sweetie, you are still in the game with two strong possibilities.
your attitude has been terrific and i applaud your open mind. let's hope tomorrow brings nothing but sweet things. fingers crossed for you.

You are being awesome!! I applaud your open mindedness. UNT does have a great ratio for placing women, so hang in there. :) Please let us know when you find out tomorrow if you get asked back to both..

OH did you decide on a scarf or not???

i am glad that you had a better time at cheesecake today. of course, i am on a diet and all of these threads with food topics are killing me;)

best of luck tomorrow!!

i hope that you get to visit with both chapters today!! good thoughts going your way!!

Well, I had my phone off last night, and I just checked it.

I received no invitations to pref night.

Everyone, thank you for your support and thoughts throughout this process.

I guess I just wasn't cut out to be in a sorority. I really don't understand why I was so cut.. but that's life.


Again, thank you.

Oh sweetie don't think that way. :D Formal recruitment is much more complex than COB/COR. The chapters have much more "formal' rules they have to follow. Not only chapter rules but panhellenic rules. COR is much more laid back.

i am so sorry to hear that!

Exactly, you don't know why you were cut, so there's no reason to think yourself sick over it. And since there's no way of knowing why you were cut, there's no reason to think that you aren't cut out to be in a sorority.

You are miserable and disappointed now. Take a deep breath, pick yourself back up and move forward. Maybe COB is an option for you, maybe not. Either way, this one bump in the road will not define you, unless you let it. If it were me, I wouldn't let it define me.

This is GREAT advice!! Dont let this stop you girl, if you really want to, go ahead and try COB.

I'm sorry to hear that you were cut. From your posts, it sounds like you're a great person and the chapters are missing out by not having you as a member.

first a sincere {{{huggle}}}
now it's time to move on. see if cob is real for you or not.
take a few real deep breathes and think about what you really want to do.
lots of stuff out there, but you need to take time now and figure what next.
if you cob, let us know so we can be happy for you. if not, know you have a lot of respect for how well you have handled things.

sweetie, you have lots of ears if you need them....
you are still showing your class. i'm proud of you.
see what happens.

myersm,
your post was wonderful! what a great attitude to have!!! i wish you the best in whatever happens.

Your posts show what a classy young lady you are-- best of luck in all your endeavors-- with your great attitudes, I am sure that great things (Greek or not) are ahead!!!

Exactly.

Good Luck today!! I know everything will work out the way it is supposed to!!

myersm - I genuinely applaud you for being so open-minded during recruitment and for remaining positive throughout the process.

If snap bidding doesn't happen for you, and you really want to be a part of greek life, don't give up :) There will still be opportunities for that down the road whether you think about COR or re-rushing next fall. And like you said the school has many different organizations!

I am so sorry. I think your attitude is admirable. I've heard that UNT often has COR so you might talk to the Greek Advisor and see about getting on the list for that.

The first week of school went extremly well, and I enjoy all of the classes that I am. Also, I'm really excited because I have found more organizations, that I didn't know were on campus, that I would love to join. And, I also am on the COB list.

I also have good news, I am going to the "snickers" house tomorrow for an informal recuritment event. I am pretty excited about that, and can't wait to meet some more of those girls. I'll let everyone know how it goes tomorrow night!

I'd like to thank everyone for their support, encouragment, and kind words throughout this event. I have enjoyed everything about rush and the little part of sorority life that I got to witness.

Snickers...yum! Hope everything goes well

That is awesome. I just read your post from the first day of recruitment and Snickers sounds great.

Best of Luck to you.

Yummmmy.

Snickers is a yummy candy bar. I hope things go well for you!!!

UNT has a TON of great organizations (I would know, I went to school there). Have a blast meeting all sorts of new people in all of the organizations (of course don't put *too* much on your plate that you neglect your studies -- i hate to sound like I'm 80, but definitely try to keep things balanced!)

Best of luck!

Snickers is my very favorite candy bar. Good luck!!

Have a great time at "Snickers" and enjoy getting to the ladies in a less hectic atmosphere! I'll be thinking about you!

Good for you hun. :)

got to love those peanuts...
have fun.

