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JustMyself 04-05-2006 06:46 PM

http://msn.foxsports.com/other/story/5476942

The saga continues

jubilance1922 04-05-2006 06:55 PM

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Originally posted by BLUTANG
Gods Ivy, i feel what you're saying... i WOULD be pissed if it was my friend or family member.

I don't think i'm blaming the victim by saying we ALL should make better decisions. I know I've put myself in unsafe situations and it's by the grace of GOD that I'm not a statistic. I know that we ALL need to be cognizant of our surroundings and decide what's a worthwhile risk.

It's messed up all around, but NO MATTER HOW WRONG THOSE BOYS ARE - her profession will cast a shadow on her character, if not the entire case.

I'm offended by your posts. No matter what a woman's job is, not matter what she's wearing, what she's doing, where she was, A WOMAN DOES NOT DESERVE TO BE SEXUALLY ASSAULTED! She could have been walking around town naked, that does not mean that deserves it or that their behavior is appropriate. If a woman does not give active consent, its sexual assault. It doesn't matter if she did something before or if she's a dancer or if she's a secretary.

It really blows my mind that folks still walk around with the atttitude that somehow a woman provokes sexual assault. No wonder women don't come forward.

AKA2D '91 04-05-2006 08:33 PM

http://www.through-a-glass-darkly.bl...our_money_.htm

SKEEphistAKAte 04-05-2006 11:14 PM

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Originally posted by laylo
:eek: :eek: :eek:

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/0405061duke1.html

The police found this team member's e-mail saying that he was going to bring some strippers over and kill them.

Disturbing and Disgusting.

Gods Ivy 04-06-2006 08:09 AM

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Originally posted by BLUTANG
Gods Ivy, i feel what you're saying... i WOULD be pissed if it was my friend or family member.

I don't think i'm blaming the victim by saying we ALL should make better decisions. I know I've put myself in unsafe situations and it's by the grace of GOD that I'm not a statistic. I know that we ALL need to be cognizant of our surroundings and decide what's a worthwhile risk.

It's messed up all around, but NO MATTER HOW WRONG THOSE BOYS ARE - her profession will cast a shadow on her character, if not the entire case.

I agree and thanks for clearing that up. We all should make better decisions but that does not mean that we deserve what we get because of the decisions we make to trust man.

Gods Ivy 04-06-2006 08:11 AM

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Originally posted by jubilance1922
I'm offended by your posts. No matter what a woman's job is, not matter what she's wearing, what she's doing, where she was, A WOMAN DOES NOT DESERVE TO BE SEXUALLY ASSAULTED! She could have been walking around town naked, that does not mean that deserves it or that their behavior is appropriate. If a woman does not give active consent, its sexual assault. It doesn't matter if she did something before or if she's a dancer or if she's a secretary.

It really blows my mind that folks still walk around with the atttitude that somehow a woman provokes sexual assault. No wonder women don't come forward.

That is so true and I am glad someone sees what I see. Did you all hear that the coach of the Lacrose team resigned yesterday.

Gods Ivy 04-06-2006 08:12 AM

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/0405061duke1.html

The police found this team member's e-mail saying that he was going to bring some strippers over and kill them.

I knew it. I hope they get prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. The only issue is that there are not serious consequences for rape and they may just get a couple of years for this. Well we know its not Alleged anymore for this player, he had intent.

Gods Ivy 04-06-2006 08:22 AM

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Originally posted by Bamboozled
Got it. The :rolleyes: confused me because that smiley usually denotes sarcasm.
Oh ok won't use that again. I just liked it so much because it was green and the eyes moved :)

SKEEphistAKAte 04-06-2006 12:19 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Gods Ivy
http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/0405061duke1.html

The police found this team member's e-mail saying that he was going to bring some strippers over and kill them.

I knew it. I hope they get prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. The only issue is that there are not serious consequences for rape and they may just get a couple of years for this. Well we know its not Alleged anymore for this player, he had intent.

Just for clarification: He sent the email AFTER the rape incident, so it isn't intent.

