Inquisitive |
12-26-2000 07:05 PM |
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Originally posted by novella000:
whew!! Good Lord help us! I am REALLY shaking my head at some of these posts!! Well... pull up a chair, I feel the need to vent!!!
My ex (or as my friends and family call him "The Crazy One") and I had a VERY ROCKY 10 or 11 months together. Our families were extremely close and so EVERYONE was really happy when we got together... One of his parents passed and shortly thereafter, we got together. He was helping me out a lot, as I am a single mom (not his child), & wanted us to be married -- almost from the jump. I felt swept off my feet, he helped with bills, spent time with my child, & basically did everything he was 'supposed' to do.
I was so happy. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif
He loved to spend time with me, wanted me to be happy, sacrificed things of himself... He did not work, but had plenty of money from investments and insurance. Since he had a lot of free time & I am a full time EVERYTHING, mom, student, worker (volunteer, & your standard Mon. through Fri.9-to-5). I am already in my profession, so missing work is not an option for me (I don't work at McDonald's). I have serious responsibilities & it is BAAAD if I miss a day unscheduled. Well, he ALWAYS wanted me to call in, miss class, spend time with him AND my son on days I kinda needed time alone to bond with my not-yet-one-year-old. This became a problem for him - that I am such a BUSY woman.
The things he had once admired about me (my dedication, level of personal success, independence, etc.) became a HUGE problem; I couldn't do what he wanted WHEN he wanted. He began accusing me of all kinds of things (cheating, lying, stealing), waiting for me outside my job, calling me asking about background noises (dropped spoon, dishwasher, vacuum), asking me where I REALLY was when he'd called me at home. If I was at work, he wanted me to answer every time he called - meeting or no meeting. We would fight, he'd apologize, and we'd try to move on… This went on for about 8 months - he got increasingly possessive & demanding - before we started the break-up/get-back-together-cycle… He held things over my head (i.e. the shoes he gave my son for his B-day, the $10 he gave me to put in my gas tank, the $250 for my car note, etc.) I never asked him for anything, so I stopped taking. I figured he was troubled b/c losing one of your parents can cause major emotional issues… I didn't want to rock his boat even more. I thought I could stick it out and he would be okay after he got to a point where he could deal with it. Instead he said I was trying to shut him out and we fought even more, that I must be getting $$ from another man and I didn't love him.
I KNEW IT WAS OVER WHEN...
I was over his house and my company-furnished cell phone became the subject for an argument. He looked in my phone and started calling numbers (of co-workers) accusing me of cheating with these people.
He made me strip, stand in his garage naked http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/redface.gif (it was cold as hell outside too) while he repeated obscenities to me. He held a gun in plain view, and doused the crotch of my pants with Listerine. He didn't give me my underwear back so when I did get my clothes back on (I only got my pants b/c he tore my shirt, glasses, and underwear up) things weren't so comfortable for me down there. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/redface.gif We fought over my car keys b/c he insisted on driving "the whore" (as I was called) home. He wanted to drive me home persoanlly so that I wouldn't go over my "other man's" house and tell him what had just happened to me...
It might've been nice if I'd had another man to call... so he could beat my ex's a%%!
Needless to say - I did not have any misty-fuzzy-sweet-candy-coated-memories of my ex this Christmas. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif
Ohhh drama. Never again. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif
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Huuuum, I understand that brotha man was financially set so to speak because of his investments and all so therefore he didn't really have to work. But Damn seems like he had a little bit too much time on his hands. Perhaps he should've gotton a lil side job just for the hell of it or maybe even gotton into some volunteering in his community. Something, anything to get his nose out of you you know what! Geees http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif
NO MAN (WOMAN) IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO IS WOULDN'T MAKE YOU CRY!
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