I like the name Lexi, so go Lexi! But best wishes and good luck from a PNAM to a PNM!:)

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Ok (i know i didn't go to ucf, but) a halter top should be ok depending on your body type. If you find your self having to "correct" your shirt throughout the day or throughout the party then that wouldn't be good. If however you are more comfortable having your arms "free" from sleeves then I think a halter top should be fine. AGAIN ONLY IF YOU HAVE THE CORRECT BODY TYPE FOR IT!!!

anyone from ucf might be able to help more because I know the acceptable "dress" is different from campus to campus.

Keep us updated when the time comes - - and AGAIN HAVE FUN!!! even when you are planning recruitment - have a great time.

I would agree with the above poster. I went though recruitment at UCF and wore a holter during one round (I actually think it was philantrophy) and I looked good.

Just heed the above advice. As long as it looks right for your body type, you dont have to correct it in order for it to look appropriate and you look respectable... then you are fine.


Best of luck to you!!!!!

I agree, as long as you feel comfortable, confident and classy in it. Keep in mind that you may have to sit on the floor on philanthropy day. Most of the houses will do crafts and not every house has table seating. You'll want to be able to move easily.

I love hot pink, so of course I like your idea for what to wear! It sounds okay to me, like has been said, if you're comfortable wearing that and know that nothing's going to accidentally peek out (i.e. undies or bra) when you're sitting down at some of the events. You may have to sit on the floor, so try that out when you're picking your outfit and make sure you're comfortable like that. Good luck!

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best wishes liltrixx.

Have an awesome time. I am envious of you. I so wish I was at UCF for rush this year!!!

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I am sorry to hear that today was a disappointment for you. Just keep your chin up and keep on with the process and see how it goes.

I know you are feeling a little surprised and upset; but, do be careful with saying that the recs were a waste of time. Saying that would be a disservice to the women who took the time to write them for you. PNMs should understand that recs are never a "magic ticket" to be invited back or receive a bid to an organization. Though, it sounds to me like you probably spoke out of frustration and disappointment.

It sounds like you're making a connection with Debbie. It's great to have a favorite; but, do be mindful to not "put all of your eggs in one basket" so to speak. As I said above, march on and see what all of the chapters have to offer!

.....Kelly :)

Sorry to hear that Philanthropy Day didn't go well for you. Keep your chin up and your mind open. UCF is home to a great Greek system, and if you look past the fancy houses and your preconceived notions, you may just find a home, even if its not where you originally dreamed of. Look at the girls and at the sisterhood. I urge you not to write off a chapter because one girl played with her hair and tapped her foot.

Best of luck to you!

Pretty much yeah I was just really frustrated when I got home and am still kinda sad. Although I knew recs weren't the "magic ticket", I thought they would help me a little bit more although I have recs for three out of the four chapters that did ask me back. I think recs are great for giving a chapter an into to a person. All I think is everything will get better and go through with a positive attitude even though I might be upset. Thanks everyone and I truly do appreciate the awesome women who wrote me recs!

i am sorry that you day wasn't as great as you had hoped. give the other houses a chance, though. you might be surprised as the week goes on how much you click with a house you thought you didn't at the beginning. best of luck tomorrow!

I'm sorry that your day didn't go as planned. I hope that you keep on open mind and continue on in the process. You seemed too excited to just let go so quickly. I bet there are quite a few women who were released completely who would have been very excited to have four invitations. It only takes one, if it's the right one and you never know which one the "right" one is until you open yourself up to all the possibilities.

It's still early on in the week and you haven't had the opportunity to spend a lot of time in any one house or with any one sisterhood. Take your friends advice, relax and have fun. It just sounds like you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself, but that's understandable. Get some rest, do something to distract yourself and then try tackling the situation with a positive attitude in the morning.

Good luck!

Keep your Chin up

Speaking as a person who was picked up form a chapter that had dreopped them... miracles can happen. Stick it out and give all the groups a try. I had the same experience that you are having when I went thought and ultimately ended up with my #1 choice that I had loved from day one.

Remember it only takes 1

PM Me if you need to chat. I am all ears.

Sorry to hear about your day. Just be glad and thankful that you are invited back. Think of the girls that didn't make it to Philantrophy Day. You are much luckier than they are. Be positive and things will hopefully work out in the end.

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Crying is ok... you were disappointed. But wipe the tears dry, buck up and go in with your head held high.

I'm glad you saw the positive in both Scarlett and Autumn! :)

Good for you for giving it your best effort. It sounds like even though you have your favorites, you are still open to all of the possibilities with the chapters you are visiting.

Best of luck through the rest of recruitment!

Liltrixx -

I'm sorry that things are going the way you hoped. It is a great thing that you are sticking with rush. I am horrid at creating links, but you should find the rush thread written last year by "Silmilek20". She rushed at Sam Houston State in Texas. She was cut by the groups that she had her heart set on, wasn't sure if she should continue on, and ended up absolutely loving the group that she wasn't sure of when she started. I know it might not help, but read it.