Eclipse 04-06-2006 12:49 PM

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Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
Just for clarification: He sent the email AFTER the rape incident, so it isn't intent.
But doesn't relate to state of mind?


**see, I knew all of those hours watching LA Law, Law and Order and other law type shows would pay off!! LOL

Gods Ivy 04-06-2006 02:57 PM

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Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
Just for clarification: He sent the email AFTER the rape incident, so it isn't intent.
Oh ok I thought it was before the rape. That does not make sense though why would he send an e-mail after the rape if the e-mail said they he would hire strippers and then kill them?

Gods Ivy 04-06-2006 02:58 PM

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Originally posted by Eclipse
But doesn't relate to state of mind?


**see, I knew all of those hours watching LA Law, Law and Order and other law type shows would pay off!! LOL

That's true. CSI :)

SKEEphistAKAte 04-06-2006 03:52 PM

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Originally posted by Gods Ivy
Oh ok I thought it was before the rape. That does not make sense though why would he send an e-mail after the rape if the e-mail said they he would hire strippers and then kill them?
He had so much fun raping the first one that he wanted to do it again the next night. If you read the search warrant on smoking gun it says that the email went out the next night. He says there would be no nudity (apparantly like the previous night) because he would kill/skin them as soon as they walk in.

FeeFee 04-06-2006 04:01 PM

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Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
He had so much fun raping the first one that he wanted to do it again the next night. If you read the search warrant on smoking gun it says that the email went out the next night. He says there would be no nudity (apparantly like the previous night) because he would kill/skin them as soon as they walk in.
Oh my dear Lord in Heaven. :( :eek:

Gods Ivy 04-06-2006 04:02 PM

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Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
He had so much fun raping the first one that he wanted to do it again the next night. If you read the search warrant on smoking gun it says that the email went out the next night. He says there would be no nudity (apparantly like the previous night) because he would kill/skin them as soon as they walk in.
Wow that is scary and disturbing

SKEEphistAKAte 04-06-2006 04:03 PM

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Originally posted by Eclipse
But doesn't relate to state of mind?


**see, I knew all of those hours watching LA Law, Law and Order and other law type shows would pay off!! LOL

Not really state of mind. State of mind would be what he was thinking at the time of the raping incident. So, if his email had said "I had so much fun with that stripper last night. She said she No but I know she wanted it..." it would be state of mind.

The email would go more toward his character and possibly propensity (basically, personality traits/attitudes that would make it more likely that he committed the rape).

LIL'JUICEY 04-07-2006 09:25 AM

I too am a 2001 grad of NCCU, and I too hung out @ DUKE (with Blutang) at the row houses and various parties. I remember being "schooled" by upper classmen that one should travel in a group for safety...at any school be it Central, Duke,State, etc. I said that to say that the young women, being a NCCU student should have known what areas are safe or unsafe in the Durham community. there are some places one does not go alone, or for that matter go at all!! lets not forget this is the same school (DUKE) that did NOT suspend students that were found to be hanging black dolls from trees back in 99. Duke has a history of sparing the rod and spoiling their students! I totally feel its a miscarriage of justice not suspending those students. whose to say they wont do this again.
I understand the girl's desire for an education lead her into her chosen profession...but come on, association brings about assimilation! Now don't get me wrong, I don't agree with assuming that a person is a certain way b/c of their race,profession,or friends...but we all know that it happens. we as members of various orgs have experienced this all to well.(meaning we have being categorized by the stereotypes non-greeks give our orgs)
NO - she did NOT deserve to be raped,humiliated,disrespected,etc. but she DID place herself in that situation. We as women have to start taking more responsibility for the things that happen to us and stop being victims all the time. and hell yes, I would be dumb mad if this happened to a family member or friend of mine...come to think of it, it has!! she wasn't a stripper, but she was a tease. and that doesn't okay what happened to her, but had she listened and not been flirting and teasing that old nasty man (wearing revealing clothes,etc.) then she wouldn't have been raped! does that mean that we as women cant wear sexy clothes, be half naked, etc....NO!!! I agree with Jubilance1922, even if a woman walks around nake that does not give the ok to touch/rape her or to even say something disrespectful. HOWEVER, unfortunately we have to know that it does advertise our bodies to men, who are most times thinking with their smaller heads. we have to begin to think like they do! i mean come on, if you walk outside and see a half naked attractive man you are probably gonna have some thoughts about him in the bedroom.

