Yeah, I want news...I kicked my husband off the computer so I can check to see if there is news...It is 12:37 in Texas now...ya shoulda heard something by now! :D

We are a bunch of impatient hoochies huh? :D

Ok! I'm kind of disappointed. The house that I liked the most (overall: sisterhood, friendship, scholarship, philanthropies, social) has not contacted me. I don't know if I should ask why or not! It's also COB week, so should I get in touch with someone to let them 're-evaluate' me or something??

On the other hand:
I received a bid from the following houses:
The Chickens
The Cows
The Pigs

So, 3 outta 4 ain't bad! I enjoyed 2 of the 3 ---I felt more comfortable there... but I felt the most at home with the sheep! I told the 3 that did extend bids, that I would have to think about my decision, and that I would get back to them!

Wow! That's awesome hun though--- 3 bids!

wow 3 bids... I am sure if you are not positive on one you can talk to them and meet more girls to tell you know... or you can meet the girls that wold be in your class.


Concrats.

Wow. Congratulations on getting 3 bids.

As to whether or not you should keep trying with the sheep, I would say to let it go. One of two things has happened with this group.

1. They liked you, but don't have enough open spaces to offer you a bid.

2. For whatever reason, they don't think you are a good fit with their chapter.

Which ever reason it is that they didn't give you a bid last night, its unlikely that it will change this week. What you do have is bids from 2 houses that you liked and were comfortable at, who liked you enough to ask you to be their sister.

Excellent advice BetaRose. lil_princess, I would definetly say let go of the group you liked the most and take a good look at the ones you recieved bids from, especially the two where you were comfortable.

I've seen so many women in this situation, and 99% of the time, if they're open minded and accept the bid to their second choice sorority, they still end up absolutely loving it more than anything, and later on looking back at their rush experience and thinking "maybe I wouldn't have been such a good fit for sheep after all..."

I am so happy for you that, even though you're a little disappointed, you still have so many choices!! Congrats and keep us posted!

3 bids is wonderful! Congrats on that. :D

BetaRose gives good advice...focus on the three that gave you the bids...you do have some great choices!

Congratulations on receiving three bids! That's quite the offer. ;)

Hell yeah, 3 out of 4 is great. I can't wait till you tell us which one will be home!

Well, I've made one decision so far: I declined my bid to the Chickens. I didn't really get that much information about them, and therefore, I had nothing to base my opionions on. So, now it's the Pigs and the Cows, possibly can still do COB with the sheep, waiting for the answer on that one. I'm going to a COB party(even though I already was offered a bid) tonight with the Cows. So, maybe I can get a little more time with them and really get to know the girls!

Good for you, atleast you know who you do not want to be with, and who knows maybe sheep may now have room for you.


I am glad you are giving the other two a chance.

Did your next night go well with the Pigs? I had the impression that you weren't too interested in them from your first impression.

Yes, last night we played games at the pig house, it really helped break the ice and it was really laid back. It was fun, but I'm still unsure. There were a few girls that just talked and talked and talked about everything and so they were pretty cool, and I learned so much about them. I'm trying to go to as much as possible with the remaining houses, to get a better feel of what they are about.

you are totally successful... enjoy that.
now make the list with goods and bads on either side of the paper and see who comes out on top and then look to your heart.
congrats...

Ok, I know the house that you liked the most (and I know what one it was) did not extend a bid. That sucks.

HOWEVER, you got 3 bids. One you knew you would not feel at home with...you declined...that is all good. You have the upper hand here!

But you have 2 that you like and that really want you. I would weigh the pros and cons of the 2 groups that you like and take it and run with it. Who knows, maybe it happened for a reason. The grass is not always greener. You might pick one of these groups and later say "why was I trippin' over the group that didn't extend me a bid?"

Also, I am not going to try to guess what houses were which. If anyone does it, I would suggest it be done by PM. Because if you say something that can be construed "bad" about a GLO, it will come bite you in the butt later!

Good luck sweetie and we can't wait to hear where your home is.


Sorry if I sound spacey...I need caffeine! :D

Edited for spelling errors

This is so exciting! You have done very well and I have a feeling that you will find a perfect home!

I couldn't agree more. A pro/con list is the ONLY way to go. I do them for EVERYTHING. Yes, I've even used one on a relationship once (THAT should have been a clue right there....lol).

Way to go though!

Ok, I've done the whole pros and cons thing and they ARE still EQUAL!! I went to a COB party last night to see if that would make any difference in my decision. Now I have to get together with the other one to see how they interact with me and others outside of the 'rush' scene! We will see... I mean I do have one whole academic calendar year to sign the bid... although, I would really hate to leave them hanging like that, I'm just not sure what I need to do! Now I'm more stressed out than EVER!

