I wish there was a way to narow down a thread to just the posts by the PNM. That way you get their story and not the extra stuff.
I know I've posted good luck statements to PNMs before. I can think of many reasons why people like to do it, the biggest being to subscribe to the thread. It is possible to just subscribe to the threads without posting something on it though. Maybe if we all did that then the threads could be kept for the Recruitment stories themselves. Then again, if nobody responded to a post, the PNM may never post again, because she does not feel validated or wanted or whatever.
I guess we're stuck between a rock and hard place. Maybe someone could come up with a standard post that says something like...
"All the GCers from many different GLOs who read your thread are silently wishing you luck with your recuritment process and are hoping that you find a chapter of a sorority (or fraternity, though that's rare on here) that you can call home. We will all be reading whatever updates you give us and cheering you on. Just becuase we do not respond, does not mean we are not interested in your story. Just check out the number of times your thread has been viewed and you will realize you have many, many people hoping you have a successful and exciting recruitment period."
What do you all think?

I was thinking one big giant "Good Luck Etc" post at the top of the recruitment stories thread would be great. People could go in there and say as many good lucks as they wanted to whoever they wanted as many times as they wanted=)

And I really wish you could filter threads by poster, that would be awesome and solve many of my GC problems. :D

I think a good rule is, well, you wouldn't just go up to some random rushee you just met and follow her around perpetually asking her "What sorority do you like best? Are you going to be an XYZ like me?!?!? Come on, which one are you going to pick?!?! Don't leave ME hanging!!!!"; so it probably isn't okay to do it on the Internet either. If Susie Rushee volunteers something like, "Today I visited ABC, XYZ, and MNO, and I had fun at all the houses, but I'm leaning towards ABC because I seem to have a lot in common with the girls," then it's fine to offer your opinions, advice, support, congrats, etc., but it's really all about letting Susie initate it herself, and not pressuring her. It's not about your need to get your rush thread fix, it's about Susie finding a group that's right for her, and getting support and encouragement along the way. Don't get me wrong, I like reading these things as much as everyone, and I love it when the stories have happy endings, but I also think that the increasing popularity of the Internet has made people a little less aware of boundaries, I mean, since it's so easy for Sally Sister from Ole Miss to post in Susie Rushee from UCF's thread, or PM her, or whatever, then Sally's more naturally inclined to do so. Oh, and another thing.....if a girl gets cross-cut, much as people want to help, it might be a good idea to confine responses to virtual hugs, or stuff like "Sorry it didn't work out," or "Have you considered looking into the BlahBlah Club, or the Whatsit Society?" It's never a good idea to give someone false hope, because in all honesty, COB/second round of rush/AI might not work out either. I guess what I'm trying to say is, good intentions are wonderful, but it's best not to let them run amok.

Yeah, really... I kind of thought that one of the points of having the nicknames for the chapters was to avoid people saying "Oh, I think you should go ________!" The nicknames take away a LOT of the pressure from the PNMs... but picking favourites, even if you don't know what chapter it is, can put it right back on.

And if I posted something like, "Ewww, don't go orange 'cause I'm really allergic to citrus and that would be horrible!" I'd get people attacking me for it, I'm sure.

I totally echo the frustration of having a hard time finding what the pnm posted. I must say that i give total props to DiamondK who has her posts in pink and everyone elses are in black. It made it easy to ignore the no so relevant posts. :)

I'd say this could use another bump :)

59! No, 62! No....57!!!
 

Just what the doctor ordered!

Who knew that alums would be crazy stalkerrific this early into rush season?

I Invite You to Take... The Rush Thread Addict Pledge

Place your right hand over your heart and repeat after me:

I (your name here) do most solemnly swear that I will not be a GC psycho-stalker at recruitment.

While I am an avowed rush threads addict, I make the following promises:

I will not promote my sorority in PNM recruitment story threads,
I will not make silly preferential comments about their choice of anyonymous pseudonymns in telling their recruitment stories,
I will not wish PNM's luck in their recruitment stories thread and ask "Any updates" every three posts,
I will not call their school or my sorority to find out where/if they bidded if they go AWOL on Greek Chat.
I will not console them with promises of COB/COR or AI if they don't get the bid they wanted.