The meeting with the girls went well last night. However, I am a little uncertain of my chances. I wasn't at the house long, which I was told to expect, but I'm still unsure. And, I was somewhat nervous for some silly reason. However, I feel that I was more myself, although a little quite, but showed my true self. (Which may be a little too dorky for them.. haha)

I do feel comfortable there to an extent. It wasn't as much as last time, but I think it has to do with my nerves and walking in to their beatiful home and being on the spot right away. Also, during rush I talked to a girl that I was already aquainted with through a class a few semesters ago. So I believe that helped me last time, since she was the only one I really talked to, it wasn't so uncomfortable. Last night we didn't talk too much, and I really didn't have many questions because so many were answered during rush. But, I did talk and talk about things that I enjoy and love doing, without worrying about myslef and the convo the whole time.

I find out tonight if I receive a bid from this chapter. I'll update when I know! (Well, after I'm done with my tutoring job later tonight)

WOW! one event and already a chance for a bid. Great! Keep us posted!!!!

I had a similar experience in college. I hope that you have good news tonight.

No news yet.

However, I've been thinking lately, and being cut is affecting me a lot more than I thought it would. Now that school has started, and that I tutor some girls that just rushed, I realize what I'm missing. I really wish things would have happened diffrently. Yes, I know, like everyone always says, things happen for a reason. That is why I still have some hope and will try again in the spring.

I still don't understand why I was cut, and I know that I never will. I have a 3.1 gpa, I'm only a sophomore, I'm invovled in a national honor fraternity, I hold a part time job, and tutor on the side. I know it sounds like a full plate, but it really isn't. I'm busy yes, but I still have so much time that I have nothing. And, I do love the things that I'm invovled in, especially Phi Sigma Pi, but we are not as close as brothers than a sorority would ever be. We only talk at meetings, and rarely out of, and we have no close bonds.. but we do get a long. I don't know. I know to wait, and see how COB events go, but it's just painful being one of the very few that didn't receive a bid somewhere. I honestly feel like a loser. Maybe I am a little quite and reserved, but I feel that I can bring a lot to a sorority and it can bring a lot to my life. I would never let it hinder my academics, and I realy want to experience more on-campus involvement, philanthropies, and a strong acadmic standing. I've heard so many great things that sororities bring to women's lives, and I wish I could experience them. I know that during rush I was nervous and couldn't fully reveal myself, since I had to overcome my shyness, which I did, and still show these people that I could be a good addition to their group.

Being cut, has affected me, but I don't want it to negative affect me anymore that it has. I am a strong go-getter, and have never really been rejected in things that I have always gone after. So, I guess, this life lesson is sticking harder than I could have ever emagine. I must move on, and I will. I know if the time comes, I will be where I am supposed to be.

There's still one sorority that I would LOVE to hear back from, but I am going to try to concentrate on all other things. I've laid out a list of goals for this semester to overcome this refjection, so this is my new focus.

I just wish things would have happened diffrently... and just thinking about all of this makes me choke up so much. I guess it's hurting more each day, and I don't want to sound desperate about getting into a sorority. I know that there are other things in life, but this was a dream... and I must move on.

(((((myersm))))))

If I could hug you in real life I would, but this is the best I could do.

Please don't let the negative of the experience affect you.

Keep positive and remember that formal recruitment is so much more restrictive than informal.

Patience Sweetheart. It sounds like the first week is taking a toll on you. COBing is just getting started. Here is your chance to really get to know each of the sororties. And you will end up where you are meant to be. Enjoy the beginning of the school year with all the fun football time and UNT spirit! Hang out at greek events and get your face and name out there. Good luck and please keep us posted!!

hon, i can understand why it is hard to watch everyone else doing what you want to be doing too. it is ok to feel disappointed. in this thread, you have shown that you are a classy woman. i can't speak at all about your chances of getting a bid on your campus because i don't know. give it some time, continue your involvement with your other activities and friends and who knows what will happen. best of luck to you!

Just heard, no bid from Kappa Kappa Gamma for me.

i'm so sorry.

sigh
{{{hugs and huggles}}}
i have no good answer other than follow your plans, get to class, try other things and see what develops.
also don't totally give up, but give things a priority, i guess.
you are special do not allow yourself to get down.

*hugs* to you.

lots of hugs for you!

you seem like a very classy lady. best wishes to you in everything you pursue