all I'm trying to express is that the situation is F***ed up. Those young men deserve to be punished, but that young woman can NOT place all blame on them. she has to stock some of the responsibility on herself.
I hope you all can feel where I'm coming from, and read this with an open mind. If offended by anything I've said, I'm sorry that you feel that way.

laylo 04-07-2006 10:13 AM

I disagree. Rape is not about sexual arousal. It is an act of violence in attempt to dominate or punish someone. Saying a man raped a woman because he found her attractive is like saying an alcoholic drinks alcohol just to quench his thirst.

Marie 04-07-2006 10:27 AM

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Originally posted by LIL'JUICEY
I too am a 2001 grad of NCCU, and I too hung out @ DUKE (with Blutang) at the row houses and various parties. I remember being "schooled" by upper classmen that one should travel in a group for safety...at any school be it Central, Duke,State, etc. I said that to say that the young women, being a NCCU student should have known what areas are safe or unsafe in the Durham community. there are some places one does not go alone, or for that matter go at all!! lets not forget this is the same school (DUKE) that did NOT suspend students that were found to be hanging black dolls from trees back in 99. Duke has a history of sparing the rod and spoiling their students! I totally feel its a miscarriage of justice not suspending those students. whose to say they wont do this again.
I understand the girl's desire for an education lead her into her chosen profession...but come on, association brings about assimilation! Now don't get me wrong, I don't agree with assuming that a person is a certain way b/c of their race,profession,or friends...but we all know that it happens. we as members of various orgs have experienced this all to well.(meaning we have being categorized by the stereotypes non-greeks give our orgs)
NO - she did NOT deserve to be raped,humiliated,disrespected,etc. but she DID place herself in that situation. We as women have to start taking more responsibility for the things that happen to us and stop being victims all the time. and hell yes, I would be dumb mad if this happened to a family member or friend of mine...come to think of it, it has!! she wasn't a stripper, but she was a tease. and that doesn't okay what happened to her, but had she listened and not been flirting and teasing that old nasty man (wearing revealing clothes,etc.) then she wouldn't have been raped! does that mean that we as women cant wear sexy clothes, be half naked, etc....NO!!! I agree with Jubilance1922, even if a woman walks around nake that does not give the ok to touch/rape her or to even say something disrespectful. HOWEVER, unfortunately we have to know that it does advertise our bodies to men, who are most times thinking with their smaller heads. we have to begin to think like they do! i mean come on, if you walk outside and see a half naked attractive man you are probably gonna have some thoughts about him in the bedroom.

all I'm trying to express is that the situation is F***ed up. Those young men deserve to be punished, but that young woman can NOT place all blame on them. she has to stock some of the responsibility on herself.
I hope you all can feel where I'm coming from, and read this with an open mind. If offended by anything I've said, I'm sorry that you feel that way.

I don't understand why people are saying that she put herself in this situation. She is a stripper. She did what pretty much all strippers do, which is to dance and take off her clothes in front of a group of men. Unless the argument is that all strippers inherently deserve to be raped, then what exactly are you saying was out of the ordinary or extreme about her situation? It has already been stated that the men were dishonest about the number of men in attendance, so it isn't like she knowingly accepted a job where she was going to be overwhelmingly out-numbered. I guess I just don't understand your point. She did exactly what the thousands of other women with her job description do. I don't see how that should absolve the men from self-control and human decency.

