In Russia, if you weren't married by 22, it was as if you were destined to be an old maid forever and no one would want to marry you, and my mom got married at 20. Now that I'm 21, whenever we have any family gatherings, the *ahem* older relatives who all got married very young start asking me why I haven't gotten married yet, when am I getting married, and my personal favorite is when they ask my mom how many grandkids she wants (I'm an only child). Gee thanx. I get to see them all on the 2nd, really looking forward to that one.

*cough cough I was sent this thread by KLPDaisy...thanks ho, i mean thanks girl lol* ;)


I don't get this around the holiday. I get it all the time. But really only from my Pawpaw(grandfather). He decides whether I"m successful or not by whether or not I have a boyfriend.


The conversation this holiday went like this:

"Jennifer you got a boyfriend yet?" - Pawpaw
"Nope, not officially." - Me
"Well, that means no." - Pawpaw
"No! I've been on a couple dates with this one guy" - Me *getting very defensive*
"He got money? Smart?" - Pawpaw
"He's an engineer" - me
" Well, hell - that's better than what you want to do. Keep him." - Pawpaw

My Pawpaw believes that I should marry or date people that will only make money. B/c I will never amount to anything and should only be a housewife. So he's overly concerned with my dating habits. So its always fun trying to explain why I don't or why I do have a boyfriend. le sigh

Surprisingly I wasn't asked this question, to my recollection, once this year, which is kinda unfortunate because there are so many games I would loved to play. For example, this guy I was/am(?) seeing is friends with my cousin, so had someone asked me if I was seeing someone, it would have gotten back to him if I said no. Does that make sense?

For as dumb as boys are, girls are just as stupid.

ETA: But my 17-year old sister got the question a million times!

My boyfriend's mom has decided we better settle down and start popping out babies because she had three kids already when she was my age.

Um that's nice, I'm going to professional school instead. And we've been dating for three months.

Oh, my family gave up on me a long time ago! My cousin and I are the "old batchelor" and "old maid" of the family.:p

i get this question allllllllll the time...my cousin who is three months older and recently engaged (and a full fledged bridezilla btw) has decided to also start this question...why is this an appropriate question? i would never ask someone why they dont get their facial hair seen to or why they stay with an obviously less than satisfactory spouse or a million other things i would dearly love to know but feel would be rude to ask...blah!

Re: Let the "Where's Your Boyfriend?"s begin!!!
 

Yea, this is always my big chance to pass some jokes at a party though. Where is she? Damn if I know, they told me 4-6 weeks?

These questions come from girls though, always gauging to see which friends are on the market. No guy gives a crap about their friend's love life. I'll get a call when they decide to propose though...better come up with some new single jokes :p

Re: Re: Let the "Where's Your Boyfriend?"s begin!!!
 

Actually this sounds more on key, but the questions usually comes for a guy after he first brings a girl and then stops. The question (again, only from the ladies) what happened to your girlfriend? Always implying I broke the toy, sheesh....:rolleyes:

luckily for me, i have 2 older, single girl cousins and they don't have boyfriends (or at least not that they're going to tell the entire fam about), and my family is still caught up on my major, so most of their time is spent trying to change my political views and majors. (don't you want to be a surgeon like your grandfather? or how about architecture? your mother is a terrific architect.) by the time they've exhausted all things politics, i'm heading home.

It's only my mom's side of the family that cares about this. My dad's side is like, "You date?" WTF?

I got it at Thanksgiving since that was when the whole family got together. I told them it was because he couldn't afford the plane ticket to Colorado (hell, I barely could, and I have a "real" job), and because he didn't want his mom to be alone for Thanksgiving, because she always is for Christmas because he flies back to California to see his dad and half-brothers.

I left out the part that he's scared of them because they're wackos.

