My "what if" has a HUUUUGGEE string attached to it- A BOY

----What if I wasn't dating a boy who said he wouldn't date a sorority girl? He was my first "real boyfriend" and for some stupid reason I was really scared he would dump me.
----What if I went through Formal Recruitment Frosh or Soph year? Or informal.

Heres another big "what if"-
----What if I hadn't broken up with the a$$hole the summer before my junior year? Would I have gone through informal with Alpha Theta Phi?
----What if Alpha Theta Phi had gone with another national sorority? Would I be as active as I am now? Would be have a smoother transition?

I often do wonder about ZTA, I had a close friend who was a Zeta and tried desperatly to get me to pledge, but the boy prevented me. I think it all worked out though, because in all seriousness, the entire founders of my sorority is full of 'what if' girls.

What if...

I had rushed during the fall this year? Would I have ended up in an NPC or just gotten cut again? How would that have changed me? Would I have been active?

I didn't happen to see an MSU flyer as plain as it was in the mailroom? Would I have seen another one, or just ignored the others?
One of my friends thought briefly about starting up MSU here, but that was just talking since she transferred anyway.

I had decided to skip the info meeting for MSU? Or left before two sisters came late (traffic from NJ to CT)?

I didn't have the crew that I have now because of the whole interest process which bonded us together?

Our developing chapter falls apart? It's a very real concern that I have, but I don't let it get to me because I know I'll be putting in so much work over the next two years to make sure that doesn't happen. :D

My "what if" is like a lot of other peoples'...what if I had rushed as a freshman instead of as a sophomore? I know I wouldn't be a DZ because DZ was recolonizing and didn't partcipate in rush that year. It's kinda weird to think about. I'm glad I waited.

Same what if as everyone else:

What if I had rushed as a freshman, as a little party girl i probably would have ended up in a different houes.

Also, what if all my friends hadn't ended up as Kappa Delta's, would I have even looked at sororities?

I LOVE this thread--here are mine--

What if:
My RA had not been kind of witchy and the only member of AZD I knew when I went through(sorry!! That is not meant to be mean!), so I dropped them after first round. My Rho Chi(who was an ANGEL) ended up being an AZD, as well as many of my best college friends but I had only her to think of when I went through

I actually HAD gone out more my freshman year--we have deferred recruitment, so I didn't go through till January but I really had no friends in any of the organizations because I was so scared of having the "party girl" rep that I stayed in way to much!

I actually know that AOII was where I would have ended up. I DID put ZTA down first on my bid card, with AOII second. But the only reason I did(well, besides the fact that ZTA was a great at Elon--but so is AOII!) was that my roomates really wanted ZTA and I thought we would all be friends forever if we were in the same sorority. Funny part is I could NEVER imagine being anything but an AOII now and those roomates I never really spoke to after freshman year and they pretty much de sistered.

I've kind of wondered what would have happened if I went through recruitment my freshmen year instead of my sophomore year. I've also wondered what would have happened if I received a bid my sophomore year. I was only invited back by two groups (AXO and AOPi) after the first round, but then I was dropped after the second. But then again, I wouldn't have this wonderful opportunity to become a founding member of my chapter :).

Oh goodness... here goes...

What if I had preffed Alpha Phi first, would I have ended up there?? (After seeing their skit for homecoming, I was even MORE impressed with them!!)

What if I had preffed Kappa Delta instead of leaving them off?? (At Mizzou, we attend three parties on pref day and can then pref whatever houses we'd like... I only decided I would accept bids from two of the three houses I attended.)

What if I had dropped out of recruitment after being cut from the house I "really" wanted?? I thought I wanted to be in a house where a few girls from my high school ended up... I loved it, and considered dropping out when they cut me.

What if I had suicided Kappa?? (Which I was considering very strongly.) Would I have ended there?? (Kappa doesn't participate in COB/COR at my school...)

What if I hadn't cut Phi Mu, Zeta or Alpha Chi... would I have ended it up in one of those houses after spending more time there??