In other words, I will remain a normal and sane person. Because I understand this is Greek Chat, this is the internet, and while I may be passionate about Greek Life, I must remain above-board and rational -- because I have a life.

This is my solemn vow.

Signed,
ADPiUCF

* Disclaimer: the above is intended to be taken lightly and to be fun. I invite you to take the "pledge!"

Pledge taken by me! :)

Moi aussi!

Although, I also vow not to use any of the statements in my signature lol. I am going to assume the PNMs who join GLOs will be somehow karmically aware of the fact I congratulate them all and welcome them to Greek life.

I took the pledge, but crossed my fingers on the good luck part! I'll try to tone it down, though. ;)

Argh. This thread needs a bump.
 

THE GOOD LUCKS.....MAKE IT STOP, DAMMIT!

It's only August. I don't know if I can take a whole season of this. :rolleyes:

Sure, OTW... good luck with that....


;)

Now I'll probably get ripped on for my opinion, but whatever it is still my opinion...


I believe the "good lucks" before recruitment are okay.

I believe that when the PNM is posting that they have had a bad day, bad experience, are confused, it's okay for gcer's to offer advice.

Your never going to stop the people from asking "any updates".

I personally believe people are taking some things way to seriously. For example, I posted, in a jockingly manner, "get the bamboo shoots" b/c I knew Jill1228 would respond in a jockingly fashion. But I think people didn't take it as a joke. Which is fine. I can't control other peoples humor. But that is all it was, a funny comment.

I'm not going to apologize for wanting to know if she got her "dream". Some PNM's, whether you know them or not you become somewhat "emotionally invested" in for many reasons. Maybe b/c you have been offering them advice. Or maybe because you went through the same thing at recruitment, whatever the case my be.

Not that I'm not agreeing with being consciencous (spelling issue right now, sorry) of the PNM's. But that is a judgement call. On some PNM's, with reading their rush story you can get a idea that they will in fact get a bid, like your 98% sure they will. So saying "hey any updates", IMPO is okay. But then there's others where the PNM is saying that they were cut heavily or they aren't enjoying themselves, whatever the case my be and one can gather with like 95% that that PNM won't get a bid. I'm not sure if I'm making sense, it's more of a judgement call.




Now, as for the rush threads, if you don't like it you don't have to read it. No one is forcing anyone to read the threads.

Doesn't it seem like a better use of time if the threads aren't read. Instead of reading them and then going to another thread to complain about what people are saying?

Feel free to disagree with me. It's not my place to say "you have to agree with me" because it's not true.

All it is, is just my opinion.

What does it matter if someone does say that? We have no idea what chapter the "stallions" represent in the first place.

In a rush thread I said "go Louis Vuitton" because I really want one of those purses, but I have absolutely no idea what chapter LV represents. So it's not like I'm doing a shameless plug for my own sorority.

No offense but this sounds like it's not okay for a bunch of GCer's to go and wish a person good luck because you don't want to "wade" through them.

If I was a PNM I'd want everyone to shut up and either answer my questions or let me tell my story, not have orgasms over the code names I chose because OH MY GOD ONCE I OWNED A PINK HAT, I'M ROOTING FOR PINK HATS!

But that's just me.

Thanks girl! Yes, y'all should know the items of torture are done in a joking manner! :) Many of y'all know I have a sick sense of humor

I just put good luck in my sig because it makes it easier :)

LOL. The orgasms part put a smile on my face (since I didn't sleep well last night and it's only 6 in the morning)

P-I-N-K,
My hat is pink and that's okay!
Come join us and you'll wear one too!
A hat that's PINK would look great ON YOU!

NOT just you! Someone should create a Recuritment Thread Disclaimer and sticky it to the top. It could explain that GCers are not rude, they just don't want to clog up your thread! If someone REALLY feels compelled to wish, encourage, or anything else PM's ARE available! I know that I'm leary of recruitment stories, just because it takes forever to find the actual story!

Listen I like to make up little songs concerning the pm's choices of names. It keeps my life interesting. So, you "Play" GC your way and I will play mine.

Right now I am going to take my pink hat and go home.