I've heard the question before - but rarely.
Because I'm 185lbs I don't really get asked that 'cause it's not expected I'd be in a relationship so I suppose in a strange way I'm fortunate. Of course the 185lbs (non-muscular) weight and not looking buff shirtless means no pretty girl will be attracted to me and I'll probably die alone. Ah well, you play the cards you're dealt.

edit: I know, hardly clinical obesity but still rolls. :cool:
edited again because I can't type

this is a truly random thought - what happened to the days when we weren't old enough to date until we were 40 (or whatever random age fathers might have come up with)?

come on man.....have some self-esteem in yourself.

I've been married for over five years. According to my father, I'm still not old enough to date. :p I was supposed to be over 30 and have my doctorate before I even thought about dating. (In my field, you don't need a doctorate, so I never went for one.)

Yet somehow... even though I'm not supposed to be dating, much less married, and premarital sex is a big no-no... I'm also supposed to be busy popping out his grandchildren. :confused:

AKA Monet, my husband hasn't met all my family either.

Just wait until you are married. The ink is barely dry on the marriage certificate and they ask you THE dreaded question:

"When are y'all having kids?" What gets me is the ones who ask you the most are the ones who had their first kids as teens and have 2 or 3 now. (cousins)

And G-d forbid if you are married over a year and haven't pumped out any rugrats yet! :rolleyes:

Let me get back to you...I will even call you as we are conceiving! :p

My in-laws took us aside ON OUR WEDDING DAY and said, "Wouldn't it be nice if your grandmother became a great-grandmother before she DIES???" :rolleyes:

The first time my first husband and I went to visit his parents after our wedding, my mother-in-law (who I generally adored) took me aside and told me that we could sleep in their bed for the weekend, the waterbed, and that she had put leopard print sheets on it so we could start working on grandchildren! AS IF! In HER bed??? With them in the house??? No way!!!!!

Thank goodness I caught on that he was an abusive bastard before we conceived!

Dee

Gotta love the in law guilt! :p

LEOPARD PRINT SHEETS = SEXXXXXY.

I will HIT someone if they try to throw that mess.

You mean the same ones who aren't married and don't have a college degree or vocational training?

Those are the same people I want to ask, "When are you having a tubal ligation?"

Puhleaze!! Unless you are like 4'5 feet tall, 165 pounds (in and of itself) is hardly unattractive. An attitude like that is more unattractive than anything!

Isn't 165 lb a very normal weight for most men?

Sorry that was a typo. It should actually have read 185 pounds. According to the BMI index it's overweight. At least it doesn't say I'm obese, I guess.

And you KNOW this, girlfriend! (Said in my best Chris Tucker voice)

Or better yet, "why don't you use something or keep your legs closed"? and "where are your babies daddies?"

Everytime I visit my family, they always ask where my bf is. He doesn't like going out except for neccesities. He does everything through the internet. He doesn't really like inlaws. Not just mine, but with his previous ex's also. So he definitely doesn't like driving 3 hours to visit my family.

you should do this!
 

hahahhhaha what a great solution!!

bumping*

new season, new love.....

my sister is the oldest of the two of us so they ask her all the time who is she seeing and where is he. as for me, i am only home for one day this thanksgiving and then i have to leave because of finals.

maybe santa can bring me a hottie so i can take her home for christmas.

I swear at least every other time I talk to my parents (well my mom and it is at least a couple times a week as I am an only child and they still treat me like I am 6) I get the question "so do you have a girlfriend yet?" I swear one of these days I am gonna bust out and say..."no I screw a lot of girls but I wouldnt call them girlfriend...especially since I dont know their names"...I wonder if that will shut them up

I've finally been "asked" this question by my grandmother this year - I have another cousin who is unmarried, and the two of us are the only grandchildren (of the first "group" of them) who are unmarried. I don't think my grandma talked to her about this, but she said to me "Maybe next year you'll bring someone to the family gathering for us to meet!" :rolleyes:

I love my family dearly, but I don't think I'm ready to have anyone I would be seeing be subjected to the craziness that is our family! :D

Since I've been divorced for 5 years now, when I was at my cousin's funeral last month, I was asked if I was dating anybody. I looked at my cousins who asked me that and said "Why in the world would I want to do that?". LOL It was the first time I have ever, in my 40 years, confronted the Italian traditional attitudes that you are nothing if you are not married.

