I have thought about this long and hard...

I have been around a number of women who expressed interest in XYZ sorority, and I have found myself in some of the most awkward positions because some people THOUGHT I was well connected. Even though I may know certain people I have to work hard to obtain information for myself. Key word :WORK HARD. So if the person or persons that I affiliate myself with are not willing to "work" then I won't share a dern thing!
SF, some people try to maneuver information out of you because of sheer laziness. ( Just read DeRe's post, DST thread)
Discretion is the key. You can't tell everybody everything. If it was that easy then it would be an open membership to anybody. Finding the information is the fun part! Sharing experiences and bonding with other women have similar intrests as yourself (i.e. gaining a degree, career,etc.) is what's more important than just your whole conversation being XYZ!
Beware of people who do that (talk about XYZ everytime you see
them) she may be the person to NOT share info with. just my .02 cents.

I FINALLY FOUND THAT TODAY. DAMN IT FEELS GOOD TO LOOK HARD FOR INFO AND THEN GET IT;)


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Greetings Everyone,

I have the same PROBLEM. The majority of my friends (including myself) are interested in Alpha Kappa Alpha. The difference between them and myself is, most of them are legacys and I am not. I am very SERIOUS and DETERMINED, to become a member of this great organization. I too have all available info on the organization and the prospective chapter. I too have done extensive research, (read 2 books) I too have a binder full of research, the greek alphabet, and basically all the info I need/have access to(according to the chapter's graduate advisor), at this point in my quest. I ALWAYS make my personal resources available to my friends. I am always the one offereing information about activities and events hosted by the chapter on our campus. In my eyes, there is nothing wrong with helping THOSE WHO TRULY are as serious as you are. I have 1 friend, who is as serious about Alpha Kappa Alpha as I am(that isn't a legacy). This is the only person who I now offer ALL info to. In fact we constantly share and update info. When people are just asking because thier curious and don't have any intentions of pursuing the sister hood, or who you don't feel are AS SERIOUS as you, when it comes to Alpha Kappa Alpha, then I think you need to let them search on thier own. If you do share with others, who are not as serious as you, and by some fluke and accident they get chosen, it will be because of the sweat off your back and they will not truly be able to appreciate it because they didn't do the extensive research and go through the process that a true aspirant has to endure.

I'm interested in another sorority but I would like to reply.

As far as sharing information with other sisterfriends, for me it depends on the person who is asking for information. I am a really good judge of character. I can tell when another sisterfriend is only looking for the latest "scoop" and information. Especially at my school, it is CRAZY! Folks are running around like chickens with their heads cut off! I know when a person is truly dedicated, discrete, humble, and serious about joining XYZ sorority like I am! So I am more than willing to share and compare information with them. Now, if it’s a person that only calls me or says hello when they need something forget about it!

In regards to the "What is they get in and you don't" argument, I would honestly feel that was NOT my time yet. I'm a strong believer in everything happens for a reason. I would get the depression, crying and hurt out of my system, dust myself off and SIMPLY TRY AGAIN!

Stay strong my fellow sisterfriends!!:D

Hey DEvynSince84, I completely agree!!

I agree!!!
 

I felp compelled to reply to this thread...I have been interested in this illustrious (forgive me if I spelled that wrong) sorority since I was a child...and I have been researching and putting together information since my sophomore year in high school...when I got to college I observed the members and this only confirmed what my decision

In regards to the question, I only have one friend that one friend that is also a SF for Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorortiy, Inc. and several others that are interested in other sororities...The other interested SF and I talk about events that are going on on campus regarding the sorority but not information wise...If I find something, I direct her to it but I don't give it straight to her...If I did that then she would look to me for everything and , then if we got accepted, how would she be expected to hold up her end of the process?

There are only a small group of people that know I am even interested (mom, grandmother, three very, very close friends (the other interested SF included)) and I know that they are just as discreet as me....Thank everyone for your opinions...Some of us interested SF (myself included) really do take your comments to heart.

Love Always,
**Jazadah**