I ended up Kappa... and although I ask myself the "what-ifs" about recruitment... I wouldn't change a thing!! Then again, we have thirteen awesome houses at my Mizzou, so I'm not sure a girl can lose...:)

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Killer B's ? Please explain :)


My what ifs

I had gone through formal recruitment instead of informal spring

I had joined the ohter chapter I got a bid to

I had transferred to NAU instead of SFSU

I had rushed at LMU my freshman year

Killer B's:
-Booty (sex)
-Booze (alcohol and drugs)
-Boys (not really something you want to talk about during recruitment parties)
-Bush (politics in general)
-Bible (religion)

The first three just aren't generally things you wanna talk about during recruitment; the last two are things that can spark heated debates and hurt people's feelings.

One more what if for me:
If I'd decided to wait a semester and do COB, would I have potentially been a founding sister of Delta Gamma, or would I have been in one of the other 15 sororities?

what if my grandmother had contacted this chapter of Alpha Phi and told them i was a legacy? would i have been cut? what would i have put first on my bid card if i had preffed a-phi and adpi??

I went through a strange loosely structured spring recruitment my freshman year that was basically like COBing all of the sororities at once.

I had to turn down an invitation to the last party at one chapter because I had already agreed to attend another party at the same time but I do wonder what I would have done if I'd gone to their party.

I really do wish I had gone through formal recruitment. I do think I still would have ended up with Sigma Kappa, but I would have developed a greater bond with the rest of my class.

My "what if" has always been, What if my mother and I got along and I did not use rush as a way of moving out of the house a week earlier than scheduled? I don't think I would have ever gone through rush as I had zero self confidence thanks to my mother who told me for years I couldn't do anything right. I have never had a "what if" about my house as I only planned to stay in rush until KD dropped me and then I would drop out completely. In order to stay in the dorms during rush, you were required to attend all the first day parties. After that, if you dropped out you could stay in the dorm until your dorm opend up the following week. KD was the first house I visited and I really like them, but having zero self confidence, I left them telling myself that they were really nice, but I bet all the houses come across like that. By the end of the day I realized I only liked KD. I stayed in rush, attended every party I was invited to (I always had a a full invite list which also amazed me) and gave every other house an honest looking at, but every night I always knew it was either KD or nothing. At one time, my rush roommate tried to tell me why KD was not as good a house as KAT and Alpha Phi which were her top houses. Neither of them carried me and neither of them were my fit. The day I received my bid, I think I was screaming louder than anyone in the room.

Now I have to get ready to go over to a sister's house to work on baskets for a silent auction we are having at our major fund raiser, see, I am the President of my AA for KD and just as happy now as I was all those eons ago when I first walked into the KD house.

DaffyKD

What if my freshman roommate, who had been my highschool best friend, had rushed w/me when we were freshman? Would we have pledged the same house? Would we be speaking today? She waited until we were seniors, and barely acquaintances...and after she had done some questionable things to cause many of my sisters to not want to let her in (like broadcasting to the world she only wanted to be an AGD), so that after she was cut by AGD first round, everyone felt like her interest in coming to later DZ parties wasn't sincere & therefore didn't get a bid?

What if I had listened to the "tent chatter" instead of my heart, and put AGD down 1st on my list instead of DZ? I didn't know the members of either group better than the other...it was just a gut feeling...would I have become as close to the AGDs as I did to the DZs?

I have alot of regrets about what happened w/my roomie, but not one single regret about becoming a DZ!

Aww, we could have been pledge sisters! :)

We also had Banks (or how much your daddy makes, even though I know that gets asked quite a lot anyway)

Yeah Bank is also a killer B. How do you sidestep that question without getting the urge to say "NOYB"?

Ours were simply:

Banks
Bible
Booze (Included general talk about going out to clubs, etc.)
Boys

Same here - only we substituted "bucks" for "banks".


My other "what if" is generally known, I think: what if I had been 17 or 18 when I graduated from high school, and I had taken the out of state scholarship that was offered to me?

Pretty much the same as ours, only we had Bids in there as well.