I do understand having a sense of personal safety and making wise decisions based upon that. If this was a campus safety class, then I'd be right there with you on this point. However, at this point in the case and in this situation, your position comes off as insulting and accusatory towards the victim. Either you're blaming the victim or you're not. You can't say "Oh I think that the men were absolutely wrong, and no woman deserves this." but then in your next breath say "Well she kinda did deserve it by being dumb and putting herself in a dumb situation." You weren't quite that crass with it, but the message was the same. Either you feel she deserved it or she didn't. Period.

Gods Ivy 04-07-2006 10:50 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Marie
I don't understand why people are saying that she put herself in this situation. She is a stripper. She did what pretty much all strippers do, which is to dance and take off her clothes in front of a group of men. Unless the argument is that all strippers inherently deserve to be raped, then what exactly are you saying was out of the ordinary or extreme about her situation? It has already been stated that the men were dishonest about the number of men in attendance, so it isn't like she knowingly accepted a job where she was going to be overwhelmingly out-numbered. I guess I just don't understand your point. She did exactly what the thousands of other women with her job description do. I don't see how that should absolve the men from self-control and human decency.

I do understand having a sense of personal safety and making wise decisions based upon that. If this was a campus safety class, then I'd be right there with you on this point. However, at this point in the case and in this situation, your position comes off as insulting and accusatory towards the victim. Either you're blaming the victim or you're not. You can't say "Oh I think that the men were absolutely wrong, and no woman deserves this." but then in your next breath say "Well she kinda did deserve it by being dumb and putting herself in a dumb situation." You weren't quite that crass with it, but the message was the same. Either you feel she deserved it or she didn't. Period.

I think that said it all. Thanks for putting that out there. You, LIL'JUICEY, do have to choose what side you are on and it seems more toward blaming the victim "Victim" is just that. Not someone who was asking for it.

Just as an update, suspension have been made at Duke and the President of the institution has addressed his concern and disappointment in the "accused" students. However, it is very disturbing to see that we as women think that we deserve to be assaulted because of our profession. She did not go alone, she was with someone else however, and they were divided. If I am a stripper how many people am I going to bring with me to see me strip???? Not too many because I am at work. How many people do you bring to work with you for protection, LIL'JUICEY?

SKEEphistAKAte 04-07-2006 11:04 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by laylo
Saying a man raped a woman because he found her attractive is like saying an alcoholic drinks alcohol just to quench his thirst.
Great analogy.

futurestar1 04-07-2006 12:21 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Marie
Either you feel she deserved it or she didn't. Period.
And considering NO ONE deserves to be violated and forced to allow someone else to enter YOUR body. I just don't understand how people can say 'she was asking for it'.

Would they want someone sticking their finger in their ear without permission?

Gods Ivy 04-07-2006 01:12 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by futurestar1
And considering NO ONE deserves to be violated and forced to allow someone else to enter YOUR body. I just don't understand how people can say 'she was asking for it'.

Would they want someone sticking their finger in their ear without permission?

So true....
It really is scary how people can blame the victim and that is why they do not come forward. I really hope that justice is served for this young woman. The truth of the matter is that could have been any of us under different circumstances. How many of us have gone to the bathroom in a club by themselves, or while being at a college party and went somewhere to speak to a guy alone, or been separated from friends by a crowd? It really is easy to judge when the mirror is not in front of you.

FeeFee 04-07-2006 01:29 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by laylo
I disagree. Rape is not about sexual arousal. It is an act of violence in attempt to dominate or punish someone. Saying a man raped a woman because he found her attractive is like saying an alcoholic drinks alcohol just to quench his thirst.
Excellent point.

Obsession8 04-07-2006 03:01 PM

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Originally posted by SKEEphistAKAte
Great analogy.
Co-sign!

LIL'JUICEY 04-07-2006 05:08 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by laylo
I disagree. Rape is not about sexual arousal. It is an act of violence in attempt to dominate or punish someone. Saying a man raped a woman because he found her attractive is like saying an alcoholic drinks alcohol just to quench his thirst.
i know that and did not say it was due to sexual arousal...just that when one puts herself out there like that, one can expect to receive unwanted attention. that's all. maybe i didn't clarify that good enough...my bad. hopefully you understand that when u lie down with dogs, you wake up with fleas.

