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That is a great point and well put.

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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
If you're having sex, you owe it to YOURSELF to ask if you're exclusive.

You need to know because your health is involved. And if he won't tell you, leave. That's indiciative of a whole host of issues -- he's disregarding your feelings, disregarding your health, being elusive, avoiding conflict.

It's up to you how you bring it up. What works for some girls is saying, "Let me know if you start sleeping with someone else." It's not an ultimatum, it's not a requirement -- and if the guy cares about you, it's not going to be an issue.

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I agree, that is the only time I believe in having "The Talk" - if sex is involved. If it's not, and we're enjoying each other's company, I just continue to enjoy his company and wait and see where it goes because I hate "The Talk" and just think it puts pressure on one or both of the people.

You can usually tell if it has become exclusive and if he is your boyfriend by the way he acts and what he says to you and his friends... This is key, sometimes his friends will say, "so how long have you two been together?" or "when's your anniversary?" and then you know he's been saying good things and that you are indeed his GF.

4 words sum it up best

Like someone else said, the four words "So, what are we?", IMHO, is the easiest way to go about it.

I hate "State of the Union" addresses.. and I know my BF hates them.

When we were always together and hugging and stuff, people would say "awwwww ya'll are so cute!! How long have ya'll been together?"

And we'd both kinda go into our "history"... met in high school ... went to prom.. blah blah blah.. but neither of us said we were "together"... and one night when the 547th person asked me that, I got tired of wondering, so I jokingly asked him later on"So, what are we anyway?" And he said we were "together"... so yea... worked out just fine.

I avoid "State of the Union" addresses at all costs...just enjoy your time together... no point in being all soap-opera-like ;)