We also added Bush this year...for obvious reasons

We've always (or at least as long as I know, which ain't too long) had "Bush" on our list meaning politics in general. You never know where a girl stands on issues and besides, who wants to talk about them during recruitment? I think I might propose that "Banks" or "Bucks" be added to the list--I don't know anybody that asks how much money Daddy makes, but it might be nice to have it set as some sort of rule just to make sure.

Oh, and I just noticed--I suppose "Bids" isn't something you talk about unless you're explaining how the system works. Guess it's the 7 B's now!

I have one big "what if"...

My mom and grandmother are both Alpha Phis and I always wanted to be an Alpha Phi as well--it was only that background that prompted to go through formal recruitment. The day before pref the Alpha Phi who was talking to me left me by myself during their skit. At the time I didn't understand why my whole perception of the Alpha Phis changed that night. I called my mom and cried because I had to eliminate two chapters that night and Alpha Phi was going to be one of them. So my question is:

what if I had gone back to Alpha Phi's pref party?

I don't think I would change a thing now because I am a collegiate chapter adviser for a DG chapter and love it--something I could not do if was an Alpha Phi (no chapter here).

What if I hadn't cut Theta the day before pref-would I have ended up here on pref night?

What if DG had been at A&M when I rushed-would I have joined my grandmother's sorority?

what if I had bothered to get recs for XO, Pi Phi and Kappa-would I have liked these houses?

I have quite a few...

--> What if I rushed freshman (or sophomore) year (I considered myself VERY anti-sorority at this time).?

--> What if Tri-Delta or Kappa Delta had been invited to colonize at NCSU my junior year instead of Delta Gamma (would I have considered rushing one of these groups - I'm a DG legacy)?

--> If I was not a DG legacy, would I have considered membership in a sorority?

--> If my mom was not sick, would I have considered membership in a sorority?

In any case, I think God does things for reasons and I know EXACTLY why I ended up in the Delta Gamma sisterhood!!

I've wondered that too, except with ADPi and Alpha Phi. Would I be in either of these groups right now? Who knows, but things happen for a reason.

This is the exact same "what if" that I have had. I wonder if my rush experience would have been better (mine was horrible and involved me crying every single day of the week).

I am almost positive that had I rushed as a freshman, I would not have gone ADPi, and it makes me sad to think that I might have chosen differently.

If I had rushed as a freshman and pledged a different house, I honestly don't think that I would be the person that I am today. I never would have met the women who are the best friends I could ever have, and I would most likely not have been as active in promoting my chapter.

In the end, I know that it worked out perfectly. I think that I have always been an ADPi at heart. :)

Oh my! As someone who is hoping to successfully complete Alumna Initiation, I am filled with "what-ifs."

The BIG ones:

1. What if I hadn't attended Rush (spring of freshman year) with my friend across that hall who wanted DG or nothing? Would I have considered my options differently?

2. What if I hadn't declined my COB bid in the fall of my sophomore year? Or what if I had gone through formal recruitment again that year (I never did try again)?

3. What if I HAD joined a sorority in college? Would I have met my hubby?????? He wasn't anti-Greek, but he was a very shy independent.

LM

I think I will always wonder "what if" I had gone thru formal rush freshman year. Rush was always held before school started and so I wouldn't have had any outside input guiding my direction. And I wouldn't have known who all would be in my pledge class. I went thru COB a month after school started and I was totally happy with my decision.
Had I gone thru rush, I think tri-delt still would have been one of my top choices, but part of me thinks that I would have seriously considered XO for the simple reason that there was a girl there from my homestate (there weren't many of us!)--silly reason, but then again, I was a silly freshman at the time!

If we're talking about mutual selection...I don't have what-ifs...I know :)

I'm 99.9% positive that:

if I had rushed at Oglethorpe University, I would have gone Chi Omega

and, at UGA, Pi Beta Phi

...but nothing was quite right until Theta Nu Xi!

My "what if" is the opposite. What if I had went ahead and went through rush at Kansas State Univ (instead of taking the out of state scholarship to an HBCU)? I can remember that May of my senior year, getting rush week information from KSU (I don't come from a greek background so I just assumed that all sororities participated in this - NPC, NPHC, etc.). I wonder would I have gone through rush?