LIL'JUICEY 04-07-2006 05:25 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Gods Ivy
I think that said it all. Thanks for putting that out there. You, LIL'JUICEY, do have to choose what side you are on and it seems more toward blaming the victim "Victim" is just that. Not someone who was asking for it.

Just as an update, suspension have been made at Duke and the President of the institution has addressed his concern and disappointment in the "accused" students. However, it is very disturbing to see that we as women think that we deserve to be assaulted because of our profession. She did not go alone, she was with someone else however, and they were divided. If I am a stripper how many people am I going to bring with me to see me strip???? Not too many because I am at work. How many people do you bring to work with you for protection, LIL'JUICEY?

i have six lil' friends that work along side my hip on a daily basis...they're called bullets. and i have another box to back them up when i use'em. i think that might be enough protection for me. what i was trying to say in the previous post is that WE ARE STEREOTYPED BY OUR PROFESSIONS, SURROUNDING, FRIENDS, PAST ACTIONS, ETC. AND WE HAVE TO KNOW THAT AND DEAL WITH IT. the girls reputation is going to be tarnished b/c she's a stripper, point blank period. that's society's assumption and u can't tell me that you've never experienced being classified a certain way b/c of someone you hung out with. if it hasn't happened yet, it will.

and last time i checked, my opinions were just that...mine. I don't have to choose any sides because I choose to be neutral. i can see both sides of the picture. just because i'm a woman, doesn't mean that i have to let my anger and emotions drive my siding in this case. maybe you're too angry to really understand what i'm saying. i work with victims and criminals on a daily basis, so i have learned not to be onesided and to be more objective. once again, i'll say that those boys were dead arse wrong for raping that girl!! if that's not cut and dry enough for you then oh well...:rolleyes:

AKA_Monet 04-07-2006 07:03 PM

So are folks saying that these "little boys" cannot control their hormones and have the right to be uncontrollably turned on sexually and beat the crap out of a woman who happens to be an exotic dancer?

Are folks saying it is okay for caucasian boys to go "buckwild" like "Columbine" or up where I'm at in Seattle, with the Rave parties and do whatever they want to other people even if it is against the law--no matter how humiliating?

And the little boy who made the email about killing strippers--that sounds premeditated...

Just asking...

It is sad that this young woman has endured this sort of pain. Didn't Al Sharpton defend a young woman who said she was raped by the police in the late 1980's? What was her name? Twanna Brawley... Whatever happened to that?

Gods Ivy 04-10-2006 08:15 AM

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
So are folks saying that these "little boys" cannot control their hormones and have the right to be uncontrollably turned on sexually and beat the crap out of a woman who happens to be an exotic dancer?

Are folks saying it is okay for caucasian boys to go "buckwild" like "Columbine" or up where I'm at in Seattle, with the Rave parties and do whatever they want to other people even if it is against the law--no matter how humiliating?

And the little boy who made the email about killing strippers--that sounds premeditated...

Just asking...

It is sad that this young woman has endured this sort of pain. Didn't Al Sharpton defend a young woman who said she was raped by the police in the late 1980's? What was her name? Twanna Brawley... Whatever happened to that?

Yeah I know we never heard anything else about that.

Gods Ivy 04-10-2006 08:15 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by LIL'JUICEY
i have six lil' friends that work along side my hip on a daily basis...they're called bullets. and i have another box to back them up when i use'em. i think that might be enough protection for me. what i was trying to say in the previous post is that WE ARE STEREOTYPED BY OUR PROFESSIONS, SURROUNDING, FRIENDS, PAST ACTIONS, ETC. AND WE HAVE TO KNOW THAT AND DEAL WITH IT. the girls reputation is going to be tarnished b/c she's a stripper, point blank period. that's society's assumption and u can't tell me that you've never experienced being classified a certain way b/c of someone you hung out with. if it hasn't happened yet, it will.

