That's deep. I'm glad to know that you've turned that corner though and are living a much better life because of it. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Well said, Nikki. I too wish I had made some different choices in life, but I wonder if I would be right here, right now, if I had not made those choices?? Only God knows, but I certainly don't want to be like Jonah and have to go through the belly of a whale to get right where God wanted me to be in the first place!!

Some of my regrets..

That I did not take more chances in life for fear of failure, but I thank GOD for protecting me from dangers seen and unseen.

That I did not study harder/concentrate on my GPA in undergrad, but I thank GOD for giving me the opportunity to get an education through parents who sacrificed for me!

That I have not managed my money as well as I could, so my debt to income ratio ends up being too high, but I thank GOD for showing me that when times are tough He is Johovah-Jireh (a provider!)

Not getting serious about GOd earlier, but I thank Him for accepting me now, just the way I am!!

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**speechless**

http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif I hear a testimony in your post! Praise ye the Lord for bringing you through so that he can get the GLORY!!!! That's the real point of reflection....so that you can see how God blessed ya!



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I will bless the Lord at ALL times His praise shall continually be in my mouth. (Psalms 34:1, KJV)

I feel ya, those are two of my regrets too.

My regrets (Get ready, yall, this is gonna be a rough ride):

I regret running up $38,000 worth of debt and having to file for Chapter 7.

I regret losing my innocence to an older woman who I later found out was a crack addict and a prostitute.

I regret marrying a woman who only wanted me for my "status".

I regret not finding a church that I felt I was really getting God's anoiting and as a result wasted 8 years of my life "settling" for a church and as a result "playing church"

I regret spending 12 years of my life as a lust-crazed pornography addict (That is one runaway train you do NOT want to get on, I'm keepin' it real)!!!

I regret all the women I used and corrupted just to get what I wanted (Thank God there wasn't many).

I regret wasting so many years in the accounting field only now to find out I don't want to do accounting anymore.

I regret once having such low self-esteem that I hated myself b/c I was "different", and almost took my own life as a result.

I regret not giving the Lord my life from day one so he could have made me an ultimate child of God as of today. (But I'm making up for lost time rather quickly, Amen?) http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Those are the one I have.

B Back later.
RM

WOW http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif



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Peace
KL

I needed to get this off my chest before I went to sleep. This has been on my mind since AKA2D'91 posted this thread. *sigh*

I regret that I didn't ask my parents (and grandparents, for that matter) more questions while they were alive. I have so many questions, and I mean simple ones. I want to know how old my parents were when they lost their virginity. I want to know about my mother's first love. How did she get over him. I want to know how and why they made some of the decisions that they did. I never realized just how wise they were, and how much I could gain from them. I just wish I had talked to them more. But you know how teenagers are... *sigh* Hindsight.... I just wish that they could see me as an adult, as a woman. I wonder if they would be proud. I have so many unanswered questions.

Never take for granted the time you have with anyone. Tomorrow is not promised. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

I always useto say that i would turn back the hands of time, but I now know that God put it there for me for a reason...Peaople will ask me if I think my life would be easier if I didn't have my son. andd you know what you would have to rip him out of my dead arms for me to ever let him go. I mean if you sit down and look at things, you will see that everything enterrelates to God's plan.. I f I would have never had my son, I would have went farther away to svhool and I would have probably never realized that I wanted to be a social worker rather than a lawyer. I would also not know a thing about unconditional love, I would not be here to help my little sister out. I wouldn't have probably even ever been a SGRho. I can't imagine my life with out these things

Another story that comes to mind is .......last year I had a car accident and couldn't afford to get my car fixed, so I eneded up spending a lot of time at my best friends home,because he lived right by school and my job, well, during this summer I realized that I was stupid for never realizing what was right in front of me and that I had found someone who I was completely in love with ho was also my friend, if I had not been without a car, we would not be celebrating 6 wonderful months tommorrow.

Ok that's all, but I could go on and on..just remeber that God doesn't make any mistakes, so don't try to correct th infalliable

What is the UofA ?

UofA stands for the University of Alabama...

I regret.......

not taking school more seriously in highschool

not running track (boy did I have the potential)

quiting basketball. (i was MVP in highschool) but i might play again!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

not being a "nerd" in highschool. they have it a lot easier in college. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

falling in love and getting my heart broken into a billion pieces. (still recouping, still in love) http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

not developing a stronger relationship with GOD sooner

so far there aren't too many things that i regret (thank GOD)

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"I don't know. you be the judge."
~Hits

I forgot one. I regret not going to an HBCU.

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"I don't know. you be the judge."
~Hits

THERE'S NOTHING LIKE A GOOD OLE HBCU! One of the BEST choices I EVER made! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

I regret not attending College straight out of high school like my mother suggested... I would be finished by now!
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Regrets. . .
 

. . .being with my boyfriend for the past four years

. . .not going away to school

. . .credit cards

. . .not being able to thank my grandmother for all that she did for me

. . .not being able to have my grandmother here to see me cross the stage at graduation next month :(

Do I have enough time to post them all?
 

Man, I have a grocery list of things, but I will only post the main ones:

1. Not telling my family and friends EVERYDAY that I love them. Now, my grandparents, whom I ADORE, and a few friends have gone home and I am stuck CRAVING more time with them.

2. Not attending an HBCU

3. Not going to law school straight from undergrad

4. Not utilizing that FREE gym at school when I had ALL of that spare time in college. At least I wouldn't be tsressing out about getting in shape now. I should have gotten off my tail and done what I had to do....

