Right now we're having a mixture of both org's for our wedding, however there's a lot more TKE stuff than my Lambda stuff. So far we are incorporating red (or cherry, heh) as the accent color and red roses for me and red carnations for him and his bro's that will be involved. All my sisters who come will be giving a red rose and for any of how bro's who show will get a beer ;)

Also, we're going to have about 4 other sororities at our wedding, oh the songs we'll be singing....:D

Here's a random question that was asked by him, since he pinned me and I have his pin, do I wear it or does he? We don't care either way but we're just curious.

Wear it inside your dress. ;)

What we did - if you both have guards on your pins - is that I wore my pin & guard, then pinned his directly under it, looped the chains together and pinned the guard. It makes an X if you do it right.

Do you have a picture of that?

I wore my husband's pin on my left but closer to the middle of my sternum and my badge to my left of that. The round part of the key merged nicely with the shape of his pin.

No, I don't - I didn't have a camera while I was in school (couldn't be bothered, LOL). And I don't think I can "draw" it on this message board. Since my pin is a diamond, and the PiKA pin is somewhat of one, they fit together nicely, both over my heart, but his under and slightly to the right (looking at me) of mine. Both guards were in their usual places, but the little chains crossed.

The easiest way was to put my pin and guard on, then his pin under mine, and take the little guard chain under mine, then put his guard under mine. Does that help?

Sounds like a nice way to incorporate them both, Honey.


Not for nothing, but I'll note here that in the "how to wear your badge" part of every pledge book I've ever seen, there's a paragraph explaining that your badge should always be above anything else you wear, and closest to your heart.

I think it's a holdover from when girls were more frequently pinned on college campuses, and "where do I put his?" was a bigger question.

My chapter's Alpha Mom (or New Member Coordinator if you want to get nit-picky!) gave all of her Alpha class blue and white ribbons connected with a safety pin the day of initiation. She told us to save them (I still have mine!) for our weddings so we can use them as "something blue" and as a reminder later on of our initaiton day :)

My chapter had a pin that had been donated by an alumni and everyone had the chance to wear it under their gown. It came with a journal and had been passed down for years and years. It was really great to be able to wear the pin and write something about your wedding in the journal. Also fun to read. I don't know if they still do it or not. I will be celebrating 25 years in May! My sisters serenaded me with "My Pi Phi Girl" and my husbands brothers with "The Sweetheart of Sigma Chi" it was so moving!!!

Since my senior year I was voted "Most Likely to have her wedding colors be cardinal and straw" I couldn't let my sisters down!
The girls wore red dresses and carried yellow roses. My maid of honor - also a Chi O - carried red and yellow roses with some white carnations. I also had a few white carnations in my bouquet.

The cake was pale yellow with red roses on it. The tablecloths were pale yellow and one of the favors were dried MI cherries - which represented my home state, but also put some red onto the tables!

I pinned my badge to the ribbon on my bouquet as well. :D

Mine didn't! :) I had an Apache wedding blessing read and Colossions 3 12-15:

Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.

When my sister got married, she wore the groom's badge pinned to her garter. The garter was made by her and her sorority sisters in the sorority colors. Part of the tradition was that the bride-to-be, in this case my sister, was the one to sew the letters on it. After the groom removed the garter, he presented it to my sister (the bride). She removed the badge from the garter and presented both back to her husband. This was symbolic in that she had "replaced" his fraternity badge with the wedding ring.

FYI: Being the nimble kid that I was, I caught it! And I still have it. I offered it back to her years later, but she said it was part of her wedding memories. Her little brother out jumping all these "grown men" to get it.

I would be surprised it they didn't. It's pretty much a tradition.

I got chills when I read that!! Can you imagine a journal of 100 years of brides, wearing their pins on their wedding day?!

Unsure if this has been mentioned further down, but this verse, in the Catholic church at least, is considered the Wedding verse. Nearly EVERY Catholic wedding uses this unless something else is requested. But this is "standard" So I don't know about any other Christian churches, but it doesn't surprise me that this is commonly used.

