Honestly, I was just asking an opinion about a situation I was in...I'm single and I don't think men suck, in fact I like them very much;) . I think someone has bigger problems on their plate than a wedding if they think the opposite sex sucks. I am still not sure if I'm going to ask this guy or not...I will let you guys know.:)

Stop trying to fit the world (and by extension, greekchat) into these neat patterns. There is no implicit corelation between the two threads - you're strawmanning here.

So yeah, you can rage against some perception of 'the machine' all you want, but why? OK, so you don't want to be subject to societal pressures to be 'coupled' - fantastic, do you. But these pressures are more than societal, they're evolutionary as well, they're primal, they are developmental. Ah, now we're raging against much more than society, and suddenly the che guevara "fist in the air" is more of a coping mechanism . . . and you're losing ground rapidly to the slippery slope. Not to mention the arrogance of assuming that there is implicit value to ignoring these societal pressures . . .

You also ignore other issues, such as decorum. If you're invited to bring a date to a wedding, you're invited to do just that - if you have a significant other, decorum suggests it rude to invite one but not the other (since you are, after all, a 'couple'). If you bring a sorority sister, you are abusing the priviledge, since that meal, those drinks, even the seat you sit in does not come for free. How now, my revolutionary friend? Or does pragmatism and respect for others have no place in this fight?

I'll say it again, in the same colloquial language: bringing a sorority sister makes you into a tool (unless the two of you are 'together' in a relationship sense, and then more power to you - I'll buy you a box of wine and make bad jokes).

Past that, your anger at a relatively harmless social issue just drips with a lack of resolution of other issues . . . lay down on the couch, we have the full hour, be open and candid.

No, you hijacked relatively simple thread with a quasi-intellectual assault, and you even did it by relying mostly on logical fallacies. Start a new thread if you want to argue against the societal desire to have a date, but don't act like you're the only smart person in the thread.

That will get you nowhere.

also this post was very serious, so i included this so Rudey would enjoy it too:

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Well Ott-
The boy situation might work? Who knows? He seems like he would be easily spooked.

Has anyone seen the trailer for "Wedding Crashers?" You could just go and hope to meet Owen Wilson ;)

Otter, I would ask your friend to go. I think you'd be bored without someone to accompany you since it will be all couply, and even if you don't hook up, it'll be someone to party with.

you could be VERY bored on a cruise with a bunch of other couples and just you. Hell, you'd be bored if you brought a sister. There's something about cruises that kinda make you want to have someone of the male persuasion with you. I went with some friends last spring break, and while the cruise was fun, I think I would've had even more fun with a date type companion.

And this is one of the rare occasions when I agree with KSigRC!

As far as Otter's situation - you are not asking him just to ask someone. You are asking him because you like him. I don't think it will freak him out.

I've gone to most of the weddings I've gone to (that aren't family weddings) with no date. Mr 33 hates them and I see no sense in dragging him to something he'll hate. If it's a sister wedding, I MIGHT bring a sister who didn't get invited if the reason she didn't get invited was that she was farther down the invite list than me (and the bride has budgeted for me and a guest, and it's OK w/ her). I've gone to weddings completely on my own.

I think everyone is forgetting what the purpose of being a wedding guest is...it's to support and congratulate your friend on the happiest day of his or her life, and share it with them. It's not for you to meet men or women, or get drunk, or show off your date. Think about the bride and groom, not about yourself.

Yeah, that's my concern...you know a little more about the situation then the people on here (the Hooties connnection...haha) so you understand what I mean! I'm just not going to worry about it until I absolutely have to in January! Who knows, I think maybe I'll drag a hottie I meet when I'm in Hawaii back to the mainland and take him....haha :p

I have been invited to quite a few weddings, and I have never brought a date. I prefer hanging out with my friends and family. I wasn't in a steady relationship at the time. It's not a big deal. Many people go solo and have a great time.

I have been a date for my boyfriend's friend's wedding. It was weird for me since I knew no one except him, but the people were nice and the wedding was fun once I got over my initial shyness.

I'm curious here... who pays for something like this? Would you be expected to pay for your date's cruise? Are the bride and groom paying? How do people work it when they choose to do things like this?

I can support hotties from Hawaii. :D

It's good that you have some time. I think the extra few weeks will help you decide.