remember that at ALL but she sure did. And that meant more than anything... except my new letters of course! So with that, on Nov. 26, 2005 i became a member of Early Morning, or as my sorors would understand, the Aurora - Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, Inc!!!!!!!! I'm the chick on the right :D http://photos-386.ll.facebook.com/ph...33607_8629.jpg |
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I love your story! That's also a great photo!
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what a great story! definately one of my favorite retro threads!
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THE BEST!!!!! This story was so awesome. I hope prospective NPHCers are taking note!
My least favorite part was when the fraternity dude was being a jerk. Something in my soul tells me he was an Alpha. lol |
i love it! great story.
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Anyway, great story tld! It was awesome reading a story encompassing all different forms of greek life. |
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