I think twice is enough, thanks.

I hear from my great grandmother every time I see her, "Well, why did you go to college if you weren't going to find a husband?"

At my baby brother's wedding, one of my aunts I hadn't seen in ages asked me, "So when's your turn?" To which I replied, "Well, my boyfriend just dumped me two days ago, thanks for bringing it up, and I don't think it will be anytime soon. I'm going to go enjoy my brother's wedding now." It was true and I've been left alone since.

I think they all waver between wanting to find me a husband and feeling sorry for "poor Crystal" who has to spend all of her time doing things she couldn't do if she were married.

That's awesome. What was the response?

We all just laughed. I said it in a joking manner. I think I made my point though!

I feel sorry for all ya'll!

My parents were the kind that no matter how nice/successful/great guy you happened to be dating was, you should dump him and concentrate on your school! They always got upset to see a daughter (there's 5, no boys) start dating! They see children and men as obstacles to their daughters professional life, heh.


So, it always sucked if you brought your bf to a family event....they'd always mention how you should be doing your homework!

*A note

My sister and her now-hubby were having a fight over the phone a few weeks before their wedding (mostly due to stress, you know the drill). Well, my dad got on the line and yelled, "You don't have to mary that asshole!" Ahh, classic moment...apparently my bro-in-law (who is a wonderful guy) still brings that up :p

My parents used to be like that, too. I posted about this earlier on this thread... My dad didn't want me dating until I had my doctorate. :rolleyes: He felt that I should concentrate on my studies. On one occasion, when I was going through a particularly painful breakup, he actually said, "Good." :mad: While it is good that I didn't end up marrying that @$$hole, that was not what I needed to hear at the time!

Now, of course, my folks and my inlaws are getting older, and they want to be grandparents already. (DH and I are only children, so the only way they can get grandkids is through us.) Not a family gathering goes by that I don't get at least one hint. On top of that, my MIL expects that I will quit my job and stay home! :rolleyes:

Okay, </rant> I feel better now :)

My own parents never ever pressured me. It's the extended family who think you should be married to have a place in the world.. my DAD's Italian extended family. Then again, they rip on the cousin who is on her fourth marriage too. If I did get married again, I'm sure they'd talk about me for being married a third time. Bottom line is, you can't win with some of the snobs in my family unless you marry a rich man first time out and stay with him forever.

the only person that asked me if i had a girlfriend this year was my uncle. i told him no. then he tells me that there is this girl that they are trying to hook up. i ask for some info. he then tells me a little about her and says that she is a good girl waiting to find the right person, somewhat shy, has a degree, and has a great job making lots of money. he couldnt remember her name but says that he sees her all the time when he visits his friends house. later that day, he calls his friend to see if she was really available and that he might have someone interested in her and asks for her age and stuff. i find out she is 2-3 years older than me. SUGAR MOMMA! :D

so, my uncle is suppose to send me her picture sometime soon and says that he can take me to see her the next time he goes and visits his friend. i believe she lives about 30 minutes from me, so if i get her info before then i might just meet her up somewhere.

I can feel this topic! I've been single for 3 years and I get that question a lot. Oh, and with people who haven't seen me in awhile, it's the ever popular, "So....are you're still a virgin aren't you?" Can we get a new question? My parents used to wonder if I was a lesbian b/c it's always years in between boyfriends for me.

I think I'm just a 'girlfriend-girl' I don't like the whole "we're together, but with other people for x amount of months until I might commit to you." I don't do casual dating, we can go out and have fun getting to know each other, but I'm not going to claim a tie to you unless it's serious--either you're my boyfriend, or we're "just friends." If that means I only get a boyfriend every few years, then sobeit, I can afford to be picky.

That is really mean and rude....So, are you?


HAHAHAHAH don't answer that






now that is just funny.


Ok jk. I love you and I love God