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Originally posted by ZTAngel
I'm the same way! I've only seriously dated one Jewish guy and he turned out to be a real loser. The rest of the Jewish guys I've met have only wanted a hook up. The only guys that I've been serious with have been either Protestant or Catholic. I, too, would have liked to have met a "nice Jewish boy" but unfortunately, the ones I met weren't "nice". ;)
In high school, I joined BBYO and in college I joined our Jewish Greeks organization but I just didn't find any nice Jewish boys. :(
I think of it this way: as long as you meet a nice Christian guy who doesn't mind that you want to teach your children about Judaism, than it's all good.
Some of my Jewish guy friends have even gone as far as to say they'll only date an Ashkenazi Jewish girl. ????? why? I'm half Sephardic and half Ashkenazi so I guess that means I'm off their list. :rolleyes:

I think you can have happy marriages with people of different religions, but only if both are willing to work for it and make some compromises. My aunt is Catholic. Her husband is a Muslim. Her 2 boys go to a Catholic school, but they also go to religious services at the Mosque. I think it's great that they are exposed to both religions.
My aunt does not participate in the Islamic religious services, no celebrate Islamic holy days. She does however encourgae her husband to maintain his faith if that's what he wants.
So, 2 interfaith marriages/relationships can work, but only if you want them too.

I don't have problems dating outside of my race as long as we can relate to each other. It doesn't matter if they're asian, white, hispanic, whatever...as long as they were raised like me.

On the other hand, I'm picky when it comes to religion.

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Originally posted by AlphaFrog
Nowadays, in the Catholic Church, you can marry whomever you want to marry in the church...athiest, Jewish, muslim, whatever....you just have to go through the classes (like you would if you were both Catholic) and you have to promise to raise your kids Catholic (I guess my mom's going to Catholic hell, caz that's what her and my Lutheran dad did...and I'm sure not Catholic...but I did go to highschool at a Catholic school.)

Oh I did not know that, I always thought they both had to be Catholic, the only thing my church says that to be married in that church one of the memebers has to be actives for X amount of time and any questions go to the priest. I am not going to go just to see, since I am not getting married (yet)

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Originally posted by ZTAngel
I'm actually quite aware of the difference between the two cultures. My mothers side of her family still speaks Spanish and the food we eat when we get together at my mother's families place is completely different than my father's. I know the history of the Sephardic Jews; I know all about my family in Spain and their experiences during the Inquisition and their movement to Turkey and Morocco.
I'm also very aware of the difference between the Sephardic Jew religious ceremonies vs. that of the Ashkenazic having experienced both.
I don't think I'm being close-minded. I grew up in a family where the two cultures were mixed and there was never a problem. I always felt that if you're Jewish, than you're Jewish and just could never understand why there's almost a preference in our own religion. We deal with so much predjudice from others only to create a bias within ourselves but this is way off topic from the intention of the thread.
Maybe in religious aspects such as Orthodox vs. Reform but I just never thought the difference between being Ashkenazic and Sephardic was so drastic that it meant you would only date one or the other. If that makes me ignorant, than so be it.

And I'm sorry if you're wrong. You're ignorant because you're questioning someone else's beliefs and not accepting their religious beliefs. And more Sephardics are NOT spaniards. There is no bias - it is simply the fact that religion separates the two in a very difficult way and you seem to think it's culture because that is what YOU care for. I'm not going to get into this further because you don't seem to understand and don't want to understand but the religious aspect is deeply rooted and extends into things like what you can eat to Kabbalistic beliefs that are so incredibly complex that they've been discussed for hundreds of years.

-Rudey

I've dated and been with every race but a black woman. I'd be very open to one and am waiting on an Ethiopian girl to come serenade me any day now.

-Rudey

I have no problem dating someone outside my race...hell, I am married to someone outside my race (I am Black and he is White).

Well then again, he is not outside my race...we are all HUMAN!

As far as religion, I am not really religious...more like agnostic (I grew up Catholic though). My husband is atheist (much to his mother's dismay...she is still in denial!) :)

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Originally posted by Jill1228
Well then again, he is not outside my race...we are all HUMAN!

I'm with you on this. I have no "racial" hang-ups. BUT, I am strictly Christian and have attempted relationships with non-Protestant, non-Christian men and those did NOT work out!

:p J

I have no problem seriously dating someone who isn't my race. It hasn't been a problem for me since I started dating in the first place...

I would, however, not consider marriage to someone of a different religion. I'm an atheist, and it would be very difficult for me to build a future with someone who had a completely different outlook.

Race isn't an issue for me. I am a mut to begin with! (English, Spanish, Filipino)
As for religion, I would love to marry a Catholic. Being Catholic is a huge part of me and I would want to share it with my husband.

I would date a person of any race -- that's never been an issue for me. I would not, however, date someone who is more religious than I am, and I'm not religious aside from an interest in Buddhism and Taoism.

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Originally posted by Rudey
I'd be very open to one and am waiting on an Ethiopian girl to come serenade me any day now.

Dude, there was a co-worker of mine who is half Ethiopian and half Serbian. She is gorgeous.

Oh yeah, don't care much about religion or race, as long as we are in the same wavelength in a cosmic kind of way and have good conversation at any given time.

I don't think I would have a problem dating someone who is of a different race than me... I never have, so I wouldn't know if it's a problem. I get hung up too easily on tall skinny blondes. ;)

Different religion is definitely a problem. The man I marry doesn't even have to be as strong of a Christian as I am, just as long as he is one.

I'm catholic, she's extremely catholic. Her family even more so. Half of my family isnt catholic anymore......it does strike up a debate/religious argument when she's not around.