Still awesome that it just plain "fits" for both marriage and ASA though.

Red carnations didn't go with the dresses or platinum roses I wanted, but I did have red carnations passed out to every Alpha Chi at the wedding. I had one sister at the door handing them out. I think the person most surprised by this was an Alpha Chi who I found living down the street from me. She is engaged to one of my neighbors, but we had never met before the wedding. I also wore my badge and lavalier inside of my dress.

We also had a lot of pictures taken, and towards the end of the evening, we all began requesting songs special to our chapter (recruitment songs, etc.) and sang them. Other people thought we were nuts, but we had a fabulous time.

I got married in the Catholic Church last June and did not use this verse. No one told me it was "standard" either. What do you mean by "unless something else is requested"? We were given lists of appropiate scripture reading, and of course that one was included, but it certainly wasn't the only option. My husband and I chose all the details of the Mass, right down to the arrangements of the Common Mass. We didn't have to "request" for anything to be different because it was simply expected that we would make those decisions for ourselves based on our relationship with each other and with God.

Lest this be seen as simply as a sorority brides' domain, it's "traditional" at the reception of Que(Omega Psi Phi) grooms to do three things: 1) for brothers to gather in the middle of the hall aroung the bride and sing the Omega Psi Phi Sweetheart Song to her ,2) for brothers to link up and sing our fraternity hymn, 'Omega Dear' and 3) immediately afterward for the DJ to crank up "Atomic Dog" and the the bruhs "set out a hop"(i.e., have an impromptu mini-step show). That's how we do it!:)

I've been to a Que wedding. :) It was soooo funny to see the looks on some people's faces when dudes in tuxes started gettin' down!

This summer one of our chapter brothers got married. His father-in-law, who is an Alpha, half-jokingly said after the "hop" at the reecpetion that he told his son, who communicated to him that he wanted to become a Que, that he would forbid him to come into his house barking.:)

When one of my sisters was married over the summer she made sure that she wore a purple garter belt for us and gave us all a daisy to pin on our tops. She married someone in our brother fraternity so all of the groomsmen wore scarlet and grey ties.

/hijack/ so, I was at a Toga party with my Sorors in a residential neighborhood...and I say to the homeowner "wow, your neighbors have really LOUD dogs" [they had just recently moved into the house].
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About a minute later the Ques come in, and I realized that their barks were TOO realistic! I still get teased about this!

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I think a lot of Catholic churches kind of say "Here is the standard reading" and assume you know that you do have the freedom to pick out other verses. I know the church I attend does 3-4 weddings a weekend every weekend except Lent and Advent, and they have a THREE YEAR waiting list, so they might not necessarily have as much time to sit down with the bride and groom.

Thanks GeekyPenguin, that's basically what I meant.

I wasn't trying to imply anything negative by it. It's just an incredibly common gospel reading for weddings and even though the church doesn't say "here, this is your reading" I suspect many priests do say, "and we usually read This unless you have another one you'd prefer" or some such.

No need to have toes stepped on!:)

I figured as much. I have no interest in using it simply because everyone else does - although it is a pretty verse that my parents have framed in our house. :D

My parents (both Catholics) renewed their vows for their 25th anniversary. The ceremony was essentially the same as a wedding Mass. They were given a booklet with 3-4 different options for each of the readings. They were also told that they didn't have to use any of the options, as long as they followed the pattern of first reading from the Old Testament, second reading from the New Testament, Gospel reading from the Gospels.

1st Corinthians 13 is one of the options. Another option is the reading that goes "you who are wives, be submissive to your husbands." ( :rolleyes: )

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I never understood why everybody hates that reading (which is from Ephesians 5) so much until I heard it a wedding at my boyfriend's conservative Lutheran church this summer, when I realized that churches must be leaving off the second part.

