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Originally Posted by Betarulz! (Post 1117730)

Some simple things that, at least from this guy's view, are appreciated in terms of risk management, courtesy to the hosts, etc. (some of these might vary based on your campus, but this is taking the most conservative view and will keep anyone from getting in trouble). These are all things that pissed the hell out of me when I had a party house and freshmen girls would come over.

*Do NOT go outside! Especially if you are underage, drunk or loud. I don't care how long the line for the bathroom is, or how hot/loud it is (maybe if youre hot, you could take off your coat, and if you really can't use your cell inside, ask me if you can go into another room). I have neighbors who don't appreciate 20 people running around outside. People outside a party house is the easiest thing to fix to avoid getting a party busted.

*Do not pee outside...that's about the worse thing ever, and the surest thing that will get neighbors to call the cops.

*Be frugal with the toilet paper...I NEVER went through as much toilet paper in one year as I did last year, I was constantly out. Also, the tri-delts twice flooded my bathroom b/c they were using so much.

*If something happens that is far beyond your ability to take care of on your own (eg. the toilet floods) GET THE HOUSE OWNER ASAP or tell one of the fraternity members. If the girls who flooded my bathroom would have just told someone about 10 minutes earlier when they first did it, then it would have made everyone's life easier.

*Do not go into rooms that have the door closed, without getting permission. There is probably a damn good reason why that door is shut...especially if it has been shut all night.

*If you absolutely must smoke, make sure to find someplace appropriate. Many leases have no smoking clauses, but the garage is usually a safe bet.

*If some older guys starts yelling at you to stop doing whatever it is you are doing...don't get pissed off b/c he's ruining your fun, more than likely it's his house and he's doing you the favor by hosting your little underage drinkfest, and whatever youre doing is dangerous and/or stupid.

*Don't go into the cabinets or the refridgerator, and keep your fucking hands off my food, and my good bottles of alcohol. If there is no mixer left, don't assume that the half open carton of OJ is for you.

*If the guys ask you to pitch in with the cost of alcohol, don't get pissed off that you have pay $2-5 for one night of binge drinking (never mind the fact that you're drinking for free most nights)...in less than three years youre going to be paying 4x that amount to go to the bars and that will be a cheap night for you.

*Remember, you are representing your sorority at all times. Any sort of things you do will characterize the rest of your house. After the two flooding incidents, Tri-delt was no longer welcome at my house...

*Also, it is probably 100% likely that any older fraternity members know girls in your house, and if you do something dumb, or steal my stuff, or break something, or just generally cause problems, it will get back to your house/chapter.

*Finally, if the cops do come: First, shut up if someone tells you to be quiet - please hang up your phone too. Second, put down your beer or cup (typical MIP probable cause). Third, if the cops bust the party, leave as they tell you to, don't try to exit out the back door/hide/go through a window, do not say a word, and for god's sake don't talk about how drunk you are. When outside, call sober sis, or let some other sober person take you home. Do not drive home (saw that DUI happen...). Also, don't talk about going to another party, b/c the cops may follow you there, and then you've busted up another party.

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Along with the not going outside, do not take cups or cans or bottles out with you. Never know when a cop may pass by and see you with it. Also, NEVER, NEVER take drinks into the sober drivers car.

That was a pretty awesome post dude. Don't get me wrong I love sorority girls for the most part, but they can be rude and disrespectful as shit. Another thing I would like to add to this: If you have a friend/boyfriend in a fraternity who makes a pledge give you a ride somewhere or if the fraternity makes pledges pick you up for anything, DO NOT complain about the music/temperature/the way the driver is driving. It's been awhile since I was a pledge, but I still remember how hard it was to restrain from slapping the shit out of a few girls. The pledges usually will not say anything for fear of getting balled, but they will remember who was a douche to them. Later those same pledges are going to be members and they will remember. I know of fraternities that will stop giving rides to members of certain sororities because they suck at generally being decent people to pledge drivers who are giving them a ride free of charge, not to mention, that most fraternities make pledges buy their own gas to pick girls up. It's also probably certain that that pledge doesn't want to pick you up and would rather be doing something else. So as a rule of thumb with pledge drivers. . and ALL other people who do you favors Greek related or not. . be grateful.

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06 (Post 1320012)

Unfortunately, for some sorority members, this is not common sense. Don't believe me, check out some sorority member's facebook or Myspace albums.

Sad to admit, but oh so true. I tell my students this and for some reason they seem to get it (how an 11 year old understands and some college students don't is beyond me) "If it's not in writing or on a picture it never happened, so don't write it down or put it in a picture".

