So true. On a similar note, in the field I am in, I see so many of my colleagues becoming burnt out because they take on their clients problems. When I leave work I leave work. The same for my social/personal life. The only reason I raise this subject is because someone wanted me to talk to someone kind of deal. I was adamant from the beginning that they need to make their own choices.

How can one separate 10-12 hours of their life from 24 hours per day?

Just asking because I really wanna know how that is done...

I really wish I could leave my work at work... But things come up that I have to handle on weekends, often and it sucks that it cuts into my social-personal life... But that is what I chose as my career and as far as what I do, the things that I work with do not understand the meaning of time... Especially my time...

I can set aside as much time as I would like for myself--all the time I want to, but I would not be doing my job if I let it falter...

Besides, when someone's child is sick, he or she is sick, that is a personal problem that cuts in your work schedule... How can one reconcile the two?

That is why knowing your limitations and having it straightened out while you are single works well before you are in a relationship...

Well beyond the cognitive adjustments, the most important thing might be to control your stress levels. Its wonderful to have better coping mechanisms but its even better to have preventive maintainence to keep yourself from being overwhelmed.

You can be the most reasonable person in the world but if your nervous system is overloaded its really hard to function well . . or pleasantly.

So starting with special supplements like DHA, watching blood sugar through diet, some relaxation training, and excercise is essential before even considering what specifically might be bothering you.

ETA: Also getting enough sleep is key.

I like it when she's attached...to my bed post.

Sometimes i look back and think how much room I had in my bed and how fun it was to sprawl out and have the whole bed to myself......being single has it's advantages.

But it's warmer when you have someone to cuddle with...

But he lives in Florida. When I'm at home in Munchkinland, I sleep ALONE, with fans and A/C. The Mr. stays in one of the guest rooms 'cause it's too hot to cuddle.

Okay, good point. But you can crank the AC so that you can cuddle!

Not everyone likes to cuddle. My woman likes to turn on her side...and she snores sometimes. And every once in awhile she has bad dreams.....she tosses and turns in her sleep when she has a bad dream. Recently she woke me up while she was still sleeping. When she woke me and I realized she was having a dream....I woke her up and was like " Baby, wake the fuck up! You're having a bad dream." Instead of waking up.....she hit me. It was actually pretty funny. She's this tiny thing and she's swinging in her dreams. But in real life, she's the last chick you'd think would swing.


Anyhow, I miss my space in bed sometimes.....

I love being unattached. I sleep diagonally on my queen size bed. I don't know if I could adjust to dealing with someone else.

Heated water beds are the answer to keeping warm.

I enjoy my independence so much and I am getting very set in my ways. I don't think I could tolerate another adult living in my house. I love that I know where everything is, because it is right where I put it. I no longer have to clean whiskers out of the sink (that are stuck to toothpaste) because HE never rinsed the sink after his morning hygiene routine. I like that if I left a piece of pizza in the fridge for lunch the next day, it's still there when I pack my lunch in the morning. I have control of the "clicker" and watch whatever I want on tv, whenever I want. I can hit the snooze as many times as I want. I can fall asleep with the TV on.

The only thing I miss about being married is the financial security. But, then again, my money is my money and I get to choose what I spend it on, even if there is less of it.

Dee