5. Letting this one particular guy go. I wasn't interested when I should have been and when I finally became interested, it was too late. Now, I wish that I could find out where he is so that I could see what's up. I haven't talked to him in about two years. The last time I spoke to him, he was in Germany (he's a Marine). Now, I don't know if he's fighting the war or what. I don't know if he's married. We only had one mutual friend and I never see him to ask about the guy. Why do I have this dilemma.....?:confused: :confused:

I'll stop there because my heart is feeling heavy.... Send some shouts up for me, y'all!

Ideal08, you emotionally moved me with your post. I am hopeful that you see them again in heaven.

I regret not attending an Historically Black University. That's where my parents should have spent their $$$.

I regret that I didn't take some time off after high school. I only went off to college b/c it was what my parents expected me to do. I was near the top of my class in school and I was in the gifted and talented program all through my 12 years in school. I was burned out. I got so tired of being the academic star all the time and doing what everyone expected of me. I regret that I didn't enjoy high school more. Because I was made to study all the time and go to church everytime the door was open (remember that Steve Harvey joke about church? That was true for me!), I missed out on normal teenage things like dating, having and hanging out with friends, going to the prom, etc. So when I got to college, I lost my dayum mind. I drank, partied, had sex all the time, and flunked out. Then I got pregnant. I love my son, but I wish I didn't have him at 19. :(

While I regret having my son at such a young age, his birth was the catalyst for a lot of things in my life. I stopped drinking, partying, and having indiscriminatory sex. I got up enough courage to break away from my family's oppressive religious beliefs and my hometown's small-minded mentalities to come to Michigan where I didn't know a single soul and made a life for myself. I will never regret that for a single moment.

Right now though, I regret that I didn't get a teaching certificate along with my social work degree in undergrad b/c now with the budget crisis in the social services sector, social workers are not in demand as much as they used to be. I have a job as a direct care worker at a youth runaway shelter, but it does not pay much or provide benefits. I just got passed over for a counseling position b/c I haven't been at the agency long enough and it will be a while before another slot opens. So now I'm seriously considering going back and getting a 2nd bachelors in education and THEN going back to grad school to finish my MSW. Hopefully, this will work out. ;)

I regret all the times I let people influence my decisions!
I regret trusting some people.
I regret ever meeting some people.
I regret all the times I let the way other people act make me feel insecure.
I definitely regret credit cards!

I regret loosing touch with some special people I've known over the years. I'm trying to fix that one!

i don't regret a lot of things, but....

i most definitely regret wasting my time with a woman who wasn't deserving of the time and effort i put into her and who wasn't strong enough to let me know who she felt. but i guess you can call that shit a learning experience.

Learning Experiences...
 

I don't have regrets, I have learning experiences because everything I have been through has been to TEACH me something and to prepare me for what my FUTURE is to become.

1. I learned to appreciate the business that I have because not everyone is lucky enough to start one.

2. I learned to take my talent (writing) seriously and to use my major (Business) to enhance it.

3. I cut up one of my credit cards and I will be working the rest of this year to pay off the debt on my cards (about $3000) so they don't sky rocket.

4. I learned that ABC can wait until I am ready for it and it is ready for me (has to be a mutual feeling).

And finally, I have set the following goals for my to do list to go along with my learning experiences...

1. To keep my business alive through other means... even if that just means paying the $300 to keep up the paper work every year.

2. Write for as many sites (including this one) as I can so I can get better every day because besides teaching, this is what I was meant to do.

3. To be debt free by the end of 2003 (I called it so it should be mine right?)

4. To build on the friendships that I have with the one or two members of ABC that I am cool with on campus and to support ALL OF THE GREEKS on my yard at their events because they have definitely shown alot of love and respect for me... even if they do know my business :o

I would have tried something, failed miserably @ it, and learned from that experience. That way, I would not be so afraid of failure now, that I don't try anything.

I would have realized that Stoicism is not necessarily a virtue.

I would have been a pimp.

I regret not attending a co-ed high school. (I attended an excellent college-prep program at an all-girl high school, despite my aunt's insistence that I "needed the exposure.") At the time, my mother and I could only see the partial scholarship I received. Of course, Auntie was right. While I was academically ready when I got to college, I was definitely not ready for the menfolk, and out of innocence (or ignorance) I made a series of little mistakes that culminated in one huge mistake in my junior year.

For me...
 

I've always said I would never regret anything...but changing some things oh I know some things that I would change-but I would repeat again just because they've mad me who I am...

1. Believing one person alone can hold a relationship together
2. Man school is kicking my butt-I regret not being serious in the first place
3. Not choosing a better school when I first went to my undergrad.
4. Been there to tell my grandfather's wife I loved her before she died
5. Cutting my hair (I miss you my beautiful tresses)

If I could go back I would change a couple of things, I would:

1) take my UG studies more seriously by realizing my true potential

2) have ignored the advice of people and had a double-major

3) built a stronger relationship with my family

4) have waited for my boyfriend to drop his baggage before starting a relationship with him

5) never have let my best friend walk out of my life

6) spend more time caring for and pampering myself

I regret:

1.Choosing a school hated...to please my dad.
2.Choosing a major I hated...to please my dad.
3.Avoid seeing certain guys...to please my dad.
4.Seeing a few guys I disliked...to please my dad.
5.Walking away from greek life...to please my dad.
6.Denying many other wants and needs...to please my dad.
7.Not realizing earlier that it is almost impossible to please him.
8.Letting my maternal grandmother put serious guilt trips on me, because I wanted to seek some independence from her. And believing that my world will fall apart, without her help and CONTROL.