To clarify, if she's truly turned her back on SDT, I'd be pissed. (And it's way different if her new GLO prohibits it and she just neglected to mention her membership) Reporting it to SDT HQ my do no good. But, mentioning it to the NPHC group is another matter.

But, are you pissed enough to try to make her unhappy?

I just want to know what org. Now if she wants to tell us her name and city and school and e-mail address, I'm cool with that as well.:cool:

lol it is really buttonz call on that one. While this would piss me off (and yeah I changed my statements from earlier) I don't know that I'd spill the beans so to speak since her org doesn't have any rules against it... and it'll only make her unhappy.

Then I think you should inform the proper people in the NPHC group.

Good.

The members of this NPHC sorority have every right to know.

I'm starting to feel sorry for her already because methinks this isn't going to be pretty.

I'm pretty sure that, from the NPHC org's perspective, it wouldn't matter whether she disaffiliated from SDT or not.

Precisely.

Abigail? Tituba? John Proctor?

I see you have a new handbasket.

Dual membership
 

It does matter that she was a member of a different org-- I suggest that you contact the National Headquarters of the Org that she is member of and inform them of this information. And let it go from there

You could just post a link to her Facebook page (or even just mention her Facebook name) and the appropriate folks will take it from there. After all, Facebook IS a public site, right?

LOL!!

People can notice the error of their ways but that doesn't mean they are granted a second chance.

I don't.

You could've easily done a GC search or asked this dual membership question without giving specifics. You chose to tell us about some girl from your chapter and Facebook but now you want to be hush-hush.

She hasn't given specifics. Wanting moral support doesn't mean she has to tell everyone everything.

No one has a right to know, and if it's not your GLO that's doubly true.

No one said anything about her "having" to do anything or us having a "right" to know.

I just think it's silly and it's my "right" to express that.

I agree, but I'm not sure why you're quoting things.

I think that the whole "error of her ways" thing is stupid too. Whether in reference to a GLO or a husband in terms of race.

I was using your words.

Yeah well you also don't see the sarcasm in it.

A) if you use my words then get them right
B) It wasn't directed specifically at you
C) I see the sarcasm, doesn't mean that some people don't feel that way

1) "has" becomes "having" when it needs to
2) I gotcha but you quoted something from my post.
3) Yep.

That's not quoting, and I didn't quote anything fron you.

ETA: I see what you're referring to but that wasn't a quote (hence the lack of quotation) it was my own words.

Ok Drolefille seriously, enough already. Buttonz came on here to ask questions of the NPHC members because she was upset about her sister joining one of the four sororities. Your sorority is not involved, you do not know all of the NPHC policies, and your opinion is not the one she's looking for in here. Give it a rest already.

I agree.

I know smarty pants. :p

Just pointing out how sentence structure could lead to a misunderstanding. Do they do diagramming in school anymore?

LOL! I missed the sarcasm, my bad.

I don't think they do diagramming anymore. I didn't learn it until 7th grade though, and I have never taught that level. So I could be wrong.

Yes, I did it in an elective in undergrad, Traditional Grammar. I dropped out of that class! And, so did a lot of other students.

Buttonz,
Here's another take on this. Calling the orgs HQ might get the whole chapter in trouble. It is quite possible that the members knew of her previous affilitation and decided to ignore it.

Do you want to have a whole chapter of women angry with you? Seriously, I suggest you PM a member of that org here on GC and let them take it from there.

You don't want it to become a racial issue.

Why is it anyone's business that she joined another group? It is a personal matter. I'm playing devil's advocate, and a little curious why you people are so upset about it. If it doesn't harm SDT or the "she who must not be named" NPHC, why the drama?

We don't play that shit.

I don't see how this situation is any different than if this woman had joined another NPC versus an NPHC. I don't see it as a racial issue at all, I see it as an issue of a woman who knowingly deceived two groups that either frown upon or outrightly ban dual membership.

If the members in her new org knew of her previous affiliation and igonored it, that's for their HQs to handle and if they get in trouble then oh well. It's not buttonz' problem that they broke the rules. I would be happy if I were in that org and somebody notified me about someone's membership in an NPC org, as it would allow me to weed out a member that had been potentially deceitful.

It does harm SDT and the other org, and that's exactly everyone's problem with it. There's a thing called ritual and lifetime membership. I would think most members of a GLO -- and certainly on a National level -- take ritual and the idea of lifetime membership very seriously. The idea of dual membership, at least in my mind, degrades these two elements of sorority membership and I'm pretty sure their nationals would agree with me.

I think we learned that in 6th -- and I really sucked at it. I remember being really embarassed because I was Miss Smarty Pants and I totally sucked at diagramming.

I am LMAO @ Senusret through this entire thread.

I know! I don't want to get on his bad side, or he will call me a hussy, lol! :p

Buttonz,
Seriously, I would follow ladygreek's advice and PM a member of the sorority involved.

I'm LMAO too. I've never heard anyone under 70 call a woman a "hussy". lol

Oh Rashid's been calling me a hussy for years now. It ain't all that bad. ;)

Personally, I would have a huge problem with this because of ritual and the loyalty we pledge; however, I think there's a difference between "frowned upon" and "policy" I would think that if SDT does not have a policy against a NPHC member joining than it will be difficult to revoke her membership. If the NPHC Org does not have a policy that a NPC women cannot affiliate than they too would have a difficult time revoking her membership.

Would I act upon this information if I knew it was more than just "frowned upon"? Yes. However, if I knew that there were no policies to deal with this issue I would move on.