Yea, that sounds great. I don't want to be one of "THOSE CRAZY PEOPLE" that post stuff everyday on a pm's rush thread but I do want them to know that we (in GC) find their story interesting. That sounds like the way to do it, then if the pm asks a questions we can bombard them with answers. UNTIL then (besides the occasional good luck {that I can't seem to stop doing})I will just lurk and not "bother."

OK everyone is that ok with yall?

So GC=life?

Sorry toots, you look like you need a new hobby if you depend on GC rush stories to keep your life interesting.

Me thinks you're the one everyone's poking fun at.

Me thinks there are some rude moderators on greek chat.

And me thinks some people need to get a life and lay off rush threads.

And again, no one is putting a gun to your head and forcing you to read the rush threads.

You are chosing to read them and then chosing to bitch about the people who are leaving comments on them.

I chose to read rush threads...not pages of crap. Unfortunately all I get is pages of crap and very little rush thread.

Same here. Pages of "good lucks" and "OMG, why hasn't this PNM updated yet?" Seriously, let's just start a "good luck PNMs" thread, sticky it to the top, and people can leave their encouragement there. Or there is this FABULOUS thing on Greek Chat called a private message. Use that to wish luck to PNMs.

Well ME thinks that I'm not a moderator and I feel the same way, along with a bunch of non-moderators.



Hell YEAH GC is Life fo sho ya heard?

:rolleyes:



















(is this space in my post annoying? cuz that's how we feel about good luck posts.)

i really don't get why people feel the ned to incessantly beg for an update or complain b/c they haven't heard from the PNM. What part of MAYBE IT DIDN'T WORK OUT don't you understand? Maybe they're embarassed, hurt, etc. b/c their rush didn't work out. Maybe your posts begging for an update are making them feel even worse about themselves and their rush. Honestly, if I had to pick, i'd live with the good lucks over the begging for updates.

But good lucks are annoying, too ;) Not that I necessarily think it's annoying that someone's wishing someone good luck, but most of us subscribe to a thread so we can read the rush story. PMs are a wonderful thing :)

I mentioned this in the ADPi forum, but I believe that the "good lucks" and the "updates" are our way of showing the PNM that we actually do care about them.

There is actually a PNM now who thinks no one cares whether she posts or not. You know why she thinks this? Because barely anyone has said "good luck" or asked "any updates".

As much as you find it annoying, think about the PNM. Maybe they don't find it annoying. Maybe they find it encouraging that someone cares about them.

Now this is not to say that all PNM's are going to be like this, because their not.

We keep talking about how it is annoying for us to read. We haven't once thought about the PNM's.

Maybe instead of complaining about it we should be asking the PNM's "do you find this annoying?"

There are plenty of girls who started rush threads last fall and this past spring who joined a chapter and who are still active on GC, maybe we should ask them their thoughts when they were posting their rush thread.

We (and when I say we I'm talking greekchat as a whole) need to stop speaking for the PNM's.

What it comes down to is possibly putting a sticky in the recuitment thread forum. Have PNM's read it and the PNM's have to say when they start a rush thread whether they would like the "good lucks" in the thread or not. If they say no Pm me, we PM them. If they dont' say anything, fair game and good lucks in the thread.

If you PM the good lucks or post a special good luck to them in a tagged "good luck" thread, they'll know. Most of them are smart enough to look at the number of people who have read their thread, too.

co-sign

The good lucks aren't as bad, as long as the same person isn't wishing them good luck 3 times a day (which I've seen happen). Your good luck wishes don't expire after a few hours. But the begging for an update... THAT is what I have a major problem with, for the exact reason that kddani said.

Say you just went on an interview for your dream job that you thought was in the bag and didn't get it. Would you really want to face 5 voice mails each from all of your friends when you got home saying, "I just know you got it! OMG why aren't you calling me back? I NEED to know!!"??

Ladies,

Things are getting a little warm in here. I'm going to temporarily lock this thread so that some folks can cool down a bit.

And let me remind you, if you don't want to read pages upon pages of 'good luck' messages, use the search for posts by this user on a person's profile or thread posting to filter out the posts you don't want.

For example:

http://snipurl.com/h3va