and last time i checked, my opinions were just that...mine. I don't have to choose any sides because I choose to be neutral. i can see both sides of the picture. just because i'm a woman, doesn't mean that i have to let my anger and emotions drive my siding in this case. maybe you're too angry to really understand what i'm saying. i work with victims and criminals on a daily basis, so i have learned not to be onesided and to be more objective. once again, i'll say that those boys were dead arse wrong for raping that girl!! if that's not cut and dry enough for you then oh well...:rolleyes:


All are not as objective as the police. And I guess it is like they say opinions are like butt holes every bodies got one. :rolleyes:

Gods Ivy 04-10-2006 10:49 AM

Attorney: Photos will show dancer was injured, impaired when she arrived at lacrosse
 
What do you guys think about this recent information by the attorney? If you have time read the article. http://sports.yahoo.com/top/news?slu...v=ap&type=lgns

Peaches-n-Cream 04-10-2006 11:02 AM

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Originally posted by Gods Ivy
Yeah I know we never heard anything else about that.
I have heard a lot about Tawana Brawley. If you are interested in reading about that case, click here. You can also google search her for more info.

Gods Ivy 04-10-2006 11:08 AM

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Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
I have heard a lot about Tawana Brawley. If you are interested in reading about that case, click here. You can also google search her for more info.
Thanks I appreciate that.

Honeykiss1974 04-10-2006 11:12 AM

Re: Attorney: Photos will show dancer was injured, impaired when she arrived at lacrosse
 
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Originally posted by Gods Ivy
What do you guys think about this recent information by the attorney? If you have time read the article. http://sports.yahoo.com/top/news?slu...v=ap&type=lgns
Its hard to say until I see the photos and hear what the explainantion is. It could be anything......Maybe her "boss" (and I use that losely) beat her up for leaving that party earlier - maybe she was drunk/high in order to go through with it and could barely walk or stand. I don't know...

I have to see/read more but I do think depending upon when and where these pics took pplace, it can very negatively impact her story.

Peaches-n-Cream 04-10-2006 11:15 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Gods Ivy
Thanks I appreciate that.
You're welcome. This was a BIG story in New York and is mentioned in the news once in a while.

Gods Ivy 04-10-2006 11:27 AM

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Originally posted by Peaches-n-Cream
I have heard a lot about Tawana Brawley. If you are interested in reading about that case, click here. You can also google search her for more info.
Wow that was deep. What do you think really happend? It seems if she was trying to frame someone why would she leave everything near the apartment? That seems planted to me.

Gods Ivy 04-10-2006 11:31 AM

Re: Re: Attorney: Photos will show dancer was injured, impaired when she arrived at lacrosse
 
Quote:

Originally posted by Honeykiss1974
Its hard to say until I see the photos and hear what the explainantion is. It could be anything......Maybe her "boss" (and I use that losely) beat her up for leaving that party earlier - maybe she was drunk/high in order to go through with it and could barely walk or stand. I don't know...

I have to see/read more but I do think depending upon when and where these pics took pplace, it can very negatively impact her story.


Wow I didn't think about that. That makes sense. They should be able to tell how old the wounds were with forensics’ information and trace the time approxiately that the photo was taken by what was in the background, the light, etc.

LIL'JUICEY 04-10-2006 11:33 AM

i was just watching the news last night and the investigators in the NCCU/Duke case have discovered that the girl's bruises occurred prior to the alleged incident...

Gods Ivy 04-10-2006 11:45 AM

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Originally posted by LIL'JUICEY
i was just watching the news last night and the investigators in the NCCU/Duke case have discovered that the girl's bruises occurred prior to the alleged incident...
Some of the bruises occurred prior to not all of them. Its in the article given above. I think there was a great point made that she could have been forced to go back into the house to make the money, there for self medicated herself to do it. Nonetheless, it looks bad for her case.

Gods Ivy 04-10-2006 04:55 PM

alleged rape victim--a 27-year-old stripper and mother of two.
 
Updated information given in this article.
http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/n...tory?track=rss :(


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