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Originally Posted by sirfratalot (Post 1377631)

I back you up on that. I feel bad for them anyway...they're tired, they would much rather be partying, and they've got enough on their minds anyway besides your inane chatter and complaints.

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Originally Posted by sirfratalot (Post 1377631)

I want also to add to my own post. If you puke in a pledge's car you officially suck at life and will be ridiculed at the next chapter. Half of the pledges in every single pledge class have someone puke in their car and this is neither classy nor respectable. If you have any doubts as to whether you will puke, do not get into a pledge's car. Like I said earlier, these pledges are often mentally, physically, and emotionally abused and when you puke in their car, you really fuck things up for them.

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Originally Posted by sirfratalot (Post 1377929)

Like I said earlier, these pledges are often mentally, physically, and emotionally abused.

Well, there's a fabulously intelligent thing to post on a message board.

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Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby (Post 1377982)

Well, there's a fabulously intelligent thing to post on a message board.

shut up. My chapter has no hazing whatsoever. .but that isn't the case for everyone.

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Originally Posted by sirfratalot (Post 1378045)

shut up. My chapter has no hazing whatsoever. .but that isn't the case for everyone.

Might wanna take your own advice there bud...GC's gotten a few people in trouble before. Just saying, friendly warning.

Well, I will say I personally am opposed to hazing period in all forms and I've never witnessed it.

The fact that some fraternities and even sororities do is hardly a big announcement.

Many organizations would consider requiring pledges to drive drunk sorority girls around to be a form of hazing. Particularly if that interferes with study time or sleep time.

Hazing can take a lot of different forms -- it ain't just paddling and forced alcohol consumption. These days, it can even include that which is simply causing "mental discomfort."

After listening to my brother complain about sorority girls at recent parties...BUMP

* You do not need to hook up with every fraternity guy who smiles at you at an event. Really. It's not classy at all when half of a 20 guy pledge class can say they've hooked up with you in some manner. Ew.

*Are you and another sister not getting along? Leave it at the door. A social/date party/etc is not the place for you and that sister to have a huge drunken screaming match outside (in front of an entire group of boys and a city block of people).

I'll take it one further than Violet:
Not getting along with a sister? Talk to her, then GET OVER IT. Keep the outside involvement to a minimum, and don't have a public shouting match anywhere. You really don't need all 100 of your sisters, your boyfriend's fraternity, your GDI roommates and their boyfriends to give you advice/be a shoulder/etc or serve as an audience. You can be a big girl all on your own.

- Remember that you are at someone elses house, so be respectful

- You shouldn't be going upstairs(ie.. the bedroom floor) at all unless that is where the bathroom is located

-When a sober sister cuts you off its usually because A.) your doing something thats embarrassing other sisters B.) your sister wants you to be alive and healthy the next day

-Don't leave the party to hook up with someone and then return back to the party (its just trashy)

-If you want to hook up with a boy take him home to your room, otherwise the whole fraternity will know you did it with john smith from XYZ before your even out of the bedroom (trust me guys gossip just as much as girls esp. on this topic)

-DO NOT pee on a fraternity's couch even if it is in the basement and other people have probably already peed on it.

-Don't take drinks outside

-Don't makeout with guys in front of everyone, its just slutty

-DO try to e social fraternities aren't going to want to mix with girls that huddle in a group and stand in a corner

FOR GUYS
-Dont talk about the sorority negatively while your at a mixer with them trust me girls always overhear things

always emember this is what my mom and dad use to tell me remember when you go out in public you aren't jus representing your self your representing the whole family (ie sorority/fraternity) if you do something inappropriate people will think that your brothers or sisters condone that kind of behavior.

mmm i probably have more I just can't think of them ... and yes I've heard ofall of these happening on our campus!

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Originally Posted by Zeta13Girl (Post 1595582)

DO NOT pee on a fraternity's couch even if it is in the basement and other people have probably already peed on it.

:eek:
People do that?!?!????
Ewwwwwwww...

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Originally Posted by Zeta13Girl;1595582[COLOR=darkorchid

-DO NOT pee on a fraternity's couch even if it is in the basement and other people have probably already peed on it.[/COLOR]

hahahahaha.

I love Pennsylvania.

The following things happened at parties, not mixers, but I am sure the rules translate. This bothered me as a collegian and it really grosses me out years later.

Pee in the toilet, not the tub! OK, so maybe 4 people won't be able to go to the bathroom at the same time. Hold it!

And if a fraternity guy happens to really piss you off, don't go pissing in his bed-no pun intended.

My sisters used to get compliments about how we were not into hooking up and just wanted to have a good time. The fraternity guys liked mixing with us. Remember, you are representing your sorority. It's all about what kind of image you want your chapter to have.