Whoa! Who am I judging? I never said people who have sex on the first date are bad or evil. I said it sets a precedent that could become a problem later in the relationship.

I would never have sex on a first date, even if the guy and I already knew each other or were friends. I'm not saying that I'd be a cocktease or play games, but in my opinion sex is something I want to build up to. The emotional and mental intimacy has to be there or else sex is no fun.

No. There is no such thing as a purely platonic relationship. We are animals and regardless of what we think we know, we will have some sort of sexual attraction to friends and mates.

If you can establish yourself in an emotional relationship before establishing the sexual aspect, your relationship will only be stronger for it.

*Bump*

And might I add that James' location (A pimple on the ass of a demon in the 8th circle of hell . . aka: NJ) is a bit frightening!! LOL!

i rolled my virtual eyes b/c i thought the joke was a little weak. that's all dude







I'm not pretending it doesn't exist - quite the contrary, I'm pointing out what type of behavior leads to it, and why i don't think it's cool to 'excuse' it.

I say, do it on the first date if you're down, if you're building or have other teasery up your sleeve - sweet, do you. but i think it's perfectly normal, natural, and healthy to want to get down the first date.

sorry.

i've done it. i never thought it was right but thats sure how my first time was.

i've got mixed feelings about it i guess...if youre in it just for the sex then hell go for it cause you might not get the chance again if he's that hot.

then again...if you like him a lot and want him to respect you...dont put out that first time...now dont seem like the woman that talks to jr high kids about "worth the wait" you just need to earn some respect and build up some sexual frustration :D thats always a plus...