Interesting...

Here's a different "what if"

*What if I hadn't transferred schools the quarter after pledging ZTA?

As some of you who follow the AI board know... I was a very serious athlete during my high school and college years. While competing in the nationals, I was offered a scholarship and a chance to train with the best athletes in my sport in the country IF I transferred.

I decided to follow my Olympic dream... and had to sacrifice sorority life because the University where I transferred to-- didn't have a ZTA chapter.

I'm now happy to report that after two decades of being a pledge :) (I never depledged) I have now been initiated in to ZTA. (I have to wonder if I hold the record of having the longest pledge period in history??!!)

And while I am just thrilled to FINALLY have "crossed over" after all these years... and yes, I really love being involved with my Alumnae chapter... I always wonder *what if* I had stayed where I was and had been initiated while in college.

Looking back, I think I really missed a lot, and sometimes it makes me sad. I was so busy training, that I didn't get to go to the "date nights" and "mixers"....But then, I think about all of the fantastic experiences I had while competing.

But still..... I can't help but wonder... what if.......

Ya know, I actually think about that sometimes, too. I love my sorority and I loved running, but I gave up formals for NCAA trials, mixers, intermurals/games during Greek Week (heaven forbid the coach find out you're doing another sport) and thur night fun for the 48 hour rule, I gave up leadership roles because I didn't think I would have enough time, etc. I even missed Circle Degree (its Tri Delta ceremony that makes you "offically" an alum). Now that I'm semi-retired from running, and read active's away messages I think about it sometimes.

DolphinChica (and anyone else to whom this applies): will you be able to go through your Circle Degree in the future? And if you feel I'm too close to ritual, please ignore me!

We have Jewel Degree, named after one of our first national presidents, as our "active to alumna" ritual. If someone misses it when they're a senior, they can still receive it at a later date, no harm, no foul.

I hope that you'll be able to enjoy your ritual in the future, too!

And blueangel - I hadn't heard your story. Thank you for sharing, and congratulations on finally becoming an alumna!! If your heart's in the right place, I'm sure your crown is, too! ;)

We can go through Circle Degree at a later time as well. I'm "Circling out" at our Pansy Brunch in May. Any Alum chapter can perform the ritual, and my Alumnae Chapter is actually all excited because they haven't ever done the ceremony before (there isn't a collegiate chapter around) so when I asked the president, they got all excited.

I have to admit, I am excited as well. I loved our other rituals, so I'm looking forward to this one. Sarah Ida Shaw hasn't let me down yet!:)

What if I had not dropped out of formal recruitment?
Would I have given the others a chance? Before formal recruitment, I was hoping for DZ, DDD, or SK but ended up having to drop formal recruitment. When I heard that SK & AOII were having COB events, I decided to try again. I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I had visited AOII first instead of SK? I received a bid from SK & chose to go there b/c it felt right from the minute I walked in but I never had the chance to experience a day with the AOII ladies. What if I had visited AOII first? Would the story be the same or different?
Sometimes I wonder but I have never regretted my decision.

What if...

....your aunt had a penis.

Then she'd be your uncle.

but what happens if your aunt with a penis joined a sorority does that mean all her sisters are really her brothers??

My "What Ifs":

What if I had gone through a structured recruitment? If I had seen other houses would I have joined somewhere else?

What if my Alpha Phi recs hadn't gone lost in the mail? Being a legacy, would I have joined there?

Were there other houses I would have felt as comfortable in as ADPi?
What if I had gone to another school? Would I have rushed? Joined a different sorority?

I think out of the 14 chapters on my campus, only 5 would have really been a place I could have called home. ADPi was the only one of those 5 to seek me out for COB, though Sigma Kappa did contact me, but after I had signed my bid. I will always wonder what would have happened if I had done recruitment....but I <3 ADPi and wouldn't change it for anything!!

Not unless they were actually guys masquerading as girls too, lol.