Do you have a neutral, objective friend to talk to? I think that would help

Well, I have some bad news. A very dear friend of mine has been sick for a while, and has slowly gotten worse. She isn't expected to get any better and was given about 3 months! It absolutely devasted me to find this out and to realize that we don't have much time left together. I've decided to wait until Fall to start my new member period with a sorority, and spend most of my time with her. I know you guys really wanted to know who I would choose, but right now, this has to come first.
Thank you guys for all of your support!

oh wow, i am so sorry. it is very cool that you are willing to put what you really want on hold for your friend. at least you have a year with your bids. congrats on your success and good luck with your decision.

Okay, I hate to the be bearer of bad news, but I am trying to be helpful...

If you don't want to pledge now, that is understandable (admirable), but know what your options are. Your bids may NOT be good for a year if the groups you are interested hit quota/total in fall rush.

Just be sure you clarify the school's and group's policies before you make a final decision.

So sorry to hear that your friend is ill. I agree with what DeltaBetaBaby said....if you want to pledge in the fall, talk with the greek adviser and the group you are interested in. You may be able to officially accept your bid now with the intention to begin the pledge process in the fall, or you may have to wait and offically accept at the start of the fall semester.

I don't know what your campus greek system is like....if they have enough women graduate in May, they may have room to add you to the fall NM class. Some campuses kind of "cancel" COB bids until after Fall Recruitment (That sounds bad...I don't mean cancel in a bad way...I mean they count fall bids toward quota/total first, then add in the COB bids. If they get to total before the COB bids are counted, then that's it. No room. Hope that made some sense....) On some campuses it's no big deal. You can start pledging when you want.

In any case, find out all of your options. Enjoy spending time with your friend...and good luck in both situations. Stick around and keep us updated!

PsychTau

I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Please keep us updated on her situation. We care.

Check out your options with the greek life person. This may further help you decide what to do next.

I just talked to my Rho Chi, and she said that it was perfectly fine to wait until fall. She encouraged me to go to the houses during this semester to get a feel for how a new member semester is going to be. She also said that if I needed to I could go through formal recruitment, to get a better understanding of each sorority. I just need to let them know that I'm still considering their bid, I just don't have enough information to make a lifelong commitment. She totally understood about my friend as well. So, maybe I will get my happy ending after all. I'm also going to use this semester to get my grades back up to a 3.0+, then if I still wanted to go through during the fall, I might even get another bid from the house that didn't give me one last week. I have a lot on my plate right now, but I know that I will have to strive to my best ability, if I want to succeed in a sorority and in life.

Good luck lil_princess05...I know you'll make the right decision.

And good thoughts going out to your friend...

Aww, hon, I'm soooo so sorry. :( That's the best decision you could have made. You can pledge a sorority next year, no biggie. That's sweet of you to devote so much time to your friend. I'm sorry to hear that though. :(

**hugs**

Good deal. Do the orgs know why you are not accepting a bid at this time? If you never tell them they might think you are totally not interested, which isn't the case. You don't have to go into great detail, but a small explanation may help.

Good luck and stick around!! Never know what kind of excitement you'll see on GC!

PsychTau

Sorry to hear about your friend http://www.click-smilies.de/sammlung...smiley-032.gif

Keep us posted

aww!!! so cute. i love it!!

Good luck, lil_princess! You're making some tough decisions, but they sound like they're very good ones.

congrats on taking the high road. hopefully things should work out for you.

This may sound silly... but if you feel weird about talking to the glos about why you are leaving (verbally) then a really nice Thank You note is a great way to do it. It is something that says two things... one that you have manners and two that you want them to remember you because not too many people send little notes. It is also something tangable that could be put in a file and give you the leg up next fall! It is just an idea.

I second this! I think that would be a great idea...classy and memorable...

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend...I know in the long run you will look back and know that you will have made the right decision.

UPDATE!!
My friend and I had a very long conversation last night and she told me that she did not want me to wait until the Fall to go through pledgeship.
She is doing so well! The news hasn't broken her down one bit, still as bubbly as ever!
So, one that note, I decided to accept my bid from....
Well, I'm not going to say until everyone has signed it and dotted all their i's and crossed all their t's!
:)
But I definitely will be HAPPY!! :)
Hopefully, this will be done tomorrow or Monday! YAY!

AWESOME!

Can't wait to find out!

congrats already...
things have a way of working themselves out.

That's wonderful!!! Don't make us wait too long. I am so excited for you! Welcome to Greek Life and I hope your sorority experience is everything you have hoped for.