Best wishes,

LaneSig

so after reading part of "Silmilek20's" post and if by some sort of miracle doesn't happen and Debbie doesn't invite me back, should I still put them at the top of my preference list? Should I put the chapters that I want even if I hadn't been back? I know that I probably won't be on any list except maybe the ones I preffed but should I still put them on there? I plan on putting all my choices on my list so just wondering... I'm trying to keep a positive attitude (even though all I want to do is cry all night long) and plan on going back again tom for pref night!

A Rho Gamma would probably recommend that you list all the houses or at least your top three choices. Please keep in mind that you should be willing to accept a bid from any of the houses on your list and once you sign your bid card you are bound to it for one calendar year. This means that if you sign a bid card, but don't accept the bid that is offered to you, then you won't be eligible for COB this semester or in the spring.

Someone please correct me if I'm wrong-it has been a while.

Bids are binding for one calendar year.

If you are unsure about accepting a bid, then decline to sign your pref card, then wait for COB. Keep in mind, however, if you are invited to a chapter's preference round, they can see you as a sister. Take a long thoughtful look at these women before making your final decision.

As someone who has seen this happen before, may I please request that if you do not attend Debbie's preference, do not list them first on your preference card. It's perfectly fine to list any chapter that you would be willing to accept a bid from, but please list the chapters whose pref parties you attended as one and two - IF you would accept their bid.

If after all the parties and very careful consideration, you still choose not to accept a bid from either chapter that you pref, just decline to sign a bid card. This will make you eligible for snap bidding and COR. If you list a chapter - even one you didn't pref - and wind up matching to them, you are bound to them for a full year. Even if you don't attend bid day with them.

What happens when PNMs list chapters they didn't pref as #1, the chapters that they DID attend get stuck. The preferential bidding system is designed to match as many PNMs to their first choices as possible. So if you list Debbie, but didn't go to their pref, they will keep reading "liltrixx - 1st choice Debbie" until you match. Which most likely won't happen if you aren't at their parties. They won't read your second choice until Debbie fills quota. I know that's all technical, but it can be quite a mess for the advisors who are in bid matching (if it is done by hand rather than computer).

The most important thing to remember for you is to only list a chapter you would accept. Or you could be ineligible for other bidding options for a calendar year.

I hope that things become more clear for you in the coming parties! Many many people wait to make their choice at preference!

Hi Liltrixx
Oh, I'm sending you a hug! I am so sorry that you are disappointed, and I understand how intense and emotional and pressure-filled formal recruitment can be.
I am excited for you, though, because you are strong enough to be sticking with it! And remember why you thought being part of a greek organization in general was something that you wanted to do. I truely believe that there is a place for everyone in the greek community, so think about your and the organization's potential.
Take care, and I'm impressed and proud that you are sticking it out!

I'm sorry....I might have missed it somewhere but is DG not participating in recruitment at UCF and why??

hmm, pref-ing someone that released you? I don't think the school at which I rushed allowed that. We went to 2 prefs which you ranked 1 and 2. If you were crosscut from both of them, you didn't 'register' for COR, you were simply 'eligible' for it, but I don't think anyone was crosscut when I rushed and hence, no one gave out snap bids. is that weird?

Hannahgirl; I sent you a PM in regards to DG

Thank you for articulating what I was actually thinking!

Ok but here is my question...Can I put in order where I want to go even if I don't pref them? If I put all the chapters on the list will it matter? Even if I didn't pref them? I have no idea what I will be doing and hopefully still won't get that awful phone call yet. Thanks everyone:)

I'm about to be really honest...

Yes, but be prepared for disappointment. I'm not trying to be harsh, but this is just the reality. You can, technically, list them in any order your heart desires, but that doesn't mean you'll match anywhere.
Yes, it does matter to an extent. It's called maximizing your options. However, only list chapters that you would actually be willing to accept a bid from. I know a lot of girls at UCF who were cut heavily and told to, at the very least, list three houses. Generally this would include the chapters that you preffed and maybe an additional house that you love, but were cut from.

I know you're hearing a lot about snap bidding and the hope of being picked back up, but you should also know that at UCF these are VERY rare occurrences. Your Rho Gamma will be able to offer you much more advice, but be sure to consult with her BEFORE you sign your bid card!

It's pointless. If you could be happy in the houses you pref, put them down. Don't put down the other chapters who cut you unless you are specifically told by the Rho Chis to list all of the house or list your others or whatever. You are not going to be on their bid list. You will appear somewhere on the bidlist of the chapters that you pref.

If you like the chapters you pref, put them. If not, don't sign a bid card and hope you can participate in COB. But keep in mind not every house COBs.

Agreed. If you did not attend a pref party, you are not going to be on that group's bid list. So if you are going to list a bunch of groups who aren't going to have you on their list (and you won't get a bid from them) then you might as well not sign a bid card at all. It's the same result.

If you do not attend a chapter's preference event you will not be on their bid lists. You can put down chapters that you did not attend preference, but the chances of getting a bid from are very, very slim.

If you do not want to join any of the groups where you attend preference, then do not sign a bid card and sign up for COB when it opens.