The second half of the passage tells men to love their wives as Christ loved the church, being willing to sacrifice his life for her.

I have no beef with that passage and will probably include it in my own wedding, and I think we all know I am a feminist man-hating hippie.

I had to look at my program to see what we had as readings at our wedding:

Song of Solomon 8:6-7
Colossians 3:12-17
Matthew 6:25-34

Not exactly traditional, but we liked them.

i guess i'm lucky cause red, buff, and green are rather easy to incorporate!

my dress was a buff color and i got a badge from the vault at IHQ that had belonged to a founding sister from my chapter (back in 45!) and it was my "something old" - i wore it on my dress and so many people ended up commenting on it.

my bridesmaids wore deep red dresses and carried hand-tied buff roses and my bouquet was hand-tied red and buff roses

aephi alum - i'm catholic and we got the same booklet

- marissa

FWIW most Catholic weddings (both with and without masses) take from the same type of booklet for choosing what you want the priest/deacon to say and all the readings that are possible. We got a booklet from our "home" church and picked out the stuff from there. The priest presiding over our ceremony in Ireland was cool, though I wanted to do the full vows where you repeat all the stuff, but we just ended up with the "I do" part. Oh well, not a big deal.

Me too. ;) I love that it's basically saying sacrifice your own wants for the needs of the other. If both partners are holding up their end of the bargain, both will be in good shape!

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Anyone have any new ideas? :)

I actually chose maroon for my bridesmaids dresses, and my bouquet was maroon and white. Although no sisters were IN the wedding, several attended.

Funny, I have had an affinity for maroon ever since college. In fact, my house is white with maroon shutters!

My maid of honor's flowers (I didn't have bridesmaids) and also the boutiniers for my dad and the best man were cream colored roses. I was told that cream colored roses would look like they were dying white roses if they were worn against white tuxedo shirts, so we did ivory instead and I wore an ivory dress. :) I think the corsages for the mothers of the bride and groom were cream colored roses too.

I wish that more of my sisters could have attended, but it was a small wedding--and if they had, I would have LOVED to have "Dream Girl" sung. I'm just hoping I'll be attending some DG weddings soon because it's getting to be wedding season soon!

In university, I worked in a golfcourse dining room for a summer job. There was one wedding (presumably a GDI wife and a FIJI husband) and the husband and his FIJI groomsmen sang a really sweet FIJI song to the wife. :)

hahaha I think every time I hear that song, everyone in the room starts jumping up and down and singing off key.

"JUST A SMALL TOWN GIRL...."

But, I think that blue and white will be easy to incorporate :)

I didn't have a big wedding, so there wasn't really anything to incorporate for me. :)

However, at many of my sorority sisters' weddings, we did a candlelighting. Most of us married non-fraternity men, so I can't tell you too much about what the guys did. However, IIRC, seems the one or two who did marry fraternity guys had some sort of fraternity related song as part of the wedding reception.

I'm going to have a dilemma for my wedding. 1 Corinthians 13 makes me barf everytime I hear it now. I'm not that keen on our colours for the wedding either. Maybe I'll compromise by using lavender and peach. IDk...I'll figure something out.

I wasn't a member at the time but...

My wedding colors were Navy and Silver...my mom missed the memo

Her dress was bordeaux with silver accents :D
But she worked it and looked great

My sister (A Sig Kap) wore her badge under her dress and carried violets in her bouquet. I distinctly remember at her reception her sisters singing to her and her bursting into tears. :D (My sis is prone to crying at the drop of a hat)

She had two Sig Kaps as bridemaids and they had the sorority colors incorporated into their bouquets, along with pearl necklaces. They also managed to find my sister's paddle and pictures (complete with 80's big hair. My poor sis looked mortified. :D) It is also my understanding that her pledge sisters, her big, and her little kidnapped her a few days before the wedding and did, among consuming several bottles of wine and taking incriminating pictures, a candlelighting ceremony. Said candle is